I know you said you didn't want to go to the Sybaris, however if you have never been there you might want to reconsider. My husband and I just returned from a night at the one just outside Milwaukee and it was SO romantic! I had never wanted to go there thinking it was kind of sleezy...but to the contrary it's perfect! Our suite had a HUGE jacuzzi tub, fireplace, beautiful 92 degree pool, massage chair, steam room, etc. plus a mini kitchen perfect for bringing your own snacks, refreshments, etc. If you can go on a Sunday night (or other week night) you save a ton of money, plus they let us check in early and check out late at no additional charge. The Bayshore Mall is just 15 minutes away with a bunch of nice restaurants (Cheesecake Factory, BD's Mongolian Grill, etc.) and more shops than you'll be able to get to. This is the 2nd time we've gone and my husband is actually the one who booked it this time...he LOVES going there and you really feel a million miles away from home. We both strongly recommend it and I guarantee you'll both love it!
p.s. I am a TOTAL clean freak when it comes to hotels and everything was immaculate! The tub was SPOTLESS which is rare in even the nicest of hotels!