Welltubes Tied?

The real question you should be asking yourself is if you are ready to have a procedure that will prevent you from having children permanently. I realize at your age, you might be convinced RIGHT NOW that you don't want to have children. But what if ten years from now, you decide you DO?

There are a ton of birth control options out there right now, that are noninvasive and not permanent. I think you should be weighing those options first. I was on birth control from the time I was 18 until I was 31 years old - when I got married and decided I wanted children (something I would never have DREAMED of at 25).

You are very young and a LOT can happen to you in the next few years. Don't deny yourself ANY opportunities.

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I would be EXTREMELY suprised if a doctor would agree to do this for you. And I would hope they wouldn't... You very well may change your mind in five, ten, or fifteen years. There are plenty of other things that you can do right now that are hassel free and very affective. For example, I had the Mirena IUD. No pills, no fuss... and it stays in for 5 years. It even makes it to where your periods slow down or even stop completely. There are many other less extreme options. Good luck to you!

Hi K.,
I am 37 and had my tubes tied when I was 32. I had already had 3 kids and 3 c-sections and did it within minutes of the birth of my last one. I did not want any more children. But now; as my son turns 5 and I look at little babies and children. I am reminded that my 5 year old will be my last. You may not want children now, but I'm sure one day that you will & whomever you decide to marry; I'm sure they will & their parents will want grand children. There are other forms of contraceptives out there that won't take that choice away from you. Although Getting your tubes tied is not necessarily permanent; why have unnecessary surgeries? You are so young, and have not experienced the feeling of being a mother, or one day wanting to be a mother. I would just wait it out. and if you still don't want children at 30. Maybe then?? :) I just think that you will regret this decision.

Since you are so young give yourself a chance and the time as you grow older to truly decide whether or not you want to bear children. Unless you are dead set on having no children AT ALL then you would need to find a mate who completely agrees with you or your marriage will suffer. There are pros and cons to everything and raising children is a huge challenge and a beautiful blessing at the same time. I am 45 years old and I have 3 beautiful daughters (24, 19, and yes, 3!) Two from one father and the 3 yr old from a different father. I am divorced from both of them. Although divorce is very hard with children, I have a totally loving and great relationship with all my girls. It's about them and not about my ex's. THEY bring the joy to my life. Oh yeah, and my oldest just blessed me with my first Grandbaby - Danica. She is 6 months old and so sweet and beautiful. I'm just trying to tell you that for a woman, having children is probably one of the best things in life! You have someone to love and someone who loves you with or without a husband.

Good luck and I pray that you make the best decision possible.

I know this is not exactly what you are asking but please consider this before doing anything!

1st of all, this is my personal experience and every one is different, so I will share my story with you, knowing now what I know I would have never ever had that surgery. My now ex husband wanted me to do this because he did not want to have an office visit of a Vasectomy. I had an anesteologist who was a nurse and not an actual doctor, the night after the proceedure I was very sick from it to the point of vomiting all night long with fresh stitches in my stomach. the scar from that is very mild and barely noticable. my down time was the weekend, still had to take it easy for a few weeks but it did not slow me down much, I went in for the proceedure on friday at noon and was back to work on monday. but a few months after the surgery I had a Torsed Ovary where usually this can happen with a cyst on your ovary, I had no cyst, but what happened is the oviduct was pulled to far and snapped some of the ligaments holding the ovary in place causing it to "flop over" I had blood pumping into the ovary but not escaping. I had to have an emergency surgery that was the equivalent of a C-Section and that one kept me out of work for 6 weeks and a scar from hip to hip. not to mention the fact that even before I lost the ovary my hormones were out of control and my periods were heavy and filled with clots. The doc was not much help by saying well your body didnt need them any way. but with the hormone imbalance I would go from perfectly happy to either a raging B**** or Crying my eyes out for no reason. It has been 2 years since I lost the one ovary and I think my condition has gotten worse. all my life I was never irrational or moody and now I am some days depending on the time of the month. Just think long before you do something that will change your body and life forever. The worst part for me was that I still wanted more kids.

A.

WHY? is the only question I can think of what you are doing. you are only 25 and you are "allowed" to not want kids ever. my brother was thinking about getting a vasectomy at about your age I talked him out it THANK GOD I did he is now in his mid 30's and the father of 2 children and I swear his friends threaten to call his facebook after his kids name.

I was your age and had 4 kids and my doctor gave me a rough time about giving me a tubal.

you might find a dr that will do it but I wish you would consider other forms of birth control and this permanant method---- tubals are usually reversible but my dr told me to not could it.

K.-
I too was a 25 year old that knew I never wanted kids, I even told my mom not to expect grandchildren. I got married at 34 and at 37 we decided we did want a child, we now have a blessing beyond belief and that is our daughter Olivia who is now almost 19 months old. Please consider with a heavy heart before you make such a permanent choice. Even while having my c-section the doctor was willing to tie my tubes and I, for me still said no just not being sure I could live with it. The best of luck to you and in the end make a decision that you can live with. I will add I also never wanted to get married and that changed too. :) I am so glad I made sat in the "muck" and made the choices that I did because today I have love from my husband and daughter that I didn't think existed.

