Wanting to Get Pregnant

Hi L.,

Me and my Husband have been trying to get pregnant for about 2 months now. We are both 30 years old. The first month we tried on our own with no success. Last month my doctor did an exame and some blood work. He placed me on clomid 50 miligrams to increase ovulation. I have been on prenatal vitamins for a year. (They are a good source of vitamins). I think that my doctor is a little more proactive due to the fact that I have 1 daughter already but I have to have several infertility tests and surgeries done about a year before she was born. (She is 4 now).I have an appointment again today. Over the weekend I heard about a B12 shot. It is suppose to make you extremely fertile and you can get pregnant quicker. I am going to ask the doctor about it today. I will keep you posted. Let me know if you hear any other ideas.

Hi L.,
I am N. I am 26 and I have 2 little boys, almost 5 and 6 months. There is a calender on the internet that i downloaded. You might want to search ovulation calenders. We used it for our second one and it was very accurate. I liked it much better than taking ovulation tests. If you have only been trying 2 months, I dont think you have a problem with fertility, just be patient.

Give yourself time. It takes a healthy person w/o fertility issues up tp 6 months plus to get pregant. I know you want a child but do not be ridiculous in the time you are alloting yourself. Any "Good" doctor will not put you on clomid until you have gone through several more months. You will be highly increasing your chances on having multiple births as well. I am speaking from experience. Save the drugs for the people who have tried 2 plus years. Relax have fun. Remeber there is a very small window of oppurtunity to get pregnant. Figure out your cycle andfind your window. If you stress out about the outcome it will never be.

Hi L.,
I would highly recommend reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weshler (sp?) before trying for any other treatment. With my first I was worried when I didn't get pregnant right away (in my 30's) but after reading this book and charting myself, we got pregnant on 1st try. (Also I don't think most doctors will prescribe any medication until you have been trying at least 6-12 months).

Good luck

L.-congrats on wanting to start a family! I suggest reading the book "Take Charge of Your Fertility", you can find it at Barnes and Noble. It's an amazing book and shows you how to chart your cycles to either achieve or avoid pregnancy. I highly recommend it! I know you are anxious to have a child, and 2 months seems like a long time, but I'm not sure that your doctor will see you for infertility or Clomid until you've been trying for at least 1 year. My advice would be to make an appt. with your OB/GYN for a regular exam and let them know you are trying to conceive, he/she might have some other advice for you also. Do a google search for this and there is a ton of info. and forums with other's TTC and charting their cycles. One of them is www.fertilityfriend.com
Good luck to you!
M.

HI L.,

HAVE YOU TRIED BUYING AN OVULATION TEST? THATS WHAT WORKED FOR ME.YOU CAN GET THEM AT WALMART REALLY CHEAP.HOPE THIS HELPS.

M.

If this book has been suggested, my apologies - I don't have time to read through and check the responses! Someone gave us "The Fastest Way to Get Pregnant Naturally" by Christopher Williams, M.D. at our wedding shower - a gag gift. It turns out to have quite a bit of good advice and help! One thing it mentions is having intercourse every 36 hours before/during/after what should be your ovulation time. It also has diet tips, lifestyle tips and tells you what should be in your vitamins. I just used Onesource vitamins off the shelf at Wal-Mart.

I think the other thing that helped from reading the book was that it said it could take up to a year or more (which is why we started trying when we did) so there were no expectations! Now, don't get me wrong - when it was time to start, I would wonder but not worry. Give yourself a longer timeframe... :)

Good luck!!!

Hi L.,
Clearblue makes a fertility monitor that can help you track your cycle and identify your fertile days. It's fairly expensive... anywhere from $160 to $200. It's available online at "The Fertility Shop" for $164. Here's the address...
http://thefertilityshop.com/catalog/product_info.php?prod...

Here's their text...
"The ClearBlue Fertility Monitor works by tracking the LH and Estrogen levels in your urine through test sticks. The monitor reads the test sticks for Low, High and Peak fertility days.

Your information is stored up to 6 months of information so that you can learn more about your bodys patterns."

I've heard of people having success with it. I used it before I wanted to get pregnant because I was approaching 35 and wanted to really understand my cycle and increase our chances of conceiving when we decided to actually try (I was hoping to avoid all the added pressure of having difficulty, etc). I became very familiar with my cycle and stopped using it. We planned to start trying around July/August... then suprise, I guess we got lazy and I was pregnant in April!

Now we have a beautiful 6 month old baby boy! Good luck to you. Pray about it and this monitor might be useful.

