L.W. asks from Yonkers, NY on October 01, 2009
What Should I Be Doing with My 7 Month Old?
Hello Moms! I have a very happy 7 month old son who is curious about EVERYTHING. He is sitting up on his own now and trying to crawl as well. My question is what should I be doing while playing with him, and how often should I give him play time alone (supervised, of course). I feel like I should always be doing something with him, but the hubby says I spend TOO much time holding and playing. I just don't want to do too much or not enough and I want to make sure I am fostering his mental growth.
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L.L. answers from New York on October 02, 2009
It's just as important to let them be "free" as it is to play with them. I used to prop my little guy up on the floor with toys all around him, put some music on, and he'd love to just sit there and explore his stuff. Plus- you need a little break sometimes too! :) That being said, it sounds like you're a wonderful Momma who's just enjoying her baby boy. Keep at it!
M.B. answers from Rochester on October 05, 2009
You can't be playing too much with him. You can't be holding him too much - unless he is objecting and wants to get down on his own. He will learn to play independently. Sooooon enough. Enjoy every moment especially if he's going to be your only one. Dad needs to do the same, but you can't make someone do that.
Good luck, any questions just let me know,
M.O. answers from New York on October 02, 2009
You sound like an extraordinary, fantastic mom. I think whatever you're doing is probably perfect for your son's temperament, just from the way you phrased your request.
There are different schools of thought on how much parents should emphasize attachment vs. how much they should cultivate independent exploration. But as long as his day involves some balance between face-to-face contact, independent exploration, and shared looking ("look -- a doggy!"), then the percentage of time spent in each activity probably isn't significant. You can let that fluctuate from day to day, or according to his responses.
I also think chances are very good that you've intuitively observed a social temperament in your son, and you're giving him lots of social time because that's what he responds to. That's wonderful! Just be prepared for him to have 10 million friends tromping through the house for the next 15 years or so, LOL.
E.S. answers from Dallas on October 01, 2009
Hi, I have a 11-month-old and I think it is important for them to have independent time to play and discover. I put my daughter on a blanket surrounded by her toys and books and I stay close by, unloading the dishwasher or folding laundry and talk to her while she explores her surroundings. Listen to your gut and play with him when you think he needs you and let him explore when he is in that kind of mood.
K.P. answers from New York on October 01, 2009
Independent play time is just as important as interactive time. Teaching him how to entertain himself will pay-off in the long-run. When my little guy was in this phase we put lots of bright toys around him to encourage him to reach for things and crawl towards them. He also loved his exersaucer at this age for the same reason- he could explore on his own and was safe.
J.C. answers from New York on October 02, 2009
Do you like to read or do you have a hobby? Now may be the time to get back into it.
You can give you guy some time on his own while giving yourself some time as well.
D. answers from New York on October 01, 2009
I use to let my kids play alone as much as possible. They need to learn to entertain themselves, otherwise they will expect you to entertain them all the time. And no matter how me may like to it's just not possible. Let him play alone while you make dinner, or clean house. They learn from playing alone just as much as when you play with them.
D.D. answers from New York on October 02, 2009
play with him TONS!!! it goes so fast..you can never ever spend too much time with your baby. dont stress over it! just enjoy your little bundle of love!
M.W. answers from New York on October 03, 2009
Ii dont think you can spend too much time playing and holding you child! But with that said they do need alone time to play and try things out on their own to foster their own independance and learning. My 5 month will amuse himself when I check the inernet, do laundry and sometimes cook (which I am just finding the time to do again)My baby likes to sit in highchair or swing and watch me cook and fold laundry, clean etc., while teething on a toy etc ...or on a matt etc. So with those house activities I need to do it is enough alone play time for him. You know what feels right!