What to Do When My Husbond Came to Me and Basicly Said He Never Loved Me?

Nobody should be treated like that. I would get out as fast as possible, and get a lawyer. Good luck, I hope you get it all sorted out.

What would you tell your daughters if they came to you with this question?

You deserve to be loved, and respected. Your children deserve to be loved and respected.

i think you have answered your own question....leave him for your sake and your girls sake. let him go. if you are a fraid of him than it's time to get out. sorry for being so blunt but you are not in a good situation for you or the girls.

I've read that love and hate are very close emotions. I could tell you to just give up and get a divorce and that would be easy. I'd rather give you some advice on how to fix the problems.

Only you can decide if your marriage is worth working for. I've know worse situations that turned around and became loving relationships. There may be other problems your husband is fighting which carry over to his saying that to you that have nothing to do with you or your family. He may be worried about keeping his job. This economy may be forcing his comany to cut wages or hours or such. As a man, and provider for my family, this weighed heavily on my mind at times. Worry/fear can cause a man to act and say irrational things.

See the movie, "Fireproof" with your husband if you can, but without him if you need to. Buy the companion book, "The Love Dare" and follow the instructions. Read and follow the book, "The Proper Care and Feeling of Husbands." I got the book after my wife and I hade been married for 30+ years and I learned a lot about my wife and she learned a lot about me and why I did what I did. Its writen about 75% for women and 25% for men.

My favorite picture is of a stork with a frog in his beak. The stork is trying to eat the frog. The frog has his hands around the stork's throat, trying to choke it. The caption says, "Never give up."

Good luck to you and yours.

Even though I I have never been this situation myself I think you do need to look after yourself and your girls. Life is way to short to be scared to live. As a single mother however I can tell you that's hard but worth every hardship.

Leave him as soon as possible.

I'm usually ALWAYS suggesting counseling in marriage situations, cause I'm a firm believer in making things work, and a very firm believer in the vows of marriage... That being said, if I were you , I'd leave that jerk, and not let him hurt me or my kids anymore (I know you said that he isn't physically abusive, but he IS being abusive with his words)! Let HIM be the one left out for a change! Don't let him do this to you anymore!

I was the happiest kid alive when I found out my mom divorced her very abusive husband. She beat her self, up though about it because she didn't believe in divorce. She never re-married, and carried on being a single mom with NO CHILD SUPPORT and we were poor- but she made things work! If you want my opinion, she didn't divorce him soon enough. GET that poison away from your daughters ASAP!!!

protecting yourself and your children is imperative. Please do not feel like a failure in ending an unhealthy relationship. Taking care of you and your children is a huge success!

i hate that you had to go through this. but i think you know what time it is. it is time for you to go.

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i hate that you had to go through this. but i think you know what time it is. it is time for you to go.

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i hate that you had to go through this. but i think you know what time it is. it is time for you to go.

For what's it worth my opinion is that when one person's foot is out the door like your husband's appears to be, there is little left to work on in the relationship. Besides as you describe him, he's not worth having as a loving, supportive husband. Let him go and move on with your life for the sake of yourself and your children. It will be hard but most things worth doing in this life are not easy which is a good clue it's the correct path. Plenty of us experience divorces these days so do what's right for your family. Good luck and don't waste time as it's too precious to squander. Lots of hugs during this difficult time.

Count your blessings and consider your prayers answered!

You really need to leave him for your safety and your girls. It sounds to me that he has already left the marriage, so you just need to make it official now. You deserve much better than he can give you and so do your girls. For a father to say that he "hates" is youngest is so wrong on so many levels, and it is not good for them to be there if he really feels that way. You don't say how old your girls are, but that can be very damaging emotionally to them at any age. Hopefully he has never said any of this to your girls because that would be aweful for them. I pray for you and your girls safety, and I hope you will have the courage to get out before it turns physical. Best of luck to you and your girls.

I am sorry that you and your girls are having to go thru this. I think the time has come for you to get out of this toxic relationship. I know you made a commitment, but no matter how long you hold on to your commitment, no matter what you do or say you can never make another person love you or love your children. Counseling can also not make someone love you again if they have made up their mind they don't and haven't. Sounds like he is ready to move on and so should you!

Very challenging situation. I would certainly look at a safe place to be if you truly feel his escalating temper will put you and your girls at risk. Take time to talk to lawyers, learn your rights. also be sure to document conversations, times he has said "he never wanted girls" or "he hates them" this can only help you in custody issues. Try to keep emotion and embelishments out of the accounts, just the facts.
Also document dates and events of temper flares and what instigated the situation.
You may also want to consider a PI if you think he is messing around. Could provide added clout to your case or any custody or alimony (I believe MO has alimony) rulings.
So sorry for you and I do understand the desire to follow through with your commitment to your husband and family, but there is a bigger picture to consider in this situation.

I'm sorry to say this but it sounds as if your husband has another you know what on the side. This is typical behavior for a cheater. They try to push the blame onto the other and say mean and hateful things typically out of character.
I would only hope in a way that is the reason your husband said those things to you because I cannot imagine anyone actually saying that they hated their children and it be honestly true. I hope he isn't actually that shallow and that selfish and I truly hope he is speaking out of anger.
I think if it were me of course I would want to know the truth but if it has become to the point you are afraid of him and fear for your children's safety then get out and get out fast. I am so very sorry this has happened to you-shame on him and if there is another shame on them, but you can rebuild your life and start over -it's his loss not yours and in time he will come to see that and by then its too late.
It appears you have tried your very best and don't blame yourself for this and don't worry about the feelings of failure that comes along when a relationship just doesn't work out. If he is abusive then its unhealthy to stay anyways for you and your kids. If you truly know in your hearts of hearts that you tried then that is that. That is all the verification you need and just ignore the comments that are coming from him because he obviously is one mental dude that most likely should be instutionalized. Seriously especially to say he hates a child? Who says that and means it? I tell you who one jacked up crazy you know what.