S.L. asks from Lakeside, CA on August 08, 2009
What to Take to Hospital.
My daughter and I went to her one day Lamaze class today. I did think that much of the information was great. I am a bit overwhelmed by the amount of things they suggest to take. It's all new to me because even though I had 4 children, I was never in labor the way others were. The labors were fast and I went from nothing to transition. I didn't take anything personal to the hospital and back then they didn't really encourage it anyway. Now they are talking about how my daughter could be in active labor for 10-12 hours and they seem to be adamant that I'll need to have all kinds of things to keep her comfortable, food for myself, music for her, and the list is really long. I will be her primary support through the whole thing. My oldest daughter may be there for some of it, but I don't know how much. Then I plan to stay in the hospital with her and room in so that I can help and make sure she can rest and shower and even go to the bathroom without the fear of baby snatching.
So what did you take you didn't use? And what did you forget you really wish you had? How are we supposed to come with so many things when we don't know for certain that she'll be kept? I'm really anxious about the idea of laboring for a long time at home because if I had tried that I would have given birth at home! I know I am supposed to throw my own experience out of this. They even said in the class that they needed to tell their moms to shut up! But I had terrible medical care the first time because of the A$$umption that I would be in labor a long time. I don't want that to happen to my daughter. She is already effaced 90% and dilated to a 2.5. I want to be ready for staying long if we need to. But I want to be ready to book it to the hospital in case she has my experience. I will appreciate any suggestions anyone has. :)
S.
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So What Happened?™
Just letting everyone know that our little guy is here. It's been a rough day. He came out with serious breathing issues at first due to his mom getting a pain killer and then him surprising everyone and coming too quick. He also had the cord wrapped around his neck and his heart rate dropped in the last minutes of birth. He's in the Nicu. But he's had a better day than they thought he would. I've been up the better part of 24 hours and kind of too keyed up to sleep a lot now.
S.
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A.D. answers from Kansas City on August 09, 2009
After packing all but the kitchen sink for the birth of my daughter...I am only packing what are "essentials" to me this time around! A bit of music (Ipod), MY PILLOW with a scented dryer sheet tucked in the pillowcase to smell nice!! (the dryer sheet is to overcome the "industrial" hospital smells I hate! and a pillowcase that is colored or patterned so it doesn't get mixed up), slippers, and a few (or several!) pairs of comfy socks (in case they get nasty!), a pair of PJs or T-shirt and sweatpants (nothing fancy). (maybe just maybe a couple granola bars and juice boxes to sneak in if they say I can't eat or drink...I will anyway!) and a sleeper outfit to bring baby home in.
Congrats on the grandbaby to be!
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E.S. answers from Kansas City on August 09, 2009
well I was in labor from begining to birth for a total of 23 hrs. I took music but didn't really listen to much of it. mostly I watched tv and chatted with family that came to be there. my problem was I had a lot of nausea. what the hospital and my doctor didn't seem to understand that I wasn't a typical labor with contractions being 10 -15 minutes apart at the beginning. the whole labor I had only 1-3 minutes of contractions that were 1-3 minutes apart. I wish i had taken one of my own blankets due to the fact my daughter was born in febuary and it was cold. the heater in my room acted up and it got colder than it should have in my room.
also so long as she is dialated to 6 they should keep her. if they send you home because she isn't dialated enough i'd actually just stay close to the hospital especially since you had a quick labor. good luck to you two and just take whatever you think will make the stay less boring and more relaxing. (books,magazines,music)
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S.B. answers from Kansas City on August 09, 2009
I think all of these responses have covered most everything except for the child.
In addition to the mother's needs, don't forget the child. You'll want an outfit to bring the baby home in and don't forget the car seat! You can't take the baby from the hospital without it. It's best to have the car seat installed now, before the baby comes. I installed mine myself then went to my local fire station and asked the firemen working at the time to inspect it and make sure I had it properly installed. Not all fire stations inpect/install car seats so you might want to call yours and see if they do. If they don't they can usually direct you to someone who does. At my fire station (I live in a town small enough to have only one) they are also certified to install the seats if need be.
As for Mom, don't forget to bring something comfortable to wear home also. I had a c-section which was scheduled so I shouldn't have had to wait. When I arrived at the hospital the nurses gave me a blood sugar test which required me to drink 1 ounce of OJ. Unfortunately, one is not supposed to eat or drink anything for 8 hours before a surgery (even though I was awake for the whole procedure). I ended up having to wait 8 hours to have the c-section. I was so glad that I'd brought some magazines, wordfind puzzles and a hand-held game. I had brought a book also, but couldn't concentrate on it to save my soul!
I had brought gowns and a robe but used only the robe. There will be a lot of bleeding after the birth so I encourage your daughter to just wear the hospital gowns and not ruin her own clothes. Also, if she has a cell phone she should bring it. Many of my relatives are out of state so calling from my cell was much cheaper and easier than using the hospital phone. Also, I didn't know what room I was going to be in so my friends and relatives could just call me directly.
If she wants pictures, bring a camera. As I stated, my prodeedure was delayed. Around noon I convinced my husband to go get some lunch. Wouldn't you know it, the doctors decided to take me in before my husband got back. The anethesiologist was kind enough to film the proceedure until my husband arrived. In addition to the video we ended up with 75 still shots before we left the hospital 3 days later.
