Acting Up: Adult Child
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Defiant 10-Yr Old Boy
Asked by S.X. from Champaign
on February 20, 2008
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My oldest son (10) is extremely strong-willed and is becoming more and more defiant every day. The least little request is met with opposition. I tried giving him mo...
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- Something about 10 yr olds! My daughter was the sweetest child, and then she turned 10! I followed Dr.Phil's advice, and I started taking away all her toys, stuffed an...
- Dr. James Dobson has written a wonderful book, "Dare to Discipline", and I believe he has a second book "The strong willed child". Both books are excellent resources....
- Have you ever tried talking to him about his behavior during a car ride (with just you & him)? My 9 year old boy isn't so bad but when he does things like acting like...
Adult Child Issues
Asked by J.P. from Chicago
on April 18, 2011
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Hi Moms,
When does an adult child, mine for instance he is 20 become responsible for their own choices?? My son who is 20 years old almost 21 lives with his dad ...
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- How about tell him he can live there when he gets a FT job and/or enrolls in school? Seriously, I'm all about second chances and there may be a little of him seekin...
- If it were me, I would tell my son what day the move would be on and he would have to come up with his own arrangements by then. He is an adult, this is HIS problem. N...
- if you take him in lay ground rules, he has to have a job by this date, he has to pay X amount of rent by this date, he has to follow these house rules and have him si...
Bad Relationship with My Adult Daughter
Asked by D.D. from New York
on July 28, 2010
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My adult daughter does not want to deal with me at all,she does not want to speak to me.That happens because of my fault. Is there any way to make her forgive me?
I ...
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- I'd start with a letter...and state EXACTLY what you just said to us. Its my fault. I feel guilty. I said aweful words... Then I tell her that I loved her...no m...
- You need to change, and give her time. Write her a letter explaining the sorrow you feel for the way you treated her and let her know how proud you are of her and how ...
- Dear D., I don't know what you did or said but you may have to let some time pass. You cannot make her do anything but maybe you can write to her and tell her you are ...
Jr. High Son Has Already Developed "Attitude".
Asked by E.B. from Beaumont
on August 26, 2011
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Okay, it's only been a week and my sweet, sensitive 11 year old son has already been transformed by Jr. High. He has attitude, rolls his eyes and in general is being ...
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- His weekend fun should be dependent on how he handled his week. Explain to him what is expected and what he will get to enjoy if he follows through. If you don't nip...
- I didn't believe that teen attitude was real until each of my kids went through it in turn. I thought a good mother could avoid teen attitude. WRONG. They grow o...
- Welcome to the beginning of the hardest years of parenting I have ever experienced. Mine started about that age with the sighs, and eye rolling, and downright rudeness...
18 Year Old Out of Control!
Asked by D.B. from Dothan
on March 3, 2008
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I have an 18 year old daughter. She is in 11th grade, she works part time after school. She has no respect for me or my husband (her step dad). I constantly am doing f...
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- I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. Don't be afraid of your daughter. She knows she can threaten you (mentally speaking)and she is getting away with it. St...
- I agree that tough love is the best way to go. Tell her what you expect from her, but try not to be confrontational. At 18, she thinks she knows EVERYTHING ( trust m...
- Hi D.: Since your daughter is 18 now, I think it would be a "wake-up call" to her if you could bear to let go a little---and then NOT bailing her out when she does...
18 Year Old Daughter Out of Control
Asked by T.P. from Parkersburg
on November 20, 2010
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My daughter has completely changed into a person I do not know. She has always been a hand full, but since turning 18 she has completely went down hill. She lies on me...
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- Mine was a boy, but the method is the same. We went to family therapy, and throwing her out isn't the answer, yet. She has to decide if she's an adult or not, because ...
- give her the options - she can stay at home on your rules or leave. And follow through, if you let her break rules and stay then she will continue to walk over you th...
- She would be out of my house . . . she's an adult and needs to make her own way, especially if she is not going to be respectful of you. Tough love may be in order.
Adult Daughter and a Selfish Boyfriend
Asked by D.C. from Clarksville
on March 6, 2010
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My adult daughter , who is sick and waiting for a transplant..is in a relationship with a young man who lives 2000 miles away. She says he wants to marry her and she...
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- Since your daughter is awaiting a transplant she needs to check and see if moving is going to hinder that. Not to mention she would have to find new doctors, hospital...
- Sorry to say it, but yes, you probably will lose your daughter. But I bet she comes back sooner or later. I went thru something very similar with one of my daughters. ...
- What a load of bull. If this boy truly loves your daughter he would be looking for jobs in HER area, since she needs to stay where her Dr. and care is, and he'd be tr...
18 Year Old Driving Me Nuts! (Long Vent! LOL)
Asked by K.K. from Saginaw
on January 23, 2012
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my son is driving me crazy! there are ssssoooo many things that I seem to be at the end of my rope with him about and just need to vent.
1.) he doesn't have his d...
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- I agree with below only because you describe a relative of mine that never stopped living at home and still lives on the computer. He has forgotten the enjoyment from...
- I can't help you about I am LOL. I know how you feel but there are days I wish I had those annoying young adults at home. Both mine are away at college and it funny ho...
- 1. The not driving is irksome. But if he just isn't able to pay attention he may not need to drive. Tell him you don't want him to worry about getting a license. You t...
18 Year Old Doesn't Want to Go on Vacation
Asked by D.K. from Sacramento
on February 9, 2010
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Our 18 year old daughter, whom is bi-polar, does not want to go on vacation with her dad, 14 year old sister and myself (mom). I can't decide if I should force her t...
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- I don't really know that you can make her. If she refused to pack and get into the car, what are you going to do? Is there a friend that you trust that you can sugge...
- Don't let her stay at your home unsupervised. Her magical age of 18 does not mean she has the rights of home ownership! Do you have a family member who will stay wit...
- Hi D., I had a similar situation and I had my 18-year old daughter stay with my sister and her family. I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving a teen with bi-polar alo...
18 Year Old Interrupted Menstrual Cycle
Asked by R.R. from Atlanta
on May 20, 2010
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Our 18 year old daughter moved to the US from China in December of 2009. She has not had her period since she arrived.
Her mother came to the US about 3 years ago and...
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- Stress, Pregnancy, illness.. So many possibilities.. Also the Chinese culture is very different than ours about girls and their menstrual cycles.. They do not usua...
- Ok well with the added information that you gave i would vote stress then too. your body does really weird things when it is stressed. She may not even realize that s...
- HI R., I have heard that international travel and time zone changes can disrupt periods so that could be a factor. Also, if she was eating a fairly different diet i...
