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Working for an Escort Service-Would You?

My Company has given me notice that my last day here would be end of March. I’ve been putting my name out there and submitted my resume to several companies. However, no one is offering a salary anywhere near what I am making now.

My dear Husband, deathly afraid of losing our home, told me that I should look into a reputable Escort Service. He said that I could make 3x’s what I am making now. Basically, I would be a date for someone who is not married He said with a reputable escort company you would NOT be required to perform any other services, if you know what I mean, other than going on a date to a Company dinner or event. I could make in one night what I make here in one week.

The reason why he suggested this = he knows someone at work whose wife does it and apparently the guy brags about how much money she brings home. There are all kinds of marriages out there!!!!

Would you do it?

Feel free to add some humor into your responses. I need it!

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If he will watch the kids every time you have a "date", I would do it!! Are you kidding me... a whole night with No kids, No husband and be wined and dined, plus get paid!

Sign me up!

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Nope!

When my kids are older and asks "what mommy does for a job" - Don't want to have to explain that one.

Good luck!

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Just a question here but can "reputable" and "escort service" really be used in the same sentence? ;-)

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Men often say astonishingly dumb things.

When your kids grow up and get married themselves you can all have a laugh about The Dumbest Thing Your Father Ever Said.

:)

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If he will watch the kids every time you have a "date", I would do it!! Are you kidding me... a whole night with No kids, No husband and be wined and dined, plus get paid!

Sign me up!

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I have a good friend who is an escort (she started off because her son needed over 100k worth of "elective" surgery -according to their insurance company). When she made that in 4 months... she hasn't looked back.

She's highly educated, sexy in a 'girl next door' kind of way, and absolutely loves sex.

Because, yes, sex is part of the job description. A minority of people just hire her for conversation/ arm at a function. A very small minority. They're typically closeted or have physical issues they don't want getting out. Some are just lonely. Most, she says, aren't lonely at all. They are literally paying her to go away. They don't want a relationship, they just want sex and companionship on their own terms.

Her biggest problem is taxes. She had to set herself up as an LLC and files as a consultant. But her actual work is quite illegal. She's paid for the "package" which includes knowing wine, opera, politics, art, computer literacy... and sex.

According to her, there are no "intellectual only" escorts. Escort companies take on intellectual only engagements... but the price comes from the combo. Just sex is cheap. Discrete sex is somewhat more expensive. Sex and a mind is the most expensive. She DOES also say that while a minority hire her for her mind, the majority hire her for the idea that she has one.

Would I do it? She's asked me occasionally, and I've never agreed. So to date; (pun intended) nope. I have nothing against the work... but it's not something I'm interested in more than as something fun to think about. Sort of like being a spy. Fun to watch on TV, not something I'd want to do in real life.

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Nope!

When my kids are older and asks "what mommy does for a job" - Don't want to have to explain that one.

Good luck!

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Hey-isn't that what Elliot Spitzer used-a reputable escort service? Bottom line is that none of them are 'reputable' and you should tell your husband to break the bad news to his friend that his wife is getting banged by lots of men that aren't him and that he should probably arrange monthly testing for himself.

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Just a question here but can "reputable" and "escort service" really be used in the same sentence? ;-)

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I think my husband would scrub toilets in a public bathroom at night before he suggested I do something like that . . .

I can't imagine that is very safe.

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I would insist on talking to this man's wife mono el mono. Tell her what you are telling us. I have a feeling she isn't telling him some things... like the fact the 2nd child isn't his or something equally as horrifying.

Personally I think your husband is being crazy for even suggesting it.

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Paid Escort pretty much equals "Call Girl". It's just a way of hiding prostitution ambiguously yet EVERYone knows what an escort does, except for your hubby, lol!

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If your husband truly believes that there are some "hands off" escort services, I have a bridge that I'd like to sell him : )

There are probably a few ways that you could make in a night what you make in a week, but none of them are on someone's arm or on your feet.

I'd look elsewhere for employment if I were you.

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I think that your hubby's friend is in denial about what his wife is really doing to make that money. I have never heard of an escort that made any real money without providing "extras".

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we had a friend that is was a "massage therapist" it amazes me how much money she makes working nights. LOL

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I'm going to disagree with the other responders so far and say that I would take this as a great compliment from your husband! Maybe he's thinking mostly about the money, but he is also saying that you are one attractive date!

Reputable escort services are about attending formal functions with a date, but I'm sure many of these dates end up making side deals for more after...

It would take a strong marriage to be OK with this as a regular thing, I think. Though I do know of women who have worked as exotic dancers for decades, for instance, have three kids and a husband the whole time.

I don't think I would do it (partly because I don't think I look the part of an escort), but otherwise I would consider it.

