Defer to anyone from MN posting on this. I had NEVER heard of sending money to the family (only to charitable causes they requested donations be made to) when someone died until about a month ago on this board! I've lived in GA all my life, and I've never known it to be done or witnessed it or anything. The only exceptions have been public donations mentioned on the news when a child of a poor family is killed or something tragic like that. Anyway, I believe several people posted on the other questions from MN who said that it is evidently a custom there. If it were me, especially with people of this age, I would just send flowers or a plant to the funeral home or donate to any charity they specified or send an Edible Arrangement of fruit to the family to enjoy in a few days.