School Tuition: Adult Child
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College Tuition: Whose Responsibility Is It?
Asked by A.B. from Pittsburgh
on August 7, 2011
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I have thoughts on pros and cons of both sides to this, but I'm very curious as to what your thoughts are.
* Provided college is the right choice for your child, th...
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- Here's the deal my parents made with my brothers and me. They paid our tuition, but we only had four years. Anything beyond four years had to come out of our pocket. I...
- I think if parents are able to help their children with college or after-school training tuition, then that's awesome, but there's nothing wrong with a kid having to c...
- If any of our children want a college degree, we believe it should be done as cheaply, quickly and as close to home as possible. The first two years are high school re...
My 18 Year Old Daughter Moved in with Her Boyfriend
Asked by S.H. from Washington DC
on November 29, 2010
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.Our daughter moved in with her boyfriend. She was still going to college - not sure if she will finish this semester. We helped buy a car for her with the agreement...
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- I agree that it's probably a good idea, for her to pay for her own things. However, I don't agree with the manner in which you chose to approach this. It doesn't soun...
- Understandably, you don't like her choices, but this choice is going to turn out 1 of two ways: 1.) this guy is the best thing that ever happened to her and they live ...
- My kids are not yet this age - but the oldest is a teen and I can see the tricky stuff is already coming up and I don't think there's ever a perfect way to deal with a...
Soon to Be Adult Daughter Needs to Grow Up
Asked by V.M. from New York
on August 2, 2008
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I need help coming up with a way to explain to my daughter who will be 21 in a few days, that it is time for her to grow up. She is unemployed and while she says she ...
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- A tough transition I'm sure. I haven't been there yet with my kids, but I remember what my mom did with me. She told me that I couldn't live at home anymore, but tha...
- I was quite independant and moved out of my parents' house at 22. Though I said I would, it hit my mom like a brick. My younger sister is 31 and is on her second try a...
- I married a man with two children. We have them full-time - their mom is a "dead-beat". Anyway - whenever he feels guilty - I remind him that you can't raise a child...
Curfew for 18 Year Old Son Living at Home
Asked by T.B. from Los Angeles
on July 9, 2010
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What is a an appropriate curfew for an 18 yr old son living at home?
My son says their should be no problem with him staying out till 3am, cause i know where he's at...
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- Hi T., at 18 I don't think you should give him a curfew. We have our23 year old son and our 21 year old daughter still leaving with us, and at 18 they did not have a c...
- My daughter just graduated. She's 18. She has no curfew. As long as she's a contributing member of the household (chores, etc), working for her money, treats us wit...
- He's an adult. Let him have his freedom. You've raised him, now trust that you've done a good job.
College Transfer
Asked by A.B. from Washington DC
on October 21, 2009
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My step-son met his girlfriend over this past summer just before going off to college. This is his first love and now he wants to transfer to the college that his gir...
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- Agreed. Teach him now to stick to his plans. If he transfers, he loses the time he's already put in, possibilities for scholarships, may have to spend MORE time in c...
- Your step-son is an adult. I think it is a stupid idea and I most certainly would not be paying the additional cost of tuition, but it would be his choice. However...
- well, of course it's a lousy idea and of course he should stay put. and of course young love does not take adult sensibilities into account. 'had she affections and wa...
18 Year Old High School Senior Curfew and House Rules
Asked by D.E. from Washington DC
on October 16, 2010
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My 17 year daughter turns 18 next week. Wanted some input on what her curfew should be for school nights and weekends. She currently works part-time and is responsib...
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- Ask her what she thinks is reasonable, you may be surprised ;)
- For curfew, I would gauge how well you would be able to handle knowing your daughter is out late - if you set her curfew to 12, you could rest, knowing she is safe and...
- Be nice, Moms! We've learned the hard way that no matter what you say, no matter what you teach/preach, no matter what rules you set.....there's NO freakin' way t...
My 18 Year Old Daughter Is Graduating from High School, What's Next?
Asked by S.R. from Los Angeles
on April 26, 2010
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I need guidance and support from any one who's been in this position before.
I lost my job two years ago. Due to an injury at work I haven't been able to get a new ...
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- I echo your other responders about calling the school, fastweb and collegeboard.com. As for the car, it may end up being better to add the cost of room and board into...
- Take a breath and do not freak out. Since she took the SAT she signed up on the IDOC College Boards.. She now needs to fill out those forms for Financial Aide, ASAP...
- There are thousands of scholarships and financial ad options available to kids who need money for college. Many go unused because people don't know about them. You j...
The Big Car Debate
Asked by C.D. from Columbia
on May 19, 2011
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Hi everybody!
We are having a pretty big argument in my house, and I would love your input.
When my daughter got her drivers license she drove my car some, and then ...
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- You got a lot of responses! I think you are right on in your thinking. I got my own car at 17, had a job and made the payments for it. I think she should absolutely...
- You are definately NOT wrong in expecting her to get her own car. It really concerns me that she thinks she should have a new car too- if her attitude about money doe...
- When I turned 16 my parents said if I wanted a car I had to pay for it. I didn't have any money so I had to get a job. They bought the car and I made bi weekly payme...
HELP! I Need Objective Opinions Here!
Asked by C.D. from Columbia
on July 30, 2011
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My daughter is 18 and lives at home. She has recently jumped on the entitlement bandwagon and feels like I owe her everything and she should not have to work for anyth...
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- When I turned 18 that is when my parents started charging me rent. And I did pay it. If I didn't I knew I was expected to help out in other ways like cleaning. I highl...
- Christi, I just want to say that you sound like a great mom! Some girls just get a little "out there" at that age- I was one of them, unfortunately. My parents h...
- Do you confront her aggressively? I don't mean that in a mean way, but I moved out at 18. My mom never pressured me to do anything and I always felt confident enough i...
Enforcing Rent with Older Children
Asked by H.D. from Boston
on April 2, 2008
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Hello,
I am wondering if anyone has experienced this.
At the advice of several people, we plan to collect rent from our 18 year old daughter after she graduates hi...
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- Yes you can evict her. I know this sounds harsh but she is 18 and she needs to start taking responsibility for herself. I had panic attacks when I was younger and did...
- Wow, I know what you are going through. With my boys I feel like I remind them alot but it does get paid. We do end up with it at the end of the month. As for n...
- After my 18 yo son stopped going to community college (partway through a semester!!), we collected rent. The deal was, if he was in school full time (12 credits or mo...