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No. NEVER. Why can't your HUSBAND be a male escort? There's money in that too. It can go both ways.

I would punch my husband in the face, for asking. Absurd.
There is an element of danger to this. Many men assume there are "other services" involved. I have heard dozens of stories of woman getting raped and worse when working for "reputable" escort services.

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Isn't "escort" the politically correct word for "prostitute?" Your husband is a strange man.

And NO, I would never do that and I'd send my husband to a therapist for suggesting such a crazy idea.

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Afraid of losing the home? Your hubby? Sure, no problem, get him a shovel and tell him start digging, shoveling, whatever. Earn the living without selling your wife.

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Whoa?! No way.

But if he's interested I did need a date for Thursday night... (kidding, kidding!)

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For me no, and i would feel very disrespected if my husband suggested such a thing. Which he would not do, we have been faced with loosing our home and he is willing to work as many jobs as he needs to. Shame on him. That's not love! J.

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No, i couldnt do it, but i have often thought i could be a good dominatrix , bossing men around kicking them, hitting them, making them do my dishes, lol for money. LOL!, i dont do that to my husband , but ive always thought itd be fun to make money doing it, seems so easy. My personal opinion on that though is that for whatever reason men get off on that and i could never knowingly get a man off, or turn one on with a clear conscience. Im married and i could only do that with my husband.

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Lose the house and save your dignity girl! If he's not going to give a poop about your well being then you should!
C.

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I really dont think any escort services are "reputable". They have to say that they are so they dont get in trouble. I am sure that friends wife has done much more than she is willing to admit.

I personally would never go there. Just the date alone is an emotional affair in my opinion. Marriages are hard enough without having to question the what if's. Somewhere down the line he will wonder if you have ever been more than a date. It is human nature.

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I think you would be putting yourself in a very risky position to be a "hands off" escort. What would you do if some client tried to get more than he paid for??? I think it is a complete setup to get assaulted or raped by ill-intentioned men. It is NOT worth the money and its NOT worth risking your safety or your well-being. If I were you, I would find a way to get another job and tell your husband to take a long walk off of a short pier! He is being insensitive and unrealistic. I don't see ANY escort service as reputable--sorry, I don't. If you have evidence to show that they are--I would love to see it! Protect yourself and your family and don't do it!

M

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Nope I wouldn't do it. Maybe your husband should do it on his nights off. I am sure there are a lot of men seeking other men! Then he can brag to his friend how much he makes in one night. But, he must keep his day job for insurance purposes and reputation.

BTW...prostitution is illegal in Las Vegas. Not that it doesn't happen, but it is illegal and there are stings to catch them all the time.

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Absolutely NOT! Shame on your husband for even suggesting that! There are so many freaks out there....what if something happened to you one night when you were out on a date with a psycho??????

I would rather work 3 reputable jobs. By the way, what kind of job does your husband have?

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I can't believe you're really entertaining the idea. I agree with the poster who said my husband would take a second job at night scrubbing toilets before he's let me be an escort! I would be so offended if my husband suggested this! Has HE done EVERYTHING possible to save your home (2nd job, sell his car/motorcycle, take on odd jobs, etc). There are definitely things I wouldn't do--no matter how much money--and this is one of them! If you can't afford your home, sell it!

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OMG, no way.

Then it WILL create marriage problems and in him against you.
Guaranteed.

Don't go there.

You are not a 'money' machine. You are not a trick horse.

To each his own.

Tell your Husband to get a 2nd job.

Patrons of Escort services... WILL EXPECT something by way of sexual favors.

And by the way, WHY on earth, would any woman 'want' her Husband, to "Brag" about her being an Escort Prostitute?
Would you want the whole world to know that? And then the parents of your kids GOSSIPING about it and then teasing them about it?
Yah, right.

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lol.. Funny question... Is it a joke though? Maybe your husband needs to get a 2nd or 3rd job instead of pimping out his wife out~
PS Instead of finding a new job, maybe you need to find a new husband :0)

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Wow. What color is the sky in your husband's world, anyway? Wouldn't wanna live there.

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MM, I think that your husband is naive. He is believing this guy at work, who actually might be pulling his leg and him not even realize it. Or, the guy's wife actually does it and he gets off on it. You are right - there ARE all kinds of marriages out there.

If you and your husband think the guy is being straight up, and there is no sex or petting involved, talk to his wife and ask her some really honest questions. Even if it's "reputable", she probably has had to fend off guys who don't believe that an escort won't put out.

By the way, if married men call an escort service, it really could ONLY be for sex. Otherwise, they would have their wives escort them.

Good luck,
D.

