How could your surgeon not know the complexities of after care? It sounds like your family and friends are talking about the old way of doing it, which involved a large abdominal incision and aftercare like they described. With any abdominal surgery they may require a weight restriction since your abdominal wall muscles help lift and pull when you pick up stuff, also stabilize the back. Maybe limited driving, but for only a short period of time. It was like that for abdominal hysterectomies. The old ways were pretty hard on the body, just like the slings, but now with laproscopic surgeries the recovery time is so much better, and with less invasion of the body, you have less complications. I would tell them to get a grip, that they are not physicians, and that you trust yours. But if you are uncomfortable, then I would advise you to talk to the physician that can answer your questions and reassure you, instead of some half-baked people who probably don't know what they are talking about....obviously. Why would you talk that way to someone getting ready to have surgery and make them nervous is beyond me? Shows an utter lack of compassion or respect in my opinion. I wouldn't necessarily think that any one person isn't telling you truth, or is lying to you (like the doctor as you implied), I just think that they are not getting information from the horses mouth--that is the doctor--and really don't understand the differences. Write your concerns and questions down. Quiz your friends further and ask if it was an open sling or a laproscopic sling? That is all the difference in the world. If you don't trust your doctor, who you chose, and trust your friends to give you better information, the ones without medical degrees, then I would suggest you find a different doctor or a different set of friends. Or tell them to mind their own beeswax, because they are freaking you out. And that you will be happy to talk about it after the procedure is complete. And then educate them about getting the correct information and learning to zip their mouths to keep people from getting nervous. Which is the last thing that you need at this point. I think you will be fine.