Take care!

I am also 25 years old and I am 7 1/2 months along. You should not be worried about your chances (unless there is some medical history concern) or looking into infertility treatments just yet. Two months is not enough time to cause concern - only a little over half of women become pregnant in the first six months. If you are actively trying for almost a year and have still not become pregnant you should see your doctor, but until then just enjoy the time with your husband.

Hi L.
Clomid does and can help. Although, you might want to get the both of you checked for any infertility problems. There are some really great infertility doctors in our area! Our personal favorite is Dr. Herbert Dunnaway in Metairie, La. He in our opinion is absolutly fabulous! He is extremely knowledgable in the many differnt areas of infertility but he is very personalbe and understanding! This is not ment to be an advertisment for him! Its just that he has touched our lives in such a wonderful way! We have 2 beautiful daughters; one because of Dr. Dunnaway's help! Our "little miracle" is 2 yrs old now and we hope to have one more. We had to use invitro fertilization. You may not need to go that far and exstensive but believe me it is well worth it in the end! Don't give up if it is something you both want! And remember that you BOTH need to be checked! In our case it was male factor...and thats ok!
Best of luck to you! I hope this has been helpful!!

Hi! The best thing to do is not to try so hard. Sometimes we tend to stress ourselves out when we want something so bad that we interfere with the natural processes. I agree pray about it. Relax and enjoy the time you have together. Because when the kids start coming, you'll wonder where all the quiet romantic times have gone. I do not suggest trying to take some synthetic drug to help you along. God made our bodies to do this with out help. Unless you have some health reason that would prevent you from getting pregant. Let nature take its course.

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L., I think 2 months is quick to be worried. I was on the pill for 12 years straight for medical reasons before I got off to try to get pregnant and it took 4 months. It is very hit or miss. Give yourself a few more months and relax. Enjoy the trying part because once you do get pregnant and the baby comes your love life with your husband will never be the same. I have been married 2 years and just had my baby 6 weeks ago. Be patient. There are fertility strips you can use which you tell you when you are fertile. Clear Blue Easy makes them. They are over the counter where you find the pregnancy tests. I hear those work really good. I bought them but didn't need to use them. Good luck and have fun...it will happen and then your whole life changes so enjoy the moment....no worries.

Don't be surprised if it takes up to a year to get pregnant. Really, getting pregnant quickly is a shot in the dark. Are you temping, do you have a fertility monitor, and do you know about your cervical mucous? If you've got all that down then you'll need to be at it for at least 12mo, if not 18mo, before a doctor will rx anything for fertility.

L.,
A good friend of mine, became absolutely obsessed with trying to get pregnant and for a year she was an emotional roller coaster. Every month taking a pregnancy test and being disappointed. My advice to you is...enjoy your husband and your marriage and stop trying to get pregnant. It will happen when its time.

Robutussin, (I think i spelled that right.)
It took 13 months for my first then i read on the net to take robutussin durning ovulation, i got pregnant that month. And now the mother of 3 small boys !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi L.!

What methods have you used to track your ovulation? Have you purchased any ovulation kits or sticks or any other aids? In my attempts to get pregnant (which worked quickly), i tried several different methods, but the ovulation sticks worked great, at least that way you know EXACTLY FOR SURE when you are ovulating, so you're half way there.

Also, don't get discouraged because that will add to your stress which won't help the process. Two months is not long at all to have been trying. Also, it helps to have been off birth control for a little while, got to let that get out of your system.

Good luck with your trying! I belive it will happen at the right time.

I used a fertility calendar online. I forgot the website, but search for a free calendar. You just type in your cycle info and it gives you the dates of when you are the most fertile, somewhat fertile, etc...Good Luck!!

Hi L., I took Chlomid to get pregnant, and it worked for me. My husband and I tried for 8 years, and finally conceived, but I also have PCOS. There wasn't any clear means of treating PCOS, so they all gave me Chlomid, but I needed additional medicine to conceive. Chlomid was a big part of it, though. They will usually let you take it for 3 or 4 months, then you have to get off of it. I got pregnant both times on the highest dose of Chlomid and Metformin. Find a good doctor, and ask them about it. It's pretty common to take Chlomid, but from all of my researching, 2 months isn't very long to be trying. They usually consider you infertile after trying for a year or more, so they may make you wait. On my second child, I also used a Clear Blue Easy monitor and test strips that I borrowed from my cousin. They are expensive. I knew exactly which days to try, and conceived on those days. Baby #2 was 9 months later. I also took fertility vitamins, but the main one to take is folic acid, which I bought OTC. I took it for 2 years before conceiving. It is great for preventing birth defects, but it has to be present before you get pregnant. I'm not sure where you live, but I can recommend 2 great doctors. Dr. Vandermolen, at Center for Fertility in Shreveport, LA, and Dr. Yancey at Diagnostic Clinic in Longview, TX. With their help I have a 4 yr. old and an 11 mon. old. I wish you the best of luck, and if I can help at all, please let me know.

