Why Do All Boys Just Have to Be So Immature?

Updated on October 18, 2016
H.S. asks from Megargel, AL
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Boys are always running around doing stupid stuff like drugs, alcohol, or crime. I know boys that all they talk about are a girl's butt or boobs. Please help!

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Thank you guys. I followed your advice and just ignored them. When I started ignoring them they just left me alone. Thank you guys for all your help.

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M.P.

answers from Portland on

Sounds like a teen issue. I suggest you find different friends. Not all boys do these things.

BTW Some girls do those those things, too.

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S.T.

answers from Washington DC on

all boys aren't.
why do all girls lump boys into a single category and ask unanswerable questions?
khairete
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M.D.

answers from Pittsburgh on

Meanwhile, the nice boys are asking "why don't girls ever notice the nice guys?"

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S.G.

answers from Los Angeles on

It sounds like you are paying attention to the wrong boys. These are the boys who like to draw attention to themselves. I suggest you ignore them. There are plenty of nice boys out there, they just aren't making spectacles of themselves.

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C.T.

answers from Santa Fe on

My advice is to stay away from boys like that. You don't want to be around people like that. There are plenty of boys who are mature and want nothing to do with drugs, alcohol, crime, etc. The best thing for you to do right now is to focus on your education and your goals in life. The more educated you are the more likely you will be around other educated people who are more mature than this. So focus on yourself and bettering yourself right now and ignore those boys. Go do your own thing and work towards your goals.

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J.B.

answers from Dallas on

All boys are not immature. I'm a piano teacher. Some boys are immature, and some are avid learners. Neither do all girls have a great concentration span. Don't date until you find a guy that's worth his salt. They're out there. In the meantime, work on being the person you want to be!

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B.C.

answers from Norfolk on

Are you about 11 years old?
First - forget about boys for 5 to 8 years.
Better yet - wait till you're 25, have an education, a degree, and a career.
Work on cultivating your own maturity and then maybe you'll see some in others.

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J.S.

answers from St. Louis on

Nothing about your question or what happened makes sense. You posted this 18 hours ago so around 6 or so in the evening. If you were out with a bunch of people and started ignoring the guys that were annoying you they wouldn't immediately leave you alone. Of course your question implied you weren't around guys at the moment so were you just bored at your slumber party and thought this would be amusing?

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A.L.

answers from Atlanta on

Read what Diane B. said again. Some boys do the things you describe, however they're just loudmouths who don't realize that there are much better things to do with their time. At this point, you probably will do best to hang out with your gal friends and ignore the loudmouths.

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K.A.

answers from San Diego on

While I doubt this is a genuine question, I will answer anyway because it is worth answering.
Not all boys are like this. In fact most boys aren't, younger boys all the way to adults. Boys like this just tend to be the loudest, most aggressive and demand the most attention.
Don't give them attention. They don't deserve it. You are better than that! It is OK to stand up for yourself and say this is not OK and that you want no part of it. If they threaten you, don't stay quiet. Call the police if you have to. This behavior is not OK and you do not have to put up with it at all! The more girls and women alike stand up and demand respect the most boys and men will learn to respect them.

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B.P.

answers from Chicago on

As the mother of a boy (well, he's 14), I think boys manage their emotions in ways that we find immature. They are socially awkward, they have difficulty managing their anger, and sex is both enticing and scary.

People of both genders do stupid stuff to handle stuff which disrupts their emotional well-being.

People usually grow out of it. Well, not everyone....but most do.

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J.C.

answers from Philadelphia on

I watched this with my 8th grade daughter and sent it to my 18 yo daughter to watch while she is away at college.

If your reluctant to click on the link because I am a stranger, go on YouTube and search for the video "What every eighth grade girl needs to hear."

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bUZJT4CugjA

Also, a lot of the so called "nerds" in high school end up being the successful men once they are adults. Make new friends. Join the school band or theatre program. There are lots of nice boys out there.

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W.W.

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H.,

How old are you?

I take offense that you are loping MY boys in your statement "ALL BOYS" - mine are 14 and 16 and honors students. They are active in JROTC, soccer, baseball and lacrosse.

My boys do NOT talk about LADIES that way. My boys do NOT do drugs or alcohol (they have tried beer, wine and an alcoholic drink in front of me and/or their dad (who I am married to) nor are they criminals.

Sounds like you need to find a better class and crowd of people to hang around with on a Friday night. Do your parents know where you are and who you hang with?

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N.P.

answers from Chicago on

you're hanging out with the wrong crowd then!! My girls have never had boys (or anyone) talk to them like that and they are both in high school now. Find the crowd that has more of your morals, no drinking, no drugs and no crime! That's the type of crowd where the boys don't talk only about girls body parts....

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S.W.

answers from Detroit on

My DS is 15 and we've taught by word and deed his entire life that he is to treat girls as he would treat me. To the best of my knowledge he does just that. I know he treats his teachers the same way because they've told me. Generalizations are never productive.

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S.B.

answers from Houston on

Perhaps its not the boys but you. Perhaps its the company you keep. Seems you are looking at the wrong type of boys. Work on yourself first.

FYI - as the mother of a boy, this isn't how most act. Just saying....

R.A.

answers from Boston on

You have not met my son then.. just don't hang out or be around those boys and you won't get into trouble..

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S.R.

answers from Phoenix on

The boys are probably saying the same thing about the girls.

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