We are inviting 5 girls to my daughter's birthday. It's at our house. This is the first year we are inviting school friends (in other words, the first year I do not know the parents of those who are invited). My husband is disabled with pain issues, so we don't want a huge crowd, but I don't want to state that on the invitation! Would this sound rude?....
"*Our house is small, so please bring only one parent and no siblings. You are welcome to drop off and pick up if you prefer."
And, it is a Disney Fairies themed party with activities that will frequently reference the movie, like "The baking talents made this cake for you" and "Fawn left these ladybugs for you paint. Can you help her and the animal talents?" SO... would it be rude if I said....
"You might have more fun if you watch the movie Tinkerbell at home some time before the party. The library has a copy."
I do plan on showing some clips, but I don't want to show the whole movie.
I would write "We have a small house, so please, no siblings." I would also mention that you will be doing some activities that revolve around the Tinkerbell movie by Disney, so if the girls have seen the movie before, it might be more fun.
Dawn
I would think it is obvious no siblings if only so and so's name is on the invite. You could say drop off at X time and pick up at X time maybe?
And say it is a Tinkerbell themed party, if your daughter's seen it, it'll be even more fun for her!
Since you're only inviting 5 kids, maybe you could just make 5 little phone calls? To avoid any mishaps.
Yes and yes.
Can you say Drop off is at x:00 and pick up at x:00.
The party is Tinkerbell themed, so know your Tinkerbell clues to play the games, or something along those lines. Everyone knows where to get a copy of the movie.
On the invite I would use some type of wording that might be found in the movie. Like: "Have you seen Tinker Bell and The Great Fairy Rescue? Help us celebrate ______'s Birthday and rescue Tinker Bell" and/or "Pixie Hollow is recruiting you to be the newest fairy. Your mommy or daddy is welcome to join if they'd like or they may drop you off in Pixie Hollow and return at ____."
I don't think it would be rude to tell them it might be more fun to watch Tinkerbell beforehand but it might be unnecessary. I think if you put a lot of thought into the invite and make it all about Tinkerbell and the Fairies they might get the hint.
I hope she has a wonderful birthday! I'd love to hear what ideas you have come up with, I am thinking about a Tinkerbell party for my daughter as well =)
I'd leave out the part about one parent. If the siblings are excluded, one parent has to stay home with them anyways. Worse case scenario you get one or two extra dads. Is it really worth offending over?
Instead of putting so many words, just put the drop off and pick up times. By age 5 or 6, parents really don't need to be staying at bday parties anyway, especially if they are at your house where it's easy to keep an eye on everyone.
As for the movie, just say something like "We'll have games and activities based on the movie 'Tinkerbell' " and let them decide for themselves if they want to watch it or not. Chances are they have all seen it anyway! Don't mention the library...maybe even offer to loan it to someone if they ask about it and haven't seen it yet.
Happy bday to your daughter!
K.
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hi. i understand. my husband is disabled, in chronic pain, and in a wheelchair. i would not mention his issues. let the kids meet him and accept him. i have more issues with adults being creeped out than kids(he can't smile because his muscles have wasted away).
i would say Please drop off Sally at x and pick up at y due to limited space. Plus what Dawn said
If your not showing the movie at the party then the whole party should not be based only on things from the movie. not all kids have seen it and not all parents are willing to make the special trip to the store / library / video store etc to get the movie. can't you play games that all the kids can play without seeing the movie.
as far as the who can come etc. just put the drop of at "X" time and pick up at "X" time. parents will get it.
You've got some good suggestions re: keeping the head count low. I once received an invitation that said, "Unfortunately this party is limited to invitee and parent/s only due to liability and insurance at the venue." No offense was taken. Maybe you can reword to something similar for your party (instead of '"liability," say "space constraints"?)
If there are only five girls coming, I'd just mention the part about the movie if/when you see the parents at drop-off. Just: "Has Janie seen 'Tinkerbell'? There are a few things we'll be doing at the party that might be more fun for her if she's seen the movie." Or can your daughter mention it to her friends? But I think what you have planned will be fun either way.
Hmm, Well its not rude but you might have a problem. It depends the age of the kids. Some families its all or nothing so they might not show. I remember one time we went to a party at someones house and they set up stuff outside front yard so that even if siblings there wasnt an issue? But you have extenuating issues so I'd try to contact the parents directly first. I know a friend of ours set up the party on the front lawn so that the other kids were mostly out front.
i don't think it should have a problem with either there fine with me have a great bday party!!
