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What Do You Consider a BIG Gift for Christmas?

My husband and I grew up in very different economies. He grew up with a single mother of 3 kids in the deep south, working to simply survive. I grew up with my dad being an officer in the Navy, a mom who stayed home for years, and didn't see the struggle my parents made to give us what we had - though now I know the stories they tell.

My husband hasn't said anything, and I know he is glad we can provide for our kids, but I know he also thinks I go overboard on Christmas. I do. Not in useless stuff, but in things they will use and want or need. (And his smiles are almost as big as the kids on Christmas morning when he sees how happy they are!)

So what do you consider a BIG gift for your kids? Or do you not to big gifts?

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When my kids were younger the "big" gifts were usually around $100 (a new bike, an American Girl doll, etc.) or sometimes it would be a family gift, like one year we got an air hockey table. I spent about $250 per kid on average.
Now that they are teenagers it's MUCH harder. Everything they want and/or need is so expensive! Laptops, game systems, phones, ipods, fancy clothes, etc. Now the one big gift can easily be $300 but they don't get much else, just a stocking and a few other small items. It's sad because I love the thrill of opening a bunch of presents on Christmas morning, but I must say I also love the thrill of living within my means :)

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I'm planning to buy an Xbox - with games, that's going to end up being $300 . That's the biggest gift I've ever bought. But that's for both littles and dad. Other than that, the biggest gift usually would be a $75 bike or bigwheel when it comes to the little kids. Truth be told, I shop for a month and pick up a ton of under $20 stuff. If I totalled it up, it would be a lot of money. So, this year I'm going for quality over quantitiy.

My teenager, that's differant. Everything they want is expensive. Last year she asked for Uggs and $100 jeans. I buy what she asks for.

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Anything over $100.00 is a big gift to me. Some years we do big gifts and other years we don't. It really depends on the wants/needs/interests for that year.

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For kids? Things like a new DS, specialized bike (mountain/motocross) anything over $75 - although we can thank XBOX for $60 games that shoots the budget to crapper.

Adults? Jewelry, cars....LMAO!!! I do know a woman who got a new car for Christmas one year. A few years ago Bob bought me a Wii!! LOVE IT!!!

I really do try to keep things fun but not over the top - try to limit to 3 presents and some smaller ones...stocking stuffers...reminding my kids that Christmas is about GIVING and not receiving and more importantly the birth of Christ...

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When my kids were younger the "big" gifts were usually around $100 (a new bike, an American Girl doll, etc.) or sometimes it would be a family gift, like one year we got an air hockey table. I spent about $250 per kid on average.
Now that they are teenagers it's MUCH harder. Everything they want and/or need is so expensive! Laptops, game systems, phones, ipods, fancy clothes, etc. Now the one big gift can easily be $300 but they don't get much else, just a stocking and a few other small items. It's sad because I love the thrill of opening a bunch of presents on Christmas morning, but I must say I also love the thrill of living within my means :)

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Anything that is $100 or more is a big gift. I learned that doing quality over quantity is much better. I have friends that have 20 gifts per kid to open on Christmas, and it's mostly junk, but they do it for the wow factor on Christmas morning. Our kids receive 1 big gift, something very special that they are asking for, and a group of other gifts that are in the $20-30 range each. We try to stay at $500 for everything, spending $250 on each of them. We do a stocking too but it all probably costs about $20.

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Anything over $100.00 is a big gift to me. Some years we do big gifts and other years we don't. It really depends on the wants/needs/interests for that year.

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The BIG gift is usually the one gift your recipient WANTS the most. Could be as big as a bike or as small as an iPod.
With my kids there were usually 2 BIG gifts, the one they wanted, like a new vid game or whatever and then the one WE wanted them to have like a new bunkbed set or whatever we thought they actually NEEDED. Santa brought the one they WANTED, Mom and Dad gave them the one they NEEDED.

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Ha! Another Navy Officer's Daughter here... who NEVER knew we were poor growing up. Ever. Even though we were below the poverty line, always, looking back. Officers make less than teachers (significantly less), but we had it soooo much better off than enlisted families. That wasn't why we didn't know we were poor, though. We didn't know because my parents rocked. Mayo sammies for a week (because of course, officers "can't" be on WIC/stamps even though we all qualify) was an "exciting" thing in our house (Oh boy! Kids! Guess what WE'RE going to do?!?!). As was mac'n'cheese for dinner for a week. And stateside Dad would commute an 1-2 hour+ each way so we could live in a biggish house with a yard...Anyhow... cool parallel aside.

It REALLY depends.

I save a lot of our "needed" things for xmas. New clothes, blankets, cooking things, house stuff, electronics... ALWAYS gets wrapped up and put under the tree or into stockings.

A lot of our "big" (kids) gifts are actually super cheap, so it's a hard thing to quantify. The $250-$300 Flip we got for $50 (cybermonday, I get almost every electronic year round on cybermonday). An ipod was a handmedown (free). We buy year old games ($15 instead of $60) for the xbox, the xbox360 itself is a refurb one that we got for 1/3 the price. Classes and memberships (like lift season pass, or zoo membersip, or drama camp) we'd be buying anyway, but this way they're all exciting to "find" what cool things we get to do this coming year. These are all examples of 'most wished for' presents in our house. The feather blankets/pillows/etc (fun to wrap) are from IKEA (as is a lot of the cooking stuff) which is super cheap. I very definitely go for VOLUME, but it's not "junk". It's mostly stuff we need/use EVERY DAY.

This year, we have quite an expensive gift coming from Santa, because our TV crapped out on us almost 3 months ago. Instead of replacing it... Santa is going to bring one in 2 more months. It will be a family gift (like the xBox), and for now we get along without one (computers make that not much of a hardship).

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We do the whole "big gift" thing as well, or at least we try to. In years past the kids have both gotten bikes, or a giant Barbi dollhouse, or a Wii all of which are considered the big one. This year Mike is likely getting an Xbox360 (and not much else) & I want to get a dressform & nice fabrics for Hailey, my little budding clothing designer. Though not equal in price, they should provide about equal amounts of happiness. We also do several smaller gifts as well. It's getting harder & harder to keep things even at least in numbers because we're a take-turns-opening kind of family so I don't want my son to open his Xbox & have nothing else to do while his sister opens 10 more things, but that might be what happens this year.

For each other we do very little because it seems silly to spend our own money on ourselves like that. We do always make stockings for each other & that's been my favorite part since I was a little kid anyway.

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A big gift is anything over $40... The kids and my husband each get one 'big' gift (this year, bunk beds for the girls and xbox live for the husband), OR, I do one big 'family' gift (wish I could afford rock band 2, but I can't)... Then everyone each gets 3 or 4 small things for themselves, plus stocking stuffers.

We live paycheck to paycheck (sucks!), but I like seeing the kids get excited over Christmas :)

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