A.M. asks from Fresno, CA on June 11, 2008
When to Tranistion to Toddler Bed; When to Potty Train?
We have one four month-old child, are planning to start again by the end of the year, so I have a few questions about development timelines. How long do babes stay in their crib, that is, when do they transition to a toddler bed? Also, at what age do they start/finish potty-training? Thank you!
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K.B. answers from Denver on June 12, 2008
My kids are 2 years, 2 months apart. My older one crawled out of his crib around 14 months, so we put a tent on it until he was 2. We needed the crib for baby #2, so we put him in a big boy bed right around 2 years old. But, the baby really didn't sleep in the crib for several weeks anyway. If they are any closer than 2 years, you'll probably need a second crib.
I don't remember having 2 in diapers as being a big deal. We did that for about a year before we started potty training the first. Boys potty train later than girls, and it is a long process. It doesn't usually happen over night. I spent a lot of time in the bathroom, and never could have done it with a newborn to take care of.
Everyone is different, this is just my experience! :)
K.H. answers from Salt Lake City on June 12, 2008
I don't remember when I put my daughter into a toddler bed but it was probably about 1 1/2. As for potty training, it is very hard on you when you have two in diapers at the same time (my mom did that). You would want to potty train as soon as possible. With my daughter, she was potty trained at 2 1/2. It took about 3-4 days.
A.W. answers from Denver on June 12, 2008
One of the baby books suggested switching from crib to toddler bed when the child was old enough to ask for it, which would tend to fall around 3 years old. I think it was Happy Baby, Healthy Sleep Habits by Weisblutt (sp?). I think I switched my oldest and my twins around 2. Both of my twins would climb out of their cribs around this age and only one could climb back in to go to bed, so we transitioned them for this reason. I've had friends who did keep them in cribs until 3 and have heard of them being transitioned early - like 18 months. The sterotype of potty training is girls will train while they are 2, maybe 2 1/2 and don't even try with boys until they are close to 3. My kids followed the sterotype pretty closely. Good luck!
K.D. answers from Denver on June 11, 2008
We have a crib that makes into a toddler bed and only use it if there is time. Our littlest went into a twin at around 20 months with no problems.
As far as potty training, we use the method in the book Toilet Training in Less Than a Day by Dr. Nathan Azrin. We love it. It works as young as 21 months. I have a friend who has used it with all 5 of her kids, as well as several other friends who swear by it. We've done it right before or right after the second birthday with both our boys with great success. The method also seems to work even with a new baby in the picture or soon to arrive without regression.
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S.D. answers from Denver on June 12, 2008
In my opinion, leave them in a crib as long as they will stay there. This gives YOU the flexibility of moving them when YOU are ready. If you are worried about them getting restless, and destructive, each night after they go to bed, put in different toys for them to wake up to. My daughter stayed in her crib until she was 3. She was secure, and happy, and we were in charge of when she got out of bed, which taught her patience, and to self entertain. With my son, who transitioned at 2.5, it was because he was starting to crawl out of the crib, and I was worried he'd fall and hurt himself. Once we put him in a bed, we had to work for about 2 weeks to teach him to stay in his room and go to bed. Either way, I would definitely get them a regular sized bed. They outgrow the toddler/crib size too soon as toddlers.
T.T. answers from Denver on June 12, 2008
You'll have to pay attention to your child, because they all transition at different times. My son was 22 months when I moved him to a twin size bed. But my daughter is 22 months now and I wouldn't even think about putting her in a regular bed. She'd never stay in it. I've heard that it's recommended to leave them in a crib until age 3. But I think about 2 is pretty standard for switching to a bed. If your child can climb out of the crib themselves, then it might be time to transition. If you are expecting another baby and need the crib, you might want to think about getting a bassinet or using a travel crib in your room for a while, if you don't feel your older child is ready to leave the crib. If the child is ready, transition him/her to the bed before the new baby arrives so that he/she does not associate the loss of his/her bed with the arrival of the new baby.
As far as potty training goes, you will have to watch for signs of readiness. Like an interest in the potty, telling you when his/her diaper is wet or messy, not liking being in a wet or messy diaper, ability to take of and put pack on own clothings, things like that. My son was not potty trained until he was almost 3 1/2. My daughter, however, is training right now (she's two in August) and doing pretty well. So just pay attention to your child. There's really no right or wrong time to do either of those things. Right now, just really enjoy the time with your baby. The times goes so fast!!
