What are the pros and cons of having 3 kids?

M.,
What a good question. I love hearing people's responses and I hope you get more! I always imagined a bunch of kids - at least 4. But I didn't get married until I was 30 and we waited until I finished grad school and owned our own place before we had our first baby. Now I'm almost 35 - was pregnant twice after first baby(had two miscarriages), and felt like I've run out of time. I'll be real happy if we can have one more healthy baby and then later down the line I may convince my husband to adopt or do foster care. Having said all that... (sorry if that's too much info) - the plus side of two is environmental responsibility. You have enough children to replace you rather than contribute to overpopulation of the planet. (Not sure I totally buy that - b/c truthfully, if I got married at 21, I would have six kids by now!!! :) )

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Going from 1 to 2 was harder than 2 to 3 for me. Our younger daughters are 19 months apart. There are 3 years between our first and second. Our girls are 10, 7 & 5 1/2 now.

Yes, we have the mini-van and the younger two share a room. Having two under two was stressful, but I find babies and toddlers to be stressful anyway.

We were going to stop after 2, but my husband didn't get the vasectomy he said he would. My cycle was so messed up from pregnancy/birth #2, that when we found out I was pregnant with #3, we were shocked and pleasantly surprised.

I wouldn't change a thing. #3 is such a joy (when she isn't being a little devil). I really feel like our family is complete. Husband got the vasectomy after #3 was born, and I had no problems signing off on it.

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I have 4 kids and the jump from 2 to 3 wasn't that big of a deal. The only minus that we have faced is the cost. Most things come grouped in fours and you have to purchase 2. It is hard to go on vacation because of cost. Also, you are now outnumbered by kids and one parent will always have 2 kids with them. When they get older, if they are in sports or other activities you sometimes have to miss things or tag team the activities.

It wasn't really a big decision for us and it hasn't been hard - just more laundry ! LOL!!!

S.

Mom of 4 (11,10,9,5)

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I only have one child and sometimes wish the Lord would have blessed us with another one. I think in this day and age you need to look at how stable is your husbands job. So many people are loosing there jobs it is scary but I believe the Lord will not give you more than you can handle.

So there you go, on one hand can you afford it and the other hand you can put it in the hands of the Lord and if he blesses you again it was ment to be.

Good Luck,
S.

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I have 3, seriously i don't htink it matters too much. The older one helps with the younger ones. now the only issues is this I have 2 boys and the 2yr ld is a girl. So no more hand me downs with clothes and girl stuff is super cute and pricey. Today was crazy at the store as she ran off and the boys in other directions I screamed and said find your sister which they did. They do all tend to stay close to each other (not the parent of course).

Car seats are bulky we needed a van until the oldest can be without. Now 2 are in boosters that helps but when all 3 had the big car seats they could not fit in the back! Big issue!

I am glad we have 3 its a fun number. Who knows if there will be anymore... I am not planning it.. of course we did not "plan" the first 3 either! :0)

Good Luck!

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