E.C. asks from Spring Hill, FL on January 12, 2009
Whining - Spring Hill,FL
I have two beautiful children, a 9 year old girl named Bailee and a 6 year old son named Brandon. They are complete opposites.. Bailee is very articulate and quiet, loves to read and has been a very easy child. She very rarely complains or whines. My son on the other hand, is a little love bug and loves to be the center of attention making everyone laugh..BUT, he is at this whining stage that is driving me nuts!! If he doesn't get his own way or if he doesn't do whatever it is he's doing perfectly he whines terribly. Can someone please help me on how I should handle this. His whining is like nails on a chalk board to me!!! I have tried several things such as, ignoring it, putting him in time out for it, and even taking away his privilages. Please Help!!!
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K.M. answers from Tampa on January 14, 2009
I say rush to Children's Behavior Help website- they have helped me so much. Best of luck! Kia
L.C. answers from Tampa on January 20, 2009
My daughters pre-k teacher has a pink chair, they don't call it time out, just the pink chair. Rather than saying "stop whining", she just simply says, "if you want to whine that's fine but you need to go in the pink chair to do it."
works great for them,
A.D. answers from Fort Myers on January 13, 2009
There is a great book called "Parenting is Heart Work" that helped us with our whining daughter, also a 2nd child. Now I can't say she never whines, but I deal with it differently now. The authors teach about 'taking a break' instead of 'time out.' This book was very life changing for me as a parent. The authors did a live seminar in Cape Coral a little over a year ago, which lead me to studying their book, philosophies, and techniques. Check it out.
N.L. answers from Naples on January 13, 2009
Hey There,
On the other side of kids! I remember telling my girls when they would whine that I could not understand what they were saying and when they could talk to me in a normal voice I would respond. Walk away. You will be surprised, that when you do not give in to their trap they are trying to maniupulate you with, the ball is back in your court. They will only get away with what you let them get away with!
R.S. answers from Tampa on January 13, 2009
I have an 11 year old and an 8 year old. My younger one has more whining issues as well. I have found that whenever either child whines, I give them 15 minutes of chores around the house. This of course won't work for every child, but instead of taking something away, I added something they don't want to do, and it works. Whenever I would take things away, he would say find take it all. Adding maybe gives them more control and then they don't feel like I am going to take everything away from them. However, every child is different, but the more you try, and find what works, stick with it. Good Luck.
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