Finally, if she likes them, pick up some Sunsweet Ones prunes. For some reason, giving birth can cause constipation. My doctor told me that if I didn't have a bowel movement before I left the hospital I would have to have an enema. I don't know about your daughter, but the last thing I want is an enema! I was eating prunes like my life depended on it! I managed to escape the dreaded enema.
Congratulations on your new bundle of joy! God bless and good luck.
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K.B. answers from Kansas City on August 08, 2009
I have two children 2 and 4. My husband never needed much. A change of clothes really and change for the vending machines. He used my toiletries but we were both tired during the process, neither was thinking about food much. As for keeping her comfortable...Can you be comfortable during labor, I mean really? I guess if you have used the exercise ball or things like that they could be helpful. But honestly, active labor would be after her water broke and either she will have an epidural and want to sleep or will be in plenty of pain and you can't really help that. So I would concentrate on the personal items like toiletries, camera, baby book, and clothes and forget the rest. But that's just me.
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R.D. answers from Kansas City on August 08, 2009
Hi, S.!
Here is a link to another thread on what to pack in "the bag." http://www.mamasource.com/request/723034856082112513
I only have one baby, and from the time my water broke (at home) until I was finally holding my baby, 45 hours had passed! I was thankful I had TWO bags full of everything imaginable to make my stay 'comfortable.' The best thing most people don't think of that I brought was a nice lavendar-scented room spray. Hospital rooms may smell medicinal, musty, or like sick people. I was also glad I had a CD player and lullaby CDs for me to relax to and nurse my baby. A camera is a definate MUST - and when the hospital photographer comes in to take baby's picture, they should move over and let you take the same picture also.
Blessings!!
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R.M. answers from Topeka on August 09, 2009
I am with you...the things that they suggest that you bring to the hospital seem more like you are getting ready for vacation than birth!!!
I would say to go with what is important to your daughter. If she feels like it would be a good thing to have soft music to help her "relax"...take a cd player and her favorite music, if she was in a one day Lamaze class then I doubt that she is using a midwife who has taught her the benefits of a pilates ball for support or any of the other helps that they have out there. (my oldest daughters' baby was born in a birthing center with a midwife....no doctor present, they had EVERYTHING there, birthing stool,bathtub, pilates ball, etc etc etc). I would bring that things that your daughter would like to have after the baby is born, a robe, toiletries, house slippers, book to read, etc. For you...a good pillow, change of clothes,book to read, a flashlight so if you get up in the night you can move around without waking her or hurting yourself...lol. Snacks or change for the vending machines.
Good luck to you...and your daughter and congratulations on the new grandbaby.
R. Ann
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J.B. answers from St. Louis on August 09, 2009
Hi S.,
I was super prepared for our daughter's arrival - I had no idea what I would want or how long I'd labor, so we packed movies, my Ipod, books, sudoku puzzles, a journal, my laptop - anything to help distract me and make time go faster. I ended up delivering very quickly, but my husband enjoyed the movies playing during labor (he didn't want to see too much), and we both enjoyed them lying around the day after. I used my laptop once just to send out a "she's here" email, but I don't think I touched anything else. It made me feel prepared to have all that stuff nonetheless. Wish you the best!
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E.S. answers from Kansas City on August 09, 2009
well I was in labor from begining to birth for a total of 23 hrs. I took music but didn't really listen to much of it. mostly I watched tv and chatted with family that came to be there. my problem was I had a lot of nausea. what the hospital and my doctor didn't seem to understand that I wasn't a typical labor with contractions being 10 -15 minutes apart at the beginning. the whole labor I had only 1-3 minutes of contractions that were 1-3 minutes apart. I wish i had taken one of my own blankets due to the fact my daughter was born in febuary and it was cold. the heater in my room acted up and it got colder than it should have in my room.
also so long as she is dialated to 6 they should keep her. if they send you home because she isn't dialated enough i'd actually just stay close to the hospital especially since you had a quick labor. good luck to you two and just take whatever you think will make the stay less boring and more relaxing. (books,magazines,music)
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B.C. answers from Joplin on August 09, 2009
S., there are handy lists in several of the books I read leading up to the birth of my most recent baby. The things I remember that I took and came in soooo handy during labor were : lip balm, extra socks, mints/hard candy, and a stress ball ( I squeezed it through contractions really saved my hubbys poor hand ). Two of the books I enjoyed the most were What to expect when you are expecting, and also The Girlfriends guide to pregnancy.
I also took my own pillow because I am totally unable to sleep w/o my own pillow, but I did make sure I had two pillow cases over it to try and protect it.
Your daughter will want to take some Large sanitary napkins/pads, when I was at the hospital I was limited to how many they supplied and I went through a lot.
Congratulations in advance, I hope mommy to be and baby to be are both healthy and have no complications, it is an amazing experience!!!
B.
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M.B. answers from St. Louis on August 10, 2009
Wonderful that you can be there for your daughter! What I LOVED having was my own pjs and underwear and my shampoo, soap and lotion for that first shower. The hospital supplies are rough and impersonal and it feels better to have your own. I also had magazines to page through during labor (AFTER the epidural) and that was nice too.
I didn't have a towel and that would have been nice b/c theirs was small and scratchy on a sensitive body. It might be nice to have your own maxi-pads too--as theirs are HUGE and uncomfortable.
Some people have told me they liked wearing the hospital gowns/undies because they didn't want to stain/soil their own, but I just bought some that were special for the occasion so that I wouldn't miss them if they didn't come home the same as they went in.
Best of luck to you both!
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