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18 Year Old Daughter
Asked by A.M. from Columbus
on August 29, 2010
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Hi,
My 18 year old daughter is sleeping overnight with a boyfriend. I have told her that this is not acceptable to me and that it is definetly not ladylike. She to...
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- First of all using terms like "tramp" is NOT appropriate for any mother to use. While your daughter's behavior at this age is not acceptable you need to realize at thi...
- Okay A., After reading the responses you got I have to say this.....especially to the Mom's that seem to think an 18 year old having sex is a major offense. How many ...
- The day that any of my kids, who are living under my roof, thinks its ok to stay the night at a boyfriends/girlfriends home will have their bags packed waiting for the...
Adult Child Issues
Asked by J.P. from Chicago
on April 18, 2011
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Hi Moms,
When does an adult child, mine for instance he is 20 become responsible for their own choices?? My son who is 20 years old almost 21 lives with his dad ...
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- How about tell him he can live there when he gets a FT job and/or enrolls in school? Seriously, I'm all about second chances and there may be a little of him seekin...
- If it were me, I would tell my son what day the move would be on and he would have to come up with his own arrangements by then. He is an adult, this is HIS problem. N...
- if you take him in lay ground rules, he has to have a job by this date, he has to pay X amount of rent by this date, he has to follow these house rules and have him si...
Do You Charge Your Adult Children Rent?
Asked by L.M. from New York
on July 11, 2010
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My friend has her 3 adult children, her son-in-law, and 2 grandchildren living in her home. She and hubby are struggling financially. Its a long story. But was just ...
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- Yes they should pay rent especially when mom & dad are struggling financially, that only makes sense! It's probably easiest to pay one flat amount so that it includes...
- wow! that is a full house. I would say 100% they are expected to do chores!!! They need to be responsible adults, our job as moms is to make sure our children are resp...
- My son is only 19 years old. He does pay some rent ($200 per month), pays for his own car insurance. He absolutely does chores. He periodically pays one of the utili...
Should We Ask Our Daughter to Pay Rent?
Asked by J.J. from Chicago
on August 21, 2011
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Hi Moms:
We have a 25 year old daughter who has been living at home during
her senior year of college ( to help save money.. she commuted on the train downtown to sc...
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- DO NOT feel guilty about asking her to contribute. She might decide to move out, or she might take the offer. At 25, she's fortunate she has parents who would let her ...
- When I read this subject line I thought I was going to read about how your daughter lives at home and was completely taking advantage of you. That doesn't seem to be t...
- I too have a daughter who is 25 and living at home (not with me, but her dad) and we all (dad, his wife, daughter and I) agree - She's an adult. She needs to be paying...
17 And 18 Year Old Children
Asked by L.F. from Sioux Falls
on June 2, 2011
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I am so frustrated! Last week my son graduated from high school. I told him three house rules need to be followed. Rule 1 - call or text us if he is not coming home at...
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- I would say sell them to a band of gypsies but I don't think they have any real value at that age. I am lucky, mine do pay their bills, cleaning not so much. Well ...
- I completely agree with Krista P. What does your husband say about all this?
- They are actually completely in control... of you and your household. The 17 yr old can go live with his mother. The 18 yr old has 2 weeks to find a place to live....
18 Year Old Out of Control!
Asked by D.B. from Dothan
on March 3, 2008
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I have an 18 year old daughter. She is in 11th grade, she works part time after school. She has no respect for me or my husband (her step dad). I constantly am doing f...
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- I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. Don't be afraid of your daughter. She knows she can threaten you (mentally speaking)and she is getting away with it. St...
- I agree that tough love is the best way to go. Tell her what you expect from her, but try not to be confrontational. At 18, she thinks she knows EVERYTHING ( trust m...
- Hi D.: Since your daughter is 18 now, I think it would be a "wake-up call" to her if you could bear to let go a little---and then NOT bailing her out when she does...
How to Deal with an 18 Year Old Living at Home
Asked by L.G. from San Francisco
on July 6, 2009
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Hello mamas. I really need some advice on how to go about handling my daughter who is 18 and living at home. She is a responsible person who has a part-time job, has...
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- My 18 year old son has just come home from Southern California after trying to move out on his own, and not being able to find a job. He had a little money left him by...
- You wrote that your daughter is a "responsible person" and then you detailed how she breaks the law every single night, and ignores the house rules and the feelings (s...
- I have to tell you, having a new adult child can be more challenging than a willful 3 year old. Unfortunately like a 3 year old you need to set the boundaries and pray...
18 Year Old Son's Curfew
Asked by L.B. from Washington DC
on July 23, 2011
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What is an appropriate curfew for an 18 year old male at home
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- I think it's appropriate for an 18 year old to stay out as long as he wants, unless he comes home making a ruckus and waking everybody up. Good luck!
- When I was 18 I no longer had a curfew. I simply had to tell my parents whether or not I'll be home so they knew whether or not to lock the door. I was a responsible...
- Just because someone turns 18, in my opinion, it's not automatic license to come and go and stay out as long as they please. Especially if they are still living at hom...
18 Year Old Daughter Wants to Move in with Boyfriend
Asked by T.E. from Los Angeles
on September 30, 2008
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Help, my daughter who just turned 18, working and going to college wants to move in with her boyfriend. The boyfriend lives with mom at the grandparents house.
I tell...
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- Wow, that is a tough one. On one hand she is an adult and she can make her own decisions so if you try to stop her she may jsut resent you. On the other hand she is s...
- I know how you feel and my suggestion would be to love your daughter and allow her to learn the hard way. She is 18 and in the eyes of the law she is a young adult. I ...
- T., I lived with my college boyfriend and it was awful! We were a great couple before it, and had EVERYTHING going for us. Neither of us, had a lot of money and it ...
Question About a Wedding of an Adult Child....
Asked by T.T. from Indianapolis
on January 25, 2012
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I saw another question similar to this one, but I really need any advice I can get...
My stepson, who lives at our house, or a least sleeps here when he isn't with hi...
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- Adults who get married should pay for their own wedding. Just my opinion - DH and I got married when I was 41 and he was 46 -we did not ask anyone for money - it would...
- I think it's ridiculous that a 28 year old would expect his parents to pay for a rehearsal dinner. Especially with the circumstances you're describing here. NOW, I...
- First I have to say that most people are adults when they get married. So a parent paying for an adult child to get married doesn't seem unreasonable to me. My brothe...
