S.H. asks from Glen Burnie, MD on December 12, 2006
What Age Is Appropriate to Start Potty Training and How Do I Start W/ My Son?
My son just turned 2 on Nov. 3rd. and I was wondering at what age is appropriate to start potty training? I don't even know where to begin or if he even has a grasp of the whole concept. I've asked him (knowing that he did) if he had poop in his pants and he shakes his head "no". I've also asked him if he has to go pee, he stares at me like I have five heads. I think he might be a little too young to undertand the whole concept of peeing in the potty. However, I've been over a friend's house where they have a potty in their bathroom and he understands to lift up the seat and sit down (fully clothed) and then he gets back up again after about 30 seconds and closes the lid. I keep joking with my husband saying that because he has the same "part" that he has to potty train him. Any advice on when and how to start?
So What Happened?™
Thanks everyone for your advice! I'm not really jumpy to start potty training, I just feel like he's getting to the age that all of these "momentus" events are beginning and I don't know if I'm just not seeing the signs. My son actually went into the bathroom with my husband and sat on the potty while my husband was in there. I still ask him if he has to go pee, but he still looks at me like I have five heads. When I ask him if he has poopy in his diaper (knowing that he does), he runs away saying "no" so I think that he might understand to a point about what poopy feels like. We'll see...I don't want to rush him in any way but I don't want to prevent him from trying either.
A.A. answers from Washington DC on January 10, 2007
In my experience, as small as it may be, the child has always let you know when they wanted to start potty training. My daughter was completely potty trained by the time she turned 2. I bought her one of those portable potties when she was about 1 1/2, never really expecting her to use it, but then she saw another little kid using it and decided she wanted to "go in the big potty". I helped her out by putting her on the potty every hour, even if she didn't have to go and she sat there for five minutes if she didn't. She always drank alot at that age so she more than likely always went. I wouldn't stress about it if he isn't interested though.
L.S. answers from Washington DC on December 13, 2006
I have found that all kids are different and everybody you ask will tell you a different age including asking dr's. My oldest was completely potty trained by 22 months, I did not push it, she was following another child staying at our house and just caught on fast. My son was about 2 1/2 when I started and he would always poop in the potty but still peed in his pull-up, he was completely trained by a little over 3 not including night-time. My third child decided for herself at 2 1/2 she wanted to go and potty trained in about 2 weeks. Now I have my fourth who is 2 1/2 now and has used the potty once and just doesn't seem to be getting it, she tells me she has to go potty after she's gone in her diaper. The only advice I have is that once they start going and showing interest to stick with it all the time, asking every half hour or so putting them on the potty. Consistency is very important once they are trying to use the bathroom. Good luck!!!!!!
P.H. answers from Washington DC on December 13, 2006
Boys are different than girls, especially when it comes to potty training. When your son tells you that he has gone potty in his pants, then it's time to start. That shows an awareness of what he needs to do. Other than that, you can start putting him on the potty after meals or something like that. With our older son, we put him on the toilet and read to him until he went. Needless to say, now he does the same thing, and he's 13! :-) Hope this helps.
S.K. answers from Washington DC on December 13, 2006
There is no appropriate age to start. The time is when they are ready.. When I was gonna try with my son. I was advised not to start until he seemed like he was interested. I did however have the training toilet at his reach. Let him sit on it just to get used to the idea. My son was 3 1/2 yrs old when he finally got it. Boys are harder and they take a while. Just be patient. At two they are not going to understand. Don't get frustrated. Just show him to the toilet and talk to him about eventually he will understand. Some parents bribe the child to use the toilet. For example my mother told me that for my brother she used colored marshmellows. It worked but not over night and he was 3. Girls are usually earlier than boys because they have that control better than boys. So if he doesn't understand now wait a few months then try again.
A.B. answers from Honolulu on December 13, 2006
hey, its me again. I have actually started potty training a few weeks ago. I started by just putting his pot in the bathroom and leaving it there. Everytime I use the bathroom I say " james, lets go potty." I take his hand and bring him with me. I sit him on the pot with all his clothes on and I go pee pee on my pot. When i am finished I start to get all excited and he gets excited for me and always wanted to go on his pot. Now when we go to the pot he pulls down his own pants like mommy and sits on the pot. The next step is taking off the pamper. It seems to be working for me, maybe it will work for you.