Foot & Toe: Adult Child
Results 1-10 from 201 articles
18 Year Old Daughter
Asked by A.M. from Columbus
on August 29, 2010
-
Hi,
My 18 year old daughter is sleeping overnight with a boyfriend. I have told her that this is not acceptable to me and that it is definetly not ladylike. She to...
Answers
- First of all using terms like "tramp" is NOT appropriate for any mother to use. While your daughter's behavior at this age is not acceptable you need to realize at thi...
- Okay A., After reading the responses you got I have to say this.....especially to the Mom's that seem to think an 18 year old having sex is a major offense. How many ...
- The day that any of my kids, who are living under my roof, thinks its ok to stay the night at a boyfriends/girlfriends home will have their bags packed waiting for the...
18 Year Old Out of Control!
Asked by D.B. from Dothan
on March 3, 2008
-
I have an 18 year old daughter. She is in 11th grade, she works part time after school. She has no respect for me or my husband (her step dad). I constantly am doing f...
Answers
- I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. Don't be afraid of your daughter. She knows she can threaten you (mentally speaking)and she is getting away with it. St...
- I agree that tough love is the best way to go. Tell her what you expect from her, but try not to be confrontational. At 18, she thinks she knows EVERYTHING ( trust m...
- Hi D.: Since your daughter is 18 now, I think it would be a "wake-up call" to her if you could bear to let go a little---and then NOT bailing her out when she does...
Problem with Husband
Asked by D. from New York
on June 22, 2008
-
I never have asked a question here, but I always give tons of advise, so here goes. I was wondering how often your husbands hang out with their guy friends, without t...
Answers
- a couple of solutuons: 1. get your husbands friend a girlfriend ...that way he won't spend too much time with your husband 2.compromise with your husband tell him ev...
- It seems to me that you are doing a lot to work on this as it is, as couples therapy is no easy thing! Is he doing any work aimed at improving things? And given that...
- Well, my husband never goes out with his friends. So I'm not too sure how much help I'd be to you. Have you ever tried talking to him about perhaps limiting those ge...
Wart Removal
Asked by N.S. from Chicago
on October 3, 2010
-
We told our 9-year old that she was going to the doctors next week to have some warts removed and she's been freaking out ever since! She can't sleep at night because ...
Answers
- My only comment is I would never tell a young child about any type of medical or dental procedure in advance of the event. It's just setting them up for fear/anxiety. ...
- It has been a long time since I have dealt with a wart, but are you suppose to put a band aid on them? I know it helps prevent picking, but I thought it needed to dry...
- Freezing them off hurts. I have yet to find a doctor who has any real sympathy for the children. When I was a kid, I had several frozen off, and they numbed the are...
Help with 18 Year Old Son's Clothing Choice
Asked by M.L. from Minneapolis
on March 19, 2008
-
I am trying to figure out what to do about a shirt my son recently bought. It is extremely disgusting to me. It has two women on the front of it involved in some sor...
Answers
- Hi M., I suspect it's 1) a stage and/or 2) his way of gaining attention and/or 3) asserting his independence. I don't know what it's like to raise teenagers yet, b...
- Stick to your guns. It is your house your rules. If it offends you and goes against what you are teaching your children then by all means keep the shirt or throw it ...
- With my daughter who is 18, senior in high school and doesn't pay rent. I would tell her - if you want to where it that is fine but you will not wear it under my roof...
My 18 Year Old Daughter Moved in with Her Boyfriend
Asked by S.H. from Washington DC
on November 29, 2010
-
.Our daughter moved in with her boyfriend. She was still going to college - not sure if she will finish this semester. We helped buy a car for her with the agreement...
Answers
- I agree that it's probably a good idea, for her to pay for her own things. However, I don't agree with the manner in which you chose to approach this. It doesn't soun...
- Understandably, you don't like her choices, but this choice is going to turn out 1 of two ways: 1.) this guy is the best thing that ever happened to her and they live ...
- My kids are not yet this age - but the oldest is a teen and I can see the tricky stuff is already coming up and I don't think there's ever a perfect way to deal with a...
18 Year Old Still in School Thinks She Is Grown Help
Asked by C.G. from Atlanta
on December 5, 2011
-
i wrote about my 18 year old and dont know where the post went.but i need advice from people who have or had an 18 year old . thats still in school she grad.s this yea...
Answers
- My DD is 15 and she has some issues that are mental health in nature. But we are very strict. We've already told her that once she becomes of legal age she can do an...
- IMO You need to put your foot down and tell her she will either go by the rules and make sure she understands that the rules did not change with her 18th birthday. No...
- How about this idea: Let her drive drunk and call 911. That ought to land her right into an alcohol rehab, where clearly she needs to be. Unless her drinking is add...
18 Year Old Son Has 48 Hours to Get Out.
Asked by M.C. from New York
on March 27, 2013
-
I am venting mostly-
I have had to do the hardest thing ever, kick my 18 year old son out. He is a father, so that makes this really hard. Even though his son most...
Answers
- Sending you hugs, stay strong.
- Ya I would not be paying for his cell phone or Gym membership if he is disrespectful to you. He needs some tough love Momma!! Tell him to take his attitude and hit the...
- I'm sorry that he's likely to withhold his son from you (that punishes the kid) but I think that sometimes they don't fly unless we shove them. If he can't abide by yo...
Help with Adult Child
Asked by J.D. from Dallas
on June 12, 2012
-
We have a 21 yr old son. He's worn on our last nerve. He has never had a job. He recently started to put in applications but no jobs have come yet. He won't accept...
Answers
- I'm so sorry you are going though this, I know it is very difficult. Society thinks "children" should be out bewteen18-21 years. But some are just not ready to leave t...
- At this point, I would give him ONE MONTH to have a job, and to contribute regularly to the household. Once that month is up without any change, I would enroll him in ...
- You have not tried EVERYTHING because you are still taking care of him and allowing him to live in your home on his terms. I agree with the professional about givin...
18 Year Old Daughter Out of Control
Asked by T.P. from Parkersburg
on November 20, 2010
-
My daughter has completely changed into a person I do not know. She has always been a hand full, but since turning 18 she has completely went down hill. She lies on me...
Answers
- Mine was a boy, but the method is the same. We went to family therapy, and throwing her out isn't the answer, yet. She has to decide if she's an adult or not, because ...
- give her the options - she can stay at home on your rules or leave. And follow through, if you let her break rules and stay then she will continue to walk over you th...
- She would be out of my house . . . she's an adult and needs to make her own way, especially if she is not going to be respectful of you. Tough love may be in order.