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Not only would that be degrading to my marriage, my kids & myself I would file for a Divorce from him since he isn't willing to consider getting a second job work OT with the current place of employment & suggesting that I go to work to sell myself.He is deathly afraid of losing the home really? But suggesting an Escort Service as a job that his wife the mother of his children goes out with these MEN who knows what they are capable of doing to a woman he isn't deathly afraid of that HMMM whats wrong with him??

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Ummm, are you serious? No. I cant believe your husband would be willing to put his wife in danger like that. Wow! My husband lost his job and he didnt suggest I become an escort.

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Sounds like your husband wants to be your pimp - you know, you go be a 'date' for men and bring home the money for the household and your husband to use.

Tell your husband to stop watching Pretty Woman. Sure, Richard Gere started out by wanting some arm candy for his high-profile events but find me ONE prostitute/escort for whom that has realistically worked.

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Not all man that use escort services are single, that’s one. Second, I do not know a man that would pay to look at the beautiful woman, talk to her; show her off, flirt with her and not to be allowed to touch her. I am sure escort service not going to use you much when they figure out you are not sleeping with clients. And sleeping may not be the only thing you ran into, by the way…..
It is disturbing that your husband suggested this. My response to this would be to get out there a date (for real) and get myself a better husband that would not even dream to suggest such an unhealthy arrangement. Man’s response to adversity should always be – honey, let me put up my shoulder and shelter you and the kids. If the response is less then that – that is some other creature you have pretending to be a Man. Drop it and get a real one.

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I'd ask him if he'd like a go at it. Working as an escort, that is.

Me, personally, I am not sure I completely buy into the 'just going to dinner and talking' sort of thing. Some services, perhaps, but in my younger years, a friend of mine ran a service and all sorts of things were happening 'on the side'. (I suggested he make all his employees sign a contract stating they would not be prostituting themselves with his clients.) I was offered the "opportunity" to work for him and declined. I'd rather have dinner with people I know and not take a chance a total stranger might leave me stranded because A. they are psycho (I'm sure they don't do any mental health screening for their clients) and B. they are upset I wouldn't put out.

So, if your husband is comfortable and confident about men propositioning you, and if you are game, go for it. I have no problem with sex work-- or even quasi sex work. It's just not the choice for me.

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Hell, why not be a phone sex operator so you wouldn't have to get out of your pajamas all day!
LOL, ok seriously....no.
I know some women would have reacted by punching their husbands in the face, family jewels and whatnot. I honestly believe if I heard that incredibly stupid idea come out of my SO's mouth I would have no choice but to stare at him blankly followed by hysterical laughing.
A funny story though, we know a guy who goes along with his wife selling worn undergarments and shoes to men who request them online. There truely are all types of marriages out there!

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My husband always jokes that I can have a boyfriend as long as he pays the bills - TOTALLY JOKING!! But never in a million years would I do that! I can see how it would pay money, but man! Nor could I see my husband truly being okay with me going out with other men. And I agree with some of the others...can the two terms be used in the same sentence? Lol...maybe so, but it seems more like a Lifetime movie to me!!

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Everything I've ever read about them is that there is physical activity... they just say there isn't because.... that's called prostitution! And prostitution is illegal in most states.

If you really need to go down this route I would ask the wife of the "guy at work" if you could tag along for the night on one of her dates... what guy wouldn't like that right?? Two women to 'talk' with for the price of one!! If she says no way then you can be sure that's b/c there is more going on than they're saying. It's probably not full on sex but more foreplay like stuff.

If this type of life style is something that you are open to.. what about stripping. I do think that there are clubs where all you would have to do is dance.. no physical contact unless you wanted it. There's some book that a girl from MN wrote (I think she also wrote Juno??) where she went 'undercover' for a year working in a strip club in order to write this book... google it and see what the life is really like.

What I would do is start googling male escort services and have your husband go out on an interview or two to see what he really thinks! It's very odd that he even brought that up to you, but hey no harm in asking I guess!!! Good luck, I hope you find a 9-5 job before you have to really explore this!!

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What Jane M said...

Maybe your husband could sell his services (kidding:)

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HOLY SH**!! Beyond that, I'm speechless. Wow.

You're not seriously considering this, are you?? There ARE jobs out there, the job market has just changed. Find the happy medium between unemployment and escort, please!! Try these links--it's a start. Make your own way, girlie! That's what I'm doing. And I promise, sex is NEVER a part of the job! :-)

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I can't even imagine how I would respond if my husband suggested such a thing...

love K.

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Hey kids, I pimped mom out for the evening, who's up for pizza tonight?

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So, am I the only one who, if I had the body of course, would do it? I am a GREAT date. There are security measures that are in place for these businesses and NO you do not have to prostitute yourself out. You are simply a companion for the night. Hmm I would do it.

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Yeah, I really don't know of any "reputable" escort services... (If by "reputable" you mean, not prostitution...) They may exist but I am sure they are few and far between. Plus, what happens when someone books your "escort service" thinking he is going to get some, and then you go thinking he wants a date for an event...Best case senario, a misunderstanding. Worst case, a sexual assualt. :(

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I feel the same way as Bug.First off I would be upset with my Husband for suggesting it.And second I don't believe there's a service where a guy isn't going to expect more.I would not feel comfortable or safe!

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If I had to, to support my kids I would. I wouldn't like it, but if it meant food in my kids' mouths, then, you bet. But you don't have to, you are married and you both could get a second job. Your husband should go work 3 jobs for suggesting this to you!! :)

Most people don't know, that alot of times, men just want someone to talk to because their wives won't listen to them. I know this sounds ridiculous, but it is true.

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I do not know your husband but I have no respect for him. How dare insult you like that? My thought is that there are a lot of men who would pass out if a woman was even ogled in a grocery store much less become a 'date' to a man for a night and as the other poster said. There are too many other stories about this so called innocent past time. I say your husband is very disrespectful.

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haha if i suggested to my husband that i go out and do this he would freak out (never would he suggest it to me) I always joke with him that I am going to sell kisses on the corner for extra money and he always starts it with "you will not because some pervert will come along wanting more than a kiss!"

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Wow, i really resent that comment by RonnieJ. I am a massage therapist. i have been since i was 18. I am 21 now. i am goodlooking and have been propositioned by plenty of clients, but i have NEVER done anything inappropriate or sexual with my clients. and i still made quite a bit of money. while there are alot of women who do sexual massages for money, thats a completely different arena than Therapeutic massage.
Escort service is very sketchy and i would not suggest going into it.
but massage therapy on the other hand is a very good way to make extra money without having to put yourself in danger. I mean, granted you have a table and know what you are doing.

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WHY NOT!?!?!?!?!

You get dinner and get to get all dolled up!!!!?? And oh yeah - it's "free" to you!!! GO FOR IT!! LMAO!!!

Oh wait - you get PAID to sit there and look beautiful?!! YAHOO!!!! Oh baby!!

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No way!! Even the "reputable" escort services don't discourage their escorts to offer more in the way of service than a simple date. I doubt that your husband's friend either 1) realizes that his wife is likely performing a few additional services in order to make what she makes of 2) doesn't care that she does.

Even if if was just being the arm candy for a rich married man who needs a date to a business function in my hometown, I'd still 1) feel like I was sort of cheating on my soon-to-be husband and 2) would rather be spending my evenings at home with said fiancee (he works long day/evening hours, so after 9am and weekend is when we get to spend time together). I think the whole thing would make me feel icky.

Also, just so you know where I'm coming from, I was laid off from my former job, was totally out of work for 9 months and then worked my a** off for a commission only contract gig before getting my current job, which doesn't pay me as much as my last job did, but at which I am much happier. Several of my male friends (before I had started dating my fiancee) suggested that I try being an escort for extra cash, but I just didn't think I could stomach it- and that was back when I was single.

Of course, this is just how I feel about the whole escort thing. How you feel is entirely up to you. I'd just suggest you make sure that you don't let you husband talk you into doing anything you don't feel comfortable with.

Best of luck,
S.

No I'm not a gold digger and it seems dangerous to go out with some person you don't know. I'm sure whoever pays you might either suggest or force himself on you to get sex (not you, a general you). If you pick out a nice corner your hubby could make you some money... shave his legs and bam ya can make some money lol then you could be the pimpette. (HA that's my morbid humor)

@LadyJ My friend Brock does massages on the side and makes a ton of money (regular clients). That's a great idea if you can get a clientelle (sp?) going M M.)

Duece Bigalow comes to mind..... But, hey... We all have bills to pay, right?

I know how it feels to be in the position of having to look at "alternative" options for acceptable income. I went from running logistics and configuration management for a nuclear area to working at a call center.
The pay cut hurt a ton and I would have killed for an opportunity to be a smart, attractive date to make more money. I would never have done it- but the option would have been nice.

Good luck-

I think you're being naive if you think it's ONLY escorting. The sex part is a huge component of that.

I would take his suggestion as a compliment. "Honey, you're so beautiful and such an interesting person that men would pay to spend an evening in your company and not even expect to get laid."

When I was being physically abused at home, friends convinced me to run away.My boyfriend suggested the other girl and I perform so we could get food money. I went straight to a pay phone, called the National Runaway Hotline, did a 3way call with my M., and she sent me money for all of us to get back home. I dumped him for even considering this for me. I was 13.

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