L.B. asks from Berwick, ME on August 11, 2012
Went to a Wedding Today And...
Today, I drove a total of 6 hours (3 hours there and 3 back home) to a wedding. The ceremony was held in a very quaint tiny old church, However, I don't think it has been opened up in years - once inside It smelled so bad of a musty old odor, the air felt dead, it was so hot, I felt like I couldn't breathe. The man sitting behind me had a pool of sweat dripping off his face. The minister called the groom by the wrong name and mispronounced the brides name. The bride and bridal party were dressed in very formal wedding clothes. The guest were also dressed quite nice.
After the ceremony, the reception was in a reception hall situated in a strip mall. The best man and maid of honor made a toast and an announcement was made for everyone to raise their glasses to toast the bride and groom - The only 2 people with a glass of champagne for the toast was the bride and groom, everyone else had a glass of water????
The bar was a cash bar and they charged for everything including a cup of coffee or tea??? Someone at my table ordered a glass of wine and it was given to him filled to the rim in a paper cup?
Dinner was buffet style - They served in tinfoil containers barbecue ribs, chicken, sausage, pulled pork and a mystery meat, Some rice with chunks of meet in it and brown beans. (NO vegetables, not even a salad) When the waitress refilled the buffet, she placed the container with the new food in it on the floor to free up her hands to remove the old food container from the table. When I went to the bar to get my water refilled, I was given a refill in a paper pepsi cup.
While I was standing in line for food, the bride came running over and in a loud voiced announed " Watch out, I am cutting, I am the bride, I can cut, I am starving" she got her food and sat down to eat without the groom.
There was an announcement over the DJ microphone to put your napkin on your plate when you are done eating so that the waitress will know when she can take your plate?
The bride got on the dance floor by herself and did a strip tease style dance to the song
I am sexy and I know it. (she kept her clothes on, the dance was just dirty dancing)
The DJ announced that we are going to play a game - One person at each table had to provide a $10.00 bill for the game, the object was to pass the money around the table until the music stopped, the person left holding the $10.00 had to sitt down, they kept doing this until only one person was standing with the $10 then that person had to go to the dance floor and give the money to the bride. (who then put the money in her bra) - When my table tried to not participate in this game - the DJ called attentiont to us.
I did not feel like giving these people any more money after spending so much on a gift, outfit and travel and not even getting a cup of tea at the reception!
I am speechless - This wedding was thrown in such poor taste - I am shocked. Can you imagine having someone drive all that way and then not even providing a cup of coffee or tea with the wedding cake? I cannot believe the bad manners displayed at this wedding. I left as soon as I could without being rude - I know but, I do have manners.
The bride and groom are not young kids - they are 29 and 30 year old business owners? They should know better. I feel that they were very inconsiderate to their guest especially the ones who traveled from a long distance. Many of the guest had to travel a distance.
Do you have any tacky wedding stories?
So What Happened?™
Thanks for your answers - I just had to talk about the wedding after I got home last night. I was shocked. I did not care that they had cash bar - I didn't plan on drinking anyway because I had to drive so far and I wouldn't have had a problem paying for alcohol. However, the way the wine was served was tacky, it should not be served in a paper cup filled to the rim, If I did pay for a glass of wine, I would want it in a wine glass. And, I couldn't believe that they didn't offer other drinks such as coffee, tea, juice etc...Coffee is pretty cheap. They were the host and hostess and should have treated their guest with a little more hospitality. A lot of the guest put in a lot of time and effort to attend the wedding - they showed no appreciation or effort toward the guest. And, to solicit for more money by playing a game that the guest were forced to play is just down right rude.
Thanks for the comments and stories, I enjoyed reading them.
B.K. answers from Albuquerque on August 11, 2012
I suppose from another angle, but when my husband was married the first time the brides mother showed up in a t-shirt.
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E.M. answers from Phoenix on August 11, 2012
Well, I grew up in the floral biz, so I have seen it ALL...lol...
One of my favorites...a couple that had their wedding at a park, where guests had to pay admission fees, had the nerve to make it a "pot luck reception." Yup, not just BYOB but BYOF(ood)! And after charging the guests to attend and not providing so much as a sandwich, they still included their registration list in the invites.
I have also seen a full reenactment of that song, I think it is called Dashboard Lights?? by the bride and groom. That was pretty hilarious, actually. Oh, and centerpieces with live fish where the fish started going belly-up part way through the evening! Wedding invites that actually include the phrase "cash gifts appreciated!" How about a bride getting "bounced" from her own wedding venue because she was so trashed? That one was a friend of mine... love this question, so many amusing memories!!!
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☆.A. answers from Pittsburgh on August 11, 2012
I did attend a wedding with a cash bar once. ((shudder)) But this story takes the cake! (pun intended!)
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A.M. answers from Dallas on August 11, 2012
That sounds like an awful time but they probably don't know any better. In the south we just say, bless their hearts.........
To answer your question, I have been to a few tacky weddings but none could match this.
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T.M. answers from Redding on August 11, 2012
Hahaha... quite the story.
You sure paid a lot of attention to the details. I'd have been hot and not have had a problem getting me a paid drink at the bar. And if it was that crazy of an occasion I'm sure I would have drank my share to get into their "mode"
I'm guessing you dont really know them all that well otherwise you wouldnt have been too shocked how the occasion was goin to run.
