What Did You Do (Or Didn't You Do) for YOUR Bachelorette Party?

I had a bachelor party. It was hosted by my best man. It was like a bridal shower of years ago. The theme was "tools a husband needs."

I received screw drivers, wrenches, hammers, electric saw, electric drill, Ice cream maker (hand cranked), dish washing soap (bad joke), etc.

No x-rated stuff. We had non-alcoholic drinks and homemade ice cream. Everyone had a lot of fun.

My wife had a shower with lingerie (sp?). Big mistake. She should have had an appliance theme or a kitchen wares theme. BUT hormones overruled logic. Tis life.

Good luck to you and yours.

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I think both bachelor and/or "orette" parties have gotten so out of hand and over the top, that some have actually STOPPED the wedding or made a very bad start to a marriage.

Male or female strippers? NO

Getting so drunk you get stupid with the extra added attraction of a DUI, FIGHT, throwing up (in public or private) and a hangover that won't quit? NO

Great brunch, lunch, dinner or weekend away in the city or wine country or camping trip with your best friends? YES

Blessings......

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We kept it low key and rated G:-) Just had gifts and yummy food.

My hubby's bachelor party was also rated G. He went out to dinner with the male family & friends. We're not into the stripper thing, and neither of us did that. It was a lot of fun and respectful of each other.

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My friend hosted what I thought was going to be a girls get together at her parents house (we were all just out of college) have some beverages, open some girly gifts. Then she walked in with this flower arrangement full of dollar bills. I was so embarassed when this male dancer popped out from the side of their house. I mean, my cousins, my sister- everyone was just laughing so hard. They all knew what was going on and just wanted to see me squirm.
I love this friend dearly and I still laugh with her about it to this day!
My husband did a boys night out a month prior to our wedding and then the day before he went kyaking with all the groomsmen:)

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Well, after the way your fiance acted about your surprise shower, I'm not surprised that you are worrying about this.

Here's my suggestion to you. Have a joint bachorette/bachelor party. Tell him since he was a butt to you about the shower, you will have a joint party and then if there's something he doesn't like, he can be a butt to people OTHER than you.

Music, drinks, games, lots of fun with your friends. That's what my husband I did. We were a lot younger than you guys, so our party was not quiet, but if I were you, I'd make it very loud - and NO CHILDREN.

D.

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Me - We rented a bus and went to four or five bars and drank. I think there were around 30 of us - my mom and her friends included. We did not do any strip club - not that I wouldn't have done it - they were too far away!!! We then ended up at a girlfriends house where some of us spent the night.

Hubby did the same thing as we did but was home earlier than I had expected so a bunch of people ended up hanging out at our house.

I do like the idea of a joint party!

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i went out for dinner, dessert, drinks, and dancing with a small group of friends. they bought me lots of drinks. ;) we ended up at a club that had a piano bar on one stage. i ended up on stage singing with the performers and then later spanking a total stranger just because he had a cute butt. i crawled into bed at a decent hour and required eggs the next morning. but man was it fun! hubby did a simple guys night out with drinks at clubs.

My friends and I drove up to Traverse City, MI and rented a condo at the resort for the weekend. We just hung out and played stupid games on Friday night, but it was fun. Then on Saturday we got spa treatments, went on a wine tasting tour, had a nice dinner out, then went to a couple of bars. It was a really great weekend. My friend ended up doing a similar weekend for hers, same city, winery tour, dinner out and bars, but we mixed it up and went to different places and stayed in a different hotel. Several of my other friends have come out to Chicago to stay with me and we've had a girls weekend, and then on Sat night we've gone out to Excalibur night club where they host a huge bachelorette party, with games, dancing, drinks, and male entertainment. When it came my turn though, we had already done this 3 times, so I opted for the low key winery tour weekend.

My husband had his party at his brother's house. They invited a bunch of guys and played poker, and watched a boxing fight that was on that night. I don't think they had a stripper, but I know they did hire topless girls to serve beer. I know, I know. But really, it was harmless. And honestly it was more for the other guys at the party, as my husband could care less if there was a stripper. He's been to other bachelor parties that were simply golf outings, or poker night. Some of my guy friends have gone all out and done weekends in Las Vegas.

My husband went to a local bar with a bunch of friends and had a stripper. No one got too drunk though.
Since he had one - so did I and it was alot of fun! I had a group of girlfriends that came over, then we went out dancing.
That was the only time I would probably ever see one. Gotta try everything at least once :)

My sis and I made a box for my Bestie when she got married and filled it with silly stuff like a plastic ball and chain, bachlorette t-shirt, some fun lingerie, candy and some silly games... nothing we could not take out in public. We also took a big non- offensive blow up doll and decorated him to look like her hubby to be. We took the box to the restaurant and she opened it there. After eating we went to a club and danced. It was a blast!

The best part was that we recycled the box and most of the (non - edible) contents to be passed on to the next girl in line. We also modified the doll to match the next bride. He finally had to be replace after 6 parties, but the pictures are great and it is neat to have an "heirloom" to pass among our group. We have modified the contents depending on the bride's personality as well, so half the fun was stocking the box to match the bride. The box has lasted through 8 weddings now and is waiting on two more this year. = )

P.S. My 19yr old SIL saw the box in my closet and asked if it would still be around whenever her time comes... I told her "that's the plan" = )

My bridesmaids wont tell me what we are doing for my bachelorette party, but I was told to have my mom take the kids overnight. Im assuming there will be lots of drinking and dancing!

My fiance and his dudes are getting a limo, alcohol, and going to the clubs. And by "clubs" they really mean strip clubs! Thats totally fine by me, I hope he has SO much fun, because I know I will!

Stayed up WAY TOO LATE the night before the wedding partying with my groom-to-be and some of our dearest friends. Nothing crazy - nothing porno - just good fun times that went too late (walked in my door at 4am - had to be up around 8ish for bridal prep) so my only advice - get enough sleep!!! LOL

I had a shower, no bachelorette party.
I had all my female relatives (some of them quite elderly) there and the raciest gift I got was a lacy nighty from my Mom (which was totally unexpected, but tasteful).
My family knows sex happens, but they do NOT discuss it and consider it to be intensely private.
A bachelorette party is just not my style.
My husband had a bachelor party with a bunch of his friends from work.
I understand it was somewhat raunchy, I don't know much of the details and he got drunk enough not to remember very much of it, but he's always been a good boy and I think he even made it home before midnight.

For mine my bridesmaids, friends, female relatives and Mom all went to dinner and they gave me sexy lingerie and gag gifts. After dinner, my close bridesmaids and friends went out to a male strip club. It was a great time!!
My husband went out with friends and groomsmen. I don't know where exactly they went, but I know they went to a strip club. He also got a Kama Sutra book from one of his friends.

I have been to many similar and sometimes the Mom and MIL were there. My Mom and MIL just weren't interested.

Having a joint party kind of defeats the purpose of having a bachelor/ette party. Its your last party without the guys before the big day.

I went to Reno with a bunch of friends and we saw Chip-n-Dales and I got to go on stage. We had a t-shirt with a bunch of crazy stuff that I had to get from people while walking around the casinos. I am normally a total goodie-two-shoes, but I let my hair down for once. We stayed with a friend that lived down there are had a great time.

My husband went to Portland with the guys and hung out at a bunch of clubs.