WOW!!!! These responses are overwhelmingly helpful. I am a 27 yr. old stepmom of a 16 yr. old who lives with us full time, and has since he was 10 yrs. old. His mom lives in NC and does not participate in his life unless it is convenient for her. So, fortunately I don't have to deal with her often, it is sad that she has not shown care for her own flesh and blood tho.
I can not give any further advice than what has already been written, amazing help! Thank you ladies. To know that I am not alone, and to read these responses is a beautiful thing.
We have had our mountains and climb and our peaceful, connecting moments, but everyday is a new roller coaster ride with a teenage stepson, especially with me being younger.
I have to say I am truly blessed that my stepson is such a blessed brother to my two toddlers, ages 3 and 5. They are so close and he is SO good with them. Heck, they listen to him more than they do us sometimes.
Best of luck, hang in there. Stand your ground, give as much respect as you desire, altho it is hard. Step motherhood is just as rewarding as your own. To know that God put him in my path for a reason and that I may be the only true guidance he has in life allows me to not mind being the "evil" stepmother. It is a rough job, but someone has to do it =)