N.H. asks from Racine, WI on October 11, 2008
Writing a Letter to My Daughter for Her Teachers to Read in Class
I LOVE my daughter more than words can describe!! I have absolutely no problem telling her how I feel and how much she means to me. I am having a problem with the fact that she is star of the week at her school next week. I am suppose to write her a letter telling her why she is so special to me. Well, I have a MILLION reason why she is so special to her daddy and I. I just hate the fact that it seems a bit competitive. I Love my daughters school and would not want her in any other school. But in passings with othter parents, and the fact that teachers there send their kids to the same school I have a hard time believing that there is not "gossip" and "talk" that goes on. I want to make sure that my letter to my VERY special daughter is different than the rest of the, "my child is the best out there and no body else can compete with me as a parent", letter. I want to write my letter to MY daughter and not worry that I am a bad parent for not stepping it up a notch and writing it for the adults. Am I making sense to anyone? My husband tells me I worry too much and think too much about little things like this, but it is so important to our children and such a true view on the caddiness that goes on out there. I am not a stupid person, I just want to talk at my daughters level when her teahchers read her note to her in front of the WHOLE class and not at an adult level. Any body else out there deal with anything like this? I feel alone.
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L. answers from Omaha on October 13, 2008
Just write the letter as if it weren't being read by the teacher. More important than her being star for one week in preschool, the letter will mean so much as a keepsake to her in later years when it's being shared with no one but her!
C.D. answers from Minneapolis on October 13, 2008
As a former teacher, I think you are reading way too in to the way the teachers view you and your child. If you truly believe that the teachers there are catty and are bad-talking the children/families, then that is an issue you should take up with the director or take your child out of that school. You should feel absolutely secure and confident that these are the people taking care of your child. This is about you and how the letter will make your child feel. She is only 4 years old, for goodness sakes, worry about how she will hear the letter. Teachers have much better things to worry/talk/gossip about than what a parent said in a heartfelt letter to their child on their child's star of the week day! Sometimes us women do make molehills into mountains. Relax and enjoy this little/big moment for your child!
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T.S. answers from Minneapolis on October 13, 2008
Be true to your daughter, write it for her alone. None of the other people really matter in your life. Be open and honest and I bet the adults will enjoy it too, as a bonus. This should be a fun thing, let the stress go. Sometimes we have to step back and remember how good we have it. Good luck.
D.R. answers from Sheboygan on October 13, 2008
This assignment is designed to make your child feel special for a week. It is a chance for her to showcase people and things in her life that make her feel special. It is not about you, the teacher, or other parents. Write from your heart and stop worring so much. Being star of the week is something all the kids look forward to. If you really believe your daughter is special, then allow your her this chance to be treated like it from her teacher and her classmates!
H.A. answers from Waterloo on October 13, 2008
I agree with Diane: stick to things that are unique to YOUR daughter. Mention little quirks and habits that she has/does that you find completely endearing. Maybe mention special family members- ie. "I love how you play so well with your cousins Blank and Blank. I love watching you play Candyland with Grandma Blank."
Let everything come from your heart and you'll forget about the "gossip and talk" and you'll focus on making your little girl feel special.
T.R. answers from Madison on October 13, 2008
It sounds to me like you know exactly what you want, maybe just not how to get there. I think if you pay attention to the verbage & tone of your letter it won't be the competitive letter you are worried about. I also think it might help to focus on the personality of your daughter as well as how you feel when you are together.
I also give you total kudos for wanting to be 'real'. I think our kids get to much of the 'everybody is a winner' attitude, our children are all very different & we need to recognize their different strengths & weaknessess.
oh, yeah, and you make complete sence. My husband would respond the same way to me, in fact he has many times, this is what we do as moms. We want the world to be a better place because our child/ren are out in it. I often tell my husband 'I am the worrier, so you don't have to be.'
J.P. answers from St. Cloud on October 13, 2008
Don't write for an 'audience'. Write things you want your DAUGHTER to hear even if they are things you have told her before. She may take them to heart in a different way because of the venue in which they are being said.
I would personally focus on the ways God has made her special - on character traits and qualities that you see the beginnings of and want to encourage rather than on accomplishments that are already obvious to every who knows her. Don't be afraid to visualize achievement, point out her God-given potential and suggest qualities that you look foward to seeing her expand upon and develop.
M.J. answers from Omaha on October 13, 2008
Our school does something like this every year, but it really is for the kids, not the adults. I would say, happily tell your daughter, in a letter addressed to her, why she is special to you and how much you love her. Not write a letter to the rest of the class bragging about her accomplishments. She will also benefit from hearing that you don't love her for those reasons only, and your love is not conditional of being a star.
C.S. answers from Madison on October 13, 2008
It sounds like you have a lot you want to tell her already about how special she is, so I would just write from your heart. Don't worry about anyone else who will hear it or what they will think or whatever other concerns you have: write it to your daughter.