I do not know any of the details about your insurance or what it will cover, but the only advice I can offer you is to make sure that you have thought long and hard about this because it is a huge decision. Do you think that there is a possibility that you will want to have children one day? Imagine being all done with college and you have a successful career, and you meet that special someone of your dreams (assuming you haven't already) will you want a child then? Or is this just something that makes things convenient right now? Just think long and hard, there are plenty of other birth control methods out there!

are you considering it just so you can have sex in college without worrying about getting pregnant? or do you have a disability or genetic disorder you are trying to avoid passing along? I agree that considering a permanent alteration should be a personal choice, but really know WHY you are making it and think long and hard about the future consequences of your decision - you may meet someone whose child you would want to carry and care for and raise - and know that you may deter a great relationship with that someone because you wouldn't be able to do so - be certain of your decision before you make it - good luck

I had two kids and had my tubes tied at 25. The doctor was hesitant but did it because I had high risk pregnancies. But I reversed it 3 years later because I had major side effects from a hormone imbalance from having a tubal. Since reversing it, I had two more beautiful children and I'm pregnant again! Reversing it was the best thing I ever did! Insurance covered my tubal but not my reversal. It was major surgery too.

They may not do it!!!! I got mine done at 27 and they gave me a very hard time about it, and i even have two kids. When i was 28 i had to have a partial hysterectomy for medical reasons, and they gave me a hard time about that. I have a gal i work with, she is 36 and has never wanted children and she doesnt have any, but they wont do the procedure for her. Good Luck!!

I wouldn't do it. I agree with what everyone else said....down the road you may change your mind and it is not easily reversable. You may not imagine it now, but it's very possible to change your mind at 35 or even 45. There's a good possibility a doctor wouldn't do it and insurance would fight to not cover it.

I think because of your age, your request would have to be approved by the hospital ethics committee.
They will want to know why you want to do something so permanent at such a young age.
Two things to consider:
1) You, like many other young women, could change your mind when you get older.
2) Having your tubes tied can lead to menstrual problems. That is not something they always tell you, but a large number of women who have had this done, report problems later. I'm sure many women will tell you they have not have problems, but I worked ob/gyn for years and encountered a lot of women who did. Enough to make me not want to have my tubes tied.
It is ultimately your decision, but you might consider something less permanent for a few more years, just in case.

You literally have up to 20 years of child-bearing years left. For you to make a decision like that now, is the same as your 5-year-old self making a decision for your 25-year-old self. Have the things you want out of life changed a bit since you were 5? Probably. And they're probably going to change a lot before you're 45. I agree with the previous posting - with the choices of birth control out today, why would you be considering something so drastic and most likely permanent?

K., I am a forty year old mother of two a fourteen year old son and a twelve year old daughter. I had my tubes tied after my second child was born due to severe sickness while pregnant and my husband strongly suggested it (he told me he never wanted any more children). I thought that is what I wanted at the time and had my tubes tied after my beautiful baby girl was born. After a short period of time (a week or two) I realized it was not the right decision for me. There is not a day that goes by that I don’t regret that decision and wish I would have waited to make such a life altering change. Even if I never got pregnant again, I would like to reverse it. I just feel like I made the wrong decision with my body. PLEASE... PLEASE... wait a few more years to make such a big decision. By the way... my husband that swore he never wanted any more children and pushed me into making my decision walked out the back door on us four years ago and is on his fourth child now. Basically, what I am trying to say is, things change and life takes turns that you never thought it would. What you feel today you may not feel two, five, seven years from now. There is such great birth-control out there now that there is really no reason for such a drastic choice.

Hello!
Just to throw this in - when I was 25 I knew I did not want children and I was quite sure about that for years. One day when I was 36, I also knew I had changed and that it was just the right time. We have now two girls and I love every minute of it.
I would be careful about making life changing decisions for your future you. There are less permanent ways to achieve the same peace of mind for right now and the near future.

D.

Why would you want to give up the option of having kids? Just because you dont want them now doesnt mean you wont want them later.

I know you have already made a decision, but I just wanted to suggest that you look into an IUC like the Mirena. I was on BC pills for years and really thought I didn't want children. I had a frank talk with my GYN and that was just when the Mirena was coming on the market. She encouraged me to give it a try. It's not like the old copper IUDs. It's plastic and has some Progestin coating on it. It lightens your periods and lessens any menstral cramps. It lasts 5 years with no maintanence or mood issues (since the meds don't get into your blood in any great amount). And if you change your mind, you can take it out and start trying. When I decided to have kids, it took all of 7 days to get pregnant after removal. I'm on my 3rd one and will use this method until menopause. It's that good. And you can have it put in before you have kids. Some GYN's will tell you otherwise, but I had my first one a couple of years before I ever had a baby. Just a suggestion.

I know you already posted an update on what you decided but I just wanted to let you know, I think you made the right decision to NOT have your tubes tied. You're so young and it's such a drastic thing. I have a friend who got married in her early 20's and neither her nor her husband wanted kids. After many years, they decided they wanted one. She had her first child at 37. The point is, you may know you don't want kids now but in 10 years, you may change your mind. If you're 40 and still don't want kids, then I say get your tubes tied. Children are incredible but just telling someone that does't do justice how great it really is. You have to have one to truely know the blessing. Good luck.