Best wishes,
T.

L.,

I went through the same thing. We were told to try LH surge strips first and to monitor my temperature to give us a heads up when I would ovulate. It took us 6 months to get pregnant. Doctors normally will not prescribe fertility drugs to you unless you have been trying for a year. Also not stressing about it helps. My son is now 7 months. Good Luck.

I was told to try liquid Geritol by a co-worker. She swears by it. I was hesitant but I tried it for two weeks and by the end of the month---I was pregnant. I can't vouch for whether it really worked for me or I'm just fertile myrtle. You can get Geritol at Walgreens. I took it in the morning and at bedtime.

---L.

the only advice I can give is, Stop Trying. We tried for 6months with no luck. Once the presure of the mission is not there it will happen. We tried so hard to have our first. Then 2 and 3 were complete surprises.

A little about me, I am a 28 yr old, married going on 9 yrs. SAHM of 3, ages 7, 6, and 3. My oldest are 13 months apart. It will happen when it is the right time!! In the mean time keep practicing!!!

N.

Hey L.!

My husband I had tried for about 5 or 6 months to get pregnant and I started taking the clomid. In about a month I was pregnant! It worked great! I had also read the other comments, I'm not sure where they went to get on this or heard about it, but my doctor never said anything about really bad risks or made me sign anything. And I just went to my regular OB/GYN I didnt have to see a specialst. I'm not saying they are wrong!! I'm just saying my doctor never did any of that! If you have any questions or just want to talk you can email me ____@____.com!

T.

Hi L.,

My name is D.. I'm a Birth Doula, CD(DONA), Yoga & Aquatic Fitness Instructor, Personal Trainer and Massage Therapist. I have been consulting for couples wishing to conceive for four years now.

Prior to attempting any supplement or medication, let me recommend a few less expensive/invasive methods.

1) You and your husband should decrease as much stress in your lifestyles as possible. Take a yoga class together, do consistant recreational activities like walking, bike rides or any activity the two of you like to do together.

2) Make sure you and your husband are eating smart. Low fat meals, plenty of veggies/fruits. Reduce most of not all caffeine, alcohol and smoking.

Doing these two things combined, I'm more than sure you two will conceive. I'd love to hear how things go L..

Sincerely,
D. P., LMT, CD(DONA), CPT
email: ____@____.com

Dear L.:

I remember how it was, don't be anxious about getting pregnant! That is a major deterent if anything is ever, you body and mind must be relaxed. I am a mother of 3 and a grandmother, I'll tell you the quickest way to get pregnant....go out for a romantic dinner, dance and get a bottle of white wine and drink about a glass and a half....you'll be relaxed, feeling romantic and it will take your mind off of everything but pleasing that man of yours. Don't worry sweetie, it works at least every other time, I stayed pregnant for about 3 out of 5 years. Good luck! S. in Shreveport, LA

L.,
You are young and there is no reason to believe anything is wrong with you that would require clomid. Clomid only helps women ovulate and usually is seen in older to be mom's. It can take up to a year to hit the exact date. If natural " let it happen" is driving you crazy check out ovusoft.com. Fertitity awareness is great and they have a free calendar and support boards to help you get through.

Happy baby dancing

I heard that if both of you start taking 500mg of vitatian C and Zinc that will help. You might try natural family planning...most catholic churches have info on that program.

Hi L.. Well, first of all I wouldn't be concerned since you've only been trying for a couple months. I think the average time it takes to get pregnant with no fertility problems is 6 months. I know that it seems like forever, but hang in there.
Also, we used a book that helped figure out when I was ovulating. The name of the book was Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Here is the amazon link to it: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060937645/sr=8-1/qid=11...
Hope this helps.

