Hey mamas,
Well I need some etiquette advice from some of you in the know about these things ;) I was given a baby shower at my church today it was so nice. No-one wrote down who gave what bc it is always hard at our church baby showers, lots of people laughing and talking and kids running around, usually the rule is the mom to be just says a general thanks and calls it a day! But some people really did some special things, one lady knit a baby blanket, people gave money, I mean really I was not expecting that out pouring honestly. So I want to send thank you cards of course, but I cannot leave anyone out. One lady gave a gift but I am not quite sure what. I have a couple things I am not sure who gave them. So I am thinking by process of elimination she must have given that. But I hate to be specific and be wrong! I am sure for everyone else, so should I be specific and hope she will understand if that isn't what she gave that it was just crazy in there at the time I was opening gifts and be happy I sent her a card. Or is there a more vague way to word the card without it coming through I really don't know what she gave? Any wording ideas or advice would be great, thanks!
Thanks ladies :D I will do what you guys suggested wording wise, plus she helped in the kitchen so I will also thank her specifically for that. I can't ask her unfortunately in a timely enough manner bc I am due any day now and won't be at church next week, they were a little late on my shower, we were all glad I actually got to be there!! So I won't have a chance to ask and I really want to get the cards out before I go into labor and it gets overlooked with a new baby to care for etc. Thanks again :D
I would say, "Thank you so much for coming to the baby shower and for your lovely gift. I really appreciate that so many people came, we have a great church group that I am so happy to be a part of. Thank you for helping to make it a special day for me."
If I received a card with the wrong present named in it I would be kind of upset, particaularly if I had gone to the trouble of knitting it/making it/ etc.
Dear _________,
Thank you for being such a special part of my day! It really meant alot to have you there. Thank you so much for your thoughtful gift. We will put it to good use!
Sincerely,
____________
This or something like it is what I usually write and it is always well recieved. Good luck!
M
Do I understand correctly that you're only not knowing who gave the one gift? I suggest that you can send thank you cards to each of the ones you know or list them by name and gift. I'd ask the one woman if you're right that this is the gift she gave and then write the thank you cards.
Well, I had that situation occur with my wedding.. I had a few gifts whereby cards were lost or left off.. So, in fear of being rude, I narrowed it down just as you did and called a few remaining people. Well, turned out, someone did not bring a gift and felt in their words "caught" .. of course, that was NOT my intention, I simply wanted to thank everyone.. Lesson learned for me... now, IF I am ever in doubt, I just write, thank you so much for having attended "such and such" and for your generosity.. Having you there, made the day even more special.... (anyway, something along those lines)
Now, it might mean you send a gift to someone who didn't bring anything, but I suppose what is worse, not sending a card to someone that may have or sending a card to someone who really didn't bring anything.. I guess you just play it by ear..
oh and that person who supposedly was "caught" :) said, oh we are getting you a gift certificate but it hasn't come yet..... ummmm that was 16 years ago... still haven't seen that gift.. hahahahhaha seriously though..
my best to you and yours
Wow...my first idea is that someone needs to be named as the "list keeper" at these showers from now on!!! To me there is simply no excuse for not being sure that the bride to be or mom to be...is able to properly thank the people who have come to the shower and taken the time to get something, or even worse make something for the occassion!! Just because it hasw always been this way isn't a good reason to not correct an obvious problem.
I agree with the other Moms about the general wording of a thank you note...they had some great ideas for you. If you know a large majority of the gift givers and gift combinations,I think I would be tempted to go to the ones that you are not sure of, apologize to them for not knowking and ASK them which of the wonderful gifts they gave you!!!
