Wow! This is a touchy subject, but first and foremost, I would listen to your husband, because if anything happens to her as a result of your not doing as he asks, he will point the finger at you, and you don't want that. Let him be the daddy, and lay down those kinds of rules. I have also always believed that maturity and sense of responsibility means far more than age. My twelve year old is able to go places with her friends, but she will not be allowed to go on a date alone with a boy. I don't know how I will feel when she is fourteen, but I know fourteen year old girls that should still not be able to go out alone with a boy. When my daughter is out with friends, we text message back and forth frequently. If I send her a message, or try to call her and get no response within a reasonable amount of time, then I will get on my horse and go find her. I don't waste time waiting, I just get out and go. Obviously, she does not go places where I would not be able to look for her easily. Another thing too.....she knows that if anything happens or if she even is just made to feel uncomfortable, she has other reliable relatives that she can call for help or just a ride home if need be. Nobody wants to think about anything bad happening to their children, but things can happen right under your own roof, so there's no need to keep her caged in the house all the time, but do make your rules hard and fast, and take any safety precautions that you can, including surprise visits to the mall or wherever she is while she is out (not everytime so that it becomes predictable, but once in awhile so that she and her friends get the idea that you will be around).