W.N. answers from Denver on June 12, 2008
You have to see what works for your child. I am expecting my third and let me tell you, my first two were totally different when it came to these things. My first was potty-trained at 2, and my second is no where close. As far as moving to a bed, you should either do it a few months before the baby comes or a few months after, not right around the same time. Some great books I would recommend are Siblings Without Rivalry and Dr. Sears' The Baby Book. If you need a doula when you do get pregnant again, let me know! I'm in Denver!
J.H. answers from Billings on June 11, 2008
It seems that type of stuff varies a lot from family to family. In general, it seems like most kids move out of the crib anywhere between 18 months and 3 years, and potty training is about the same. For us, my daughter got a toddler bed at about 2 years old, and potty trained fully by about 2 years and 2 months; my son is 21 months and is still in diapers and still in a crib, so I am not sure what his timeline will be. Each kid is different! You are still pretty far off from those things, so I would say just take cues from your child as he/she gets older, and see what you are comfortable with when the time comes.
D.K. answers from Denver on June 12, 2008
There isn't a huge "real time" on any of these things. Most kids are ready for a big kid bed, toddler bed/twin bed by two years of age. Getting a bedrail helps the transistion as well as baby gating their bedroom. As far as potty training, that is WAY down the road for you. You didn't say if your baby was boy or girl as that can make a difference. Girls typically are easier and quicker in training around two to three years of age, boys around the three year mark. It is totally dependent too on your child's personality too on both those things. If your child has an attachment to the crib, gets up out of bed and isn't a good sleeper then it could take longer. As far as potty training some kids get it right away around two but you cannot push it or force it, they have to have all the "ready" signs, like knowing the urge, being able to pull pants down and up and waking up most naps and mornings dry. Dont' worry, enjoy your baby being a baby and it goes by so fast anyway, with number two it goes by even faster, enjoy every second of them being a baby!!
J.L. answers from Denver on June 11, 2008
First of all toddler beds are a waste of money. At 18 months my first had to transition because we had a baby on the way. We went straight to twin bed and put a step stool at the foot so she could get off and of course with a guard rail. She did fine. Toddler beds are not for long and then you have to buy another anyway. Her sister is a bit different. She turns 2 today and is still in the crib. Ironically, she tried to get out of the crib last night and fell. We are having #3 in October and I was hoping by August to transistion her only because we were waiting to buy another twin bed but I think we need to sooner. Potty training: Their little muscles are ready to "understand" the process by 18 months. We used training pants and my now 4 year old was trained by 2 1/2 (with the help of childcare). The second, I am doing on my own and its more difficult with away from home schedules but I am trying to be consistant with training pants and frequent trips to the potty when we are at home. I just want her trained by October. Great that you are getting ready already. Good planning....
H.F. answers from Pocatello on June 12, 2008
Congratulations on your baby! At 4 months old there are a lot other milestones that you and your precious baby will experience before yu even come close to toddler beds and potty training! Slow down and enjoy your baby as s/he is right now! Don't worry too mouch about the future, and don't be in too much of a hurry to have another baby. Your baby's first year of life is so full of new discoveries and so full of joy. Take time to appriciate your baby, s/he will be grown before you know it. That said, I have not even used a toddler bed, I think that they are a waste of money, I have kept my babies in their crib unitl 2-2 1/2 years old and then just put them in a twin bed, some families find it easiest to put a twin mattress on the floor at first so that the child does not have far to fall if they roll off, but my babies were not rollers. As far as potty training, it is so variable. I tried too hard and too early with my first child and it was discouraging and difficult for both of us, she ended up potty trained at about 34 months old. With my second child I was much more laid back and didn't stress over when she would train and I didn't worry about accidents too much (the worst thing you can do is scold a child over accidents) and lo and behold that child was potty trained at about 34 months of age! Some kids are not fully trained until 3 years old or even a little older and that is perfectly normal and OK! I think that many parents stress too much over potty training because they are trying to save money on diapers or because they are afraid of having two kids in diapers at the same time, and while those are valid concerns they are NOT GOOD REASONS to push a child who is not ready into potty training. The more you push a child who is not ready the harder and longer the whole process will be. So there is my emminent wisdom gleaned from being a mom of 2 and a former nanny. Good luck with your baby and remember to breathe in and out and sleep as much as the baby will let you!