Hi L.,
I am the Practice Manager for an OB/Gyn. The best thing for you would be to start with pre-conception counseling. Your physician will run tests and be sure that there are no other issues that need to be addressed before you stress out about not getting pregnant. Other health issues with you or your husband, which most of the time may be corrected, could be preventing you from conceiving. If you do decide to begin fertility treatments, it is important to follow your physicians advise thoroughly and try to eat and stay as healthy as possible. You're on the right track by taking the prenatal vitamins. An OB/Gyn will start your care, but may refer you to a fertility specialist. There are many great physicians in this area. Try to make an appointment soon to be sure that everything is well. Trying to get pregnant can be very stressful, but getting all the right advice and treatment is important. Good luck. Be patient. God bless.

I would recommend a book called Taking Charge of your Fertility. I am not sure who the author is but it gives you good hints about getting pregnant, it helps you chart your ovulation and so forth. Don't give up, it took me and my hubby about a year to get pregnant.

Hi L.,

The only problem is that doctors will not prescribe clomid until you have been trying to get pregnant for over 6 months. But it is normal to take at least 6 months to get pregnant even if you no fertility issues. Give it a few more months and then if nothing happens, try the fertility treatments. Clomid does help but it is also a bit dangerous. Doctors will tell you it is safe but yet you still have to sign documents saying you are aware of the "risks" and you will have to have your ovaries checked once a month while on clomid. Just pray a lot, that always works. Good luck.

S

Please be careful with those over the counter prenatel vitamins. Go talk to your OB/GYN. I'm not sure but I would feel horrible if I didn't tell you. I lost a pregnancy I believe with help from OTC vitamins. You haven't been trying long and you may not need any help to conceive. But please talk to your doctor first. She/He will be able to give you specifics for your individual needs.

Best of luck to ya'll.

L. 2 months is not to much of a concern, if it goes on 6-12 months i then would be concerned
I know its harder said then done, but dont think obout it to much , it will only stress your body and make it more difficult. Getting pregnant is not as easy as people think, it is purely timing. Have a glass a wine or 2 and just relax and it will happen. GOod Luck. M.

Two months?! Keep trying. You do realize that women only have about 3 fertile days a month. Get one of the ovulation kits, that may help. Clomid is something for women who have been trying for like 2 years! You don't want to get into fertility drugs unless you have to. You are only 25, just keep on trying. I am sure your husband won't complain!

L.,
I just found out that I am 5 weeks PG with my second child. My husband and I have a 10 month old daughter. We have been trying since she was six months. All I did was keep a fertility chart( which yoiu can set up one just do a search for a fertility chart on your computer) It will tell you the most fertile days to try and concieve a child. Just remember the first day of your last cycle and it will tell you the days from there. GOOD LUCK!!
A.

Hi L.,
I know firsthand that when you decide to start a family you want immediate gratification! My husband and I got pregnant for the first time without exactly planning it first. I unfortunately had a miscarriage and had to have a DNC but we decided to try again as soon as the doctor said it was okay. It took us eight months to get pregnant after that. I couldn't understand it since I got pregnant so easily the first time and there was nothing wrong with either me or him. We were very actively trying but month after month the pregnancy tests came back negative. I was so distraught but I was talking to a friend, who is also a doctor, and she made a valid point to me. She said, "Making a baby is a miracle, literally. Everything has to be lined up at exactly the right time for the miraculous occurence to take place. The creation of life is not something that just happens. It is the combination of tons of necessary elements and it will come in due time." According to what I hear from most people, you have to be actively trying for at least one year before they will even consider putting you on fertility drugs. However, I am NO expert on this so please don't take my word as set in stone. Just wanted to give you a little hope. Have fun trying to make your baby and bond with your husband. Now that I look back on it, it was a long and hard eight months wanting a baby so badly and having no luck but it made my husband and I so much closer and aware of each other and our needs. Good luck to you and your husband. I have every confidence that your baby will come in no time!! I hope this helps!

L.,
Two months isn't long at all to try. Keep in mind that not every woman releases an egg every single month. In addition, the window of opportunity each month is very small. Like someone else suggested I would schedule an gyn appt. It never hurts to have a check-up anyway. Also if you check out babycenter.com you can chart your ovulation and that might make it happen a little sooner. However, what I have found is that what will be, will be...there's no rushing mother nature. Best of luck and have fun "practicing".
Liz

I'M NOT SURE IF YOUR DOCTOR HAS TOLD YOU THIS OR NOT. BUT FOR ALMOST EVERY WOMAN WHO HAS A REGULAR PERIOD THE MOST FERTILE DAYS EVERY MONTH ARE THE 7TH-12TH DAYS AFTER YOUR PERIOD STOPS. FOR INSTANCE, IF YOUR PERIOD STOPS ON THE 7TH THEN STARTING ON THE 14TH-19TH ARE YOