T.M. asks from Flushing, NY on February 15, 2010
Work from Home - Fresh Meadows,NY
Are there any trustworthy work from home opportunities? I recently went back to work after having my 2nd child. When we had our daughter, we were able to rely on our parents for help (we paid both mothers) so that we could go back to work. After having my son, everyone's nerves are strained. My mother in law has to actually do something now and is no longer being paid to just play with a grandchild. (When it was just 1 child, my daughter was only home with my mother-in-law on the days my husband was able to work from home. My mother-in-law played with my daughter and shared her lunch with my daughter while my husband would take care of the disciplining, etc.) When my husband is not around, I get all the nasty comments about our parenting and how she no longer wants to watch the children. To my husband, she complains that I do not let her see her grandchildren. To her daughters, she complains about how much work we make her do, when the actual work that's done takes about 5 minutes of her time.
This has created hostile feelings from me towards my mother in law and my husband thinks I'm making things up or reading too much into things. To alleviate this issue, of wanting to limit the influence she has on my children (especially my daughter, because I do not want my daughter to grow up thinking beauty and materialism is all there is to life) and a multitude of other reasons, I am considering resigning from my job. To do this, I need to supplement our income somehow because living on my husband's salary alone will be a strain.
T.A. answers from New York on February 16, 2010
I can see how difficult this is for you since you are considering resigning. Maybe you can find someone else to watch the kids? In the meantime, there is this site called hiremymom.com
you have to subscribe but they have some great job opportunities for moms. A lot of different kinds of postings. Good luck!
V.B. answers from Dallas on February 16, 2010
I really understand what you are feeling at this moment. I have 4 kids, 10 and under, with no help, one income even though my spouse and I are both well educated, I have a Master in Conflict Management, but he is the sole bread winner because we could not afford day-care for 4 kids. I have been caring for them for the past 10 years, fully, no day-care just occasionally when we both have to be out, seldom. I have a mother, no mother-in-law, she passed 10 days before our wedding, our kids never had a chance to see her, but my Mom does not help out, she once spend 6 months with us, she was hysterical, unhappy even though she was not really babysitting, but I just notice that we can not count on her, so we decided to do our job, this is our responsibility and no harsh feelings, We do not complaint about it and we trimmed our expenses, and survived it. Sometimes, it is not about babysitting or so, it is about other stuffs going behind your back and people usually do not express openly those feelings. If your mother-in-law does not babysitt your children, she resent you for something else, I can tell and she want talk about it because you are her son's wife; unfortunately men do not see things that way, he might just feel that you are exaggerating the whole thing. If I were you, I would put the issue of babysitting aside, thank my MIL for what she did, have a honest coversation with her about your relationship and once that page is closed, hopefully you and her would get along better, but at the same time, I would not come back to letting her babysit the kids unless we are visiting, but she is the kids grand Mom and they deserve the relationship with her; just make it clear in your mind that she is not going to babysit the kids. I would not pay my Mom or MIL to babysit my kids, it changes the whole relationship, family is family, we should not confuse this. You can not fire your MIL the way you would fire your regular babysitter, do not pay in-law for such thing, if she wants to help, it should be out of love, not the out of the love of money.
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R.D. answers from Richmond on February 16, 2010
This may seem like an obvious answer (it was for me), but have you considered starting your own daycare business from home? I did that for a while when I was in school... stayed home with my kids, watched other kids (playmates! so much fun for my babies!), and had a part time job just so I would file my taxes at the end of the year. It was exhausting some days, but I made it a point to help out single mom's who couldn't afford 'real' daycare, and emotionally and financially, it really paid off in the long run.
Also, I was fortunate enough (when the economy was good) to work from home for a trucking company. THAT was a LOT of work (as I was the only employee other than the drivers and the owner)... but man, it was fun. I worked 7 days a week, and long hours, but I was HOME... trucking has gone down since no one is buying, but it's always worth a shot. Look online for over the road trucking companies in your area that are looking for dispatch people... most places are small ma and pa family companies that don't mind their employees working from home, since then they won't have to spend the money to rent office space.
One other thought, only because this is what I'm doing now, look up online any websites in your area that may need help answering support emails. I happened to get this particular job because my kids godfather owns the company, but there are tons of websites that could probably use the help, and since it's all online, no phone support, you can do it from home, in your jammies, while doing laundry, with kids screaming in the background. The pay isn't glamorous, but it's a paycheck, and when you factor in the money you're not spending on daycare, driving too and from work, work clothes, lunches, etc... that smaller paycheck is totally worth it since you're not spending most of it on those things!
I know I didn't touch on the MIL thing, but really... sounds like she needs to get a grip and realize everything you are doing for her son and your family!
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A.S. answers from Dallas on February 16, 2010
Check out the forum at workplacelikhome.com. It is a great place to learn legit ways to earn money at home, and they even post job leads and can tell you what to look for to see if it's a scam.
If you like to write you can supplement your income at associated content. Also check out Demand Studios, Textbroker, and Suite 101.
If you like to blog or want to get into blogging, check the The Niche Blogger program at http://www.thenicheblogger.com/amember/go.php?r=3549&...
You do have to pay to join, it's 19.95 a month but you can have a free trial to see what it's about. I love this program, Amy, the owner, walks you through what you need to do step by step. You don't need any knowledge about blogging or websites to get started. Also, what is great about this program is that you know it works because it is something that she actually does herself. She started 2 years ago and now she makes $5,000 a month for blogs she already has set up.
Also, check out KGB or ChaCha.com. Neither will give you a full time income, but it can help supplement your income. These are great because it requires no phone work and you can set your own schedule up.
Check out www.TreasureTrooper.com/minella I made 58$ last month and I did about an hour ever week night while I was watching TV. It's a very easy way to make extra money. I think of it as a hobby that makes me money.
If you have Facebook, check out http://cloudcrowd.com/i/65abd6 They offer tasks for you to do. I've heard it's very easy. I don't have any personal experience with it yet, but I am starting it today. But I have heard good things about it.
If you have any questions about any of this, I would be more than happy to answer them.
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P.W. answers from Dallas on February 16, 2010
I have my own Shaklee Business. Absolutely you can do this from home, probably putting in no more than 15 hours per week. Your kids can even be in the room while you are working for most things. I'm talking about your own business, not working for someone else.
Take a look at my website at the business section and if you have an interest contact me. I'd be happy to help you.
A word of caution.......don't get int he MIL trap. If you can politely tell your MIL how much you appreciate her but do not want to take advantage of her. Ask her what she is comfortable with in regard to babysitting and honor what she says. As far as the criticism.......do your best to smile and ignore her. Don't let that get to you. It will go far. I know! Easier said than done, but complain to a friend, not your husband or sister in law.
Hang in there!
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B.C. answers from New York on February 16, 2010
Have you looked into an au pair? Up front it's costly however you can break down the payments. Once he or she is in your home the actual weekly pay is close to 400.00 more like 360.00 however this covers all the children. You can schedule the hours as you need it. They drive so they can run errands for you and pick up and drop off your children. You just have to make sure you have the space i.e bed-room. By resigning how much will you loose and how much will you gain? Weigh your options very carefully. What will one income do to your tax return?? what about health coverage? are you all on your husband's plan if not can you all go on his plan now? Is your career something that you can pull out of now and jump back in at a later date? There are alot of issues that need to be addressed before you make a decision like this and I urge you to not make a decision based on emotion. Don't let your mother in law push you to make a decision that long-term may not be right. Good luck
M.M. answers from New York on February 16, 2010
I think that situation is unfortunate, and I'm sorry because I know how in-laws' influence can be. I, too, have been trying to find legitimate work from home opportunities to supplement my income. Could u let me know what u come up with? As for ur in-laws, pray!
B.E. answers from New York on February 17, 2010
Have you checked into www.toysofdiscovery.com Discovery Toys? You can build a team of others who sell and sponsor like you do, selling educational toys through home parties and other venues (schools, etc). You earn commissions and bonuses on your own sales as well as the sales of the people you sponsor. I have been part of the company for 15 years and just returned (last night) from this year's incentive trip to Puerto Rico. Our trip for 2, all expenses paid, for next year is to Costa Rica. You could be there with us if you join now and start working. We train and coach you! You only need a $35 deposit on our starter kit. Go to my site and contact me to get started.
C.B. answers from Dallas on February 16, 2010
I know that family issues like this can be so hard. Everyone has a different feeling so everyone has different ideas on how to fix it. I am sorry for your frustration.
I know there are a lot of scams out there about working from home. I have always had the dream to work at home with my kids so I have been scammed a couple times. I have finally found my perfect fit. I love it because I get to help others plus it doesn't matter if my girls are talking or playing in the background. We are a team of moms so a lot of us have kids in the background. I love what I do and it could be the right fit for you too. You can request info. at my site http://www.AttainingMyDreams.com and I will personally call you back with details. There is no risk or money up front. You get all the information and then decide if it is right for you.
Good luck with your MIL and your search!