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S.R. answers from Washington DC on August 11, 2012
Remember, the wedding is not about you, it's about them. We didn't have an open bar at our wedding, we did provide champagne for the toast. Maybe that was tacky, but it was on a Sunday night
Our buffet was nice at a country club, non alcoholic drinks were provided.
Try not to be judgemental - remember the wedding is for you to share their union, not to criticize the ceremony, church or reception.
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T.M. answers from Philadelphia on August 11, 2012
I have a similar experience. The wedding was in the outber banks, NC. I live in PA. It cost about 1000 dollars just to stay the weekend, eat, drive down and back etc. We also had no rolls, salad, coffee.... heck we didnt even have drinks...just some big punch bowl thing claiming to have some alcohol in it. The wedding was on the beach on a red flag day, they made us all stand in the hurricane type winds. The reception was a junky building on a marsh, lasted about 2hrs (was over by 830pm). The bride would not let anyone suggest songs or do anything that could be considered "traditional".
Thankfully we traveled with my sister and brother in law. We enjoyed each others company. If it wasnt for them that weekend, i would have left in tears. I laugh it off now, i got to spend one dang expensive weekend in NC with my sister :)
PS, it was my wedding anniversary also....lol!
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A.B. answers from Dallas on August 11, 2012
When my brother and ex-sil married, she had been previously married. He had not. Everything about the wedding seemed to be met with, "oh, yeah, I already that." Some of the worst things...she refused to buy a wedding dress. We knew that finances were an issue and even offered to buy one for her. She INSISTED that she was borrowing her friend's wedding dress. Well, it wasn't really a wedding dress to begin with...more like a white prom dress. The bigger thing was my ex-SIL was waaaaay bigger than her friend and that dress. The dress was quite low cut, and the dress was about two sizes smaller than my ex-SIL. She couldn't even get it quite zippered to the top, but she was determined to wear that ridiculous dress. So, she was married in a church with her boobs hanging out all over the place and looking like a stuffed sausage in this dress that was obviously entirely too small. My parents were mortified, but it wasn't something they controlled.
She also had insisted that her jewelry would be the string of pearls and pearl earrings that her first husband (who she was obviously still in love with) had given to her. The ONLY thing that kept that from happening was my brother buying her a necklace and earrings that he delivered to her as a gift the wedding of the morning to wear with her dress. She couldn't quite understand why my brother wouldn't want his bride wearing the jewels her ex had given to her.
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D.B. answers from Minneapolis on August 11, 2012
I have been at every extreme of wedding i think possible. Including one that might top this. A relative of mine got married a few years ago. We arrived at the church a few minutes before the wedding was supposed to start. But no one was there. We waited and waited, but no one showed. Odd, because my aunt had just spoke with the bride that morning to confirm directions. Finally found a phone to call them & they told us the wedding had been changed to 4 pm. They didn't think to tell us (but everyone else seemed to know.) The reception was right afterwards in the church basement. (not uncommon around here.) It was 'catered' by KFC. Spork and all. Seriously. Mom tried to sneak into the church kitchen to get a real fork but got busted. We looked around for drinks (other than the water on the table) and asked some of the groomsmen where they got their beer from. Oh, they said, they had a cooler stashed behind the bridal party table. But it was only for the bridal party. One of the parents was opposed to drinking, so it was on the down low. My dad commented that had he known it was a BYOB, he would have bought a six pack in the 3 hours they sat around waiting for the wedding. Lol! We took off after the dinner was done. It makes for an interesting story, but we don't hold it against them. It's just how they are. They are good people, they mean well, it's just that they have different 'standards', if that's the right way to put it? I know it's probably all they could afford, and it allowed everyone to gather and celebrate their union.
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H.A. answers from Burlington on August 12, 2012
To answer your question, here's a tacky story from my wedding. During the ceremony the deacon, whom we had never met, started talking about his own attempted suicide years before.
We all had a good laugh about it afterward... sigh.
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K.L. answers from Cleveland on August 12, 2012
I would have been pretty pissed too. It's not like this tack-fest was 20 minutes from home. I have never minded dollar dances. If you don't want to participate, then don't, but demanding each table fork out $10 and then calling out the ones that don't is nuts.
I have been to two weird weddings. The first one the bride wore a dress that was about two sizes too big and had socks (yes, socks) in her bra. You could see them when she bent down. After they were pronounced man and wife they didn't have a recessional,they just started with the front row and shook people's hands. So those of us in the back had to stand there FOREVER for the bride and group to make it to us. Then at the reception they had sheet pizzas and bagged salad (with nothing else added), along with plastic pitchers of lemonade and water. Each table had a bottle of sparkling grape juice and a stack of dixie cups.
The other one was held at a park. I was actually invited by the maid of honor to babysit her one year old son during the ceremony and while I was there was asked by another bridesmaid to watch her kids too. Guests sat on picnic tables during the ceremony. One of the bridesmaids (the Best Man's 17 year old girfriend) got mad because the bride (who wore a purple prom dress) wanted her to walk down the aisle with someone other than her boyfriend, so she refused to take the groomsmans arm, chewed gum down the aisle and then grabbed a lawn chair to sit in after she walked down the aisle. The best man walked down the aisle with the groom SMOKING, and then before pictures could even be taken afterwards the groom took his short sleeved, white, button down shirt and bolo tie off and took pictures in his wife beater. Awesome.
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