K.B. asks from Islip, NY on May 06, 2010
When Did Your Child Start Sitting up Unattended?
My son is 6 1/2 months and he sits very well between your legs or in a high chair or bumpo but I can't just seat him on a floor without toppling to one side. My pediatrician told me he should be able to by 6 months so the last time we saw her she said I expect you to be sitting by yourself next time I see you which is in two weeks?
K.M. answers from New York on May 07, 2010
Don't remember exactly because my son is almost 3 now but it definitely was between 7 and 8 months. No sooner than that and I remember wondering (like you) when he would. His ped is probably just speaking in general terms. Don't worry!
M.L. answers from Hartford on May 06, 2010
6-7 months but they are all different, i would not stress it yet, he is only 6 1/2 months.
M.R. answers from Columbus on May 06, 2010
I would say that you have a very responsive Pediatrician who is aware that developmental milestones are important guidelines, and speaking as a parent who had children that missed these milestones and had a pedicatrician ignore them, I would say be happy that yours is aware of them, and keep vigalant if this turns out to be a trend and not a case of one milestone being on the late side of typical.
That being said, there is no reason to stress about not sitting up without falling over just yet, but thank your lucky stars that your pediatrician is going to catch a developmental delay sooner than most would, which is the very best care you can get. Keep in mind, children who are just a few weeks off in getting a milestone look just like kids who have a real delay. If yours turns out to be that kid, you will be very grateful for the earliest possible intervention, and if it turns out not to apply to your son, you can rest assured that someone's son out there was the recipient of early intervention such that they have a real chance to be a typical is your child will turn out to be. Bravo for you Pediatrician. I would not change, and I so wish I had such a proactive doctor when my daughter was little.
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T.B. answers from Philadelphia on May 06, 2010
Every child is different on development. My 1st child was sitting on her own by 7.5mo., but she perferred the bumbo. 2nd child was around the same 6--7mo. She's got high expectations, but maybe he will be in that time!
Have you tried sitting with him between your legs? He'd have some support and would mostly be on his own. I'd do that and make a game out of it & didn't realize til now that that may have helped.
Good luck & I'm sure there's nothing to worry about!
K.P. answers from Dallas on May 06, 2010
My daughter did not sit by herself till she was 8.5 months. However my son did so when he was 5 months. Every child is different.
W.T. answers from San Diego on May 06, 2010
Ignore the ped! Or find a new one. You cannot put an exact timeline on these things!!!! They are GUIDELINES! My older son sat, rolled, crawled and walked "late" according to the guidelines. He is a bright, "normal" 30 month old.
My secon one is 6 1/2 months and sits up unattended, but falls here and there as he reaches for toys.
Your son seems fine. I recently switched peds b/c I was tired of hearing the broken record of "shoulds". Found one who can recognize a healthy normal baby when they see one!
T.F. answers from New York on May 07, 2010
I don't appreciate that dr. giving the baby a "deadline." I would consider switching drs. There is a range of time during which your baby will reach each stage and you have to let him develop in his own way. Keep letting him sit up with support such as a boppy or between your legs and his muscles will develop.
S.M. answers from Mobile on May 06, 2010
My son is just over 7months & has been sitting without support for maybe two weeks. He still topples over after a while if he gets tired. I think it just takes time for them to practice & build the muscles. If you have a boppy or pillow that goes around, you can have him practice sitting in there with you helping him at first. Just do short stretches of time at first. Remember, it's exercise for him, so a few minutes here and there throughout the day will help him build his muscles. Within a couple of weeks, he'll be sitting more steadily on his own for longer periods of time.
K.K. answers from Albany on May 07, 2010
Babies have to go through some pretty specific stages of development in order to thrive, yet in today's world, we are so concerned about the health of our babies that we may sometimes actually hurt their development! For example, we don't put them on their bellies so that they don't get SIDS; we put them in carriers, swings, and pouches, and they don't develop the neck, shoulder, and back muscles they need to be able to roll over and evenually sit up. This is the TLR reflex which you see when your baby does the "superman" when you hold him over your head. Also it shows up when you put him on the floor on his tummy and he holds his head up. This is NOT muscular yet (at 3 months), because he hasn't developed the muscles; it is a reflexive action. The muscles actually develop from doing this reflexive action over and over again. And the only way for this to happen is to have tummy time on the floor.
So play with him. Lots. On the floor. On his tummy. Do this several times a day, and he will do fine. If you want to learn more, look up Tonic Labyrinthine Reflex, primitive reflexes, or neuro-development. Have fun with your son. they are so little for such a short time! (My boys are 16 and 18!)
K. Johnson, MS Ed
K.F. answers from Los Angeles on May 06, 2010
My son started sitting up right when he turned 6 months. My friends daughter started sitting up at 4 months, and I have heard of babies sitting up around 8 months as well so it is not uncommon for it to take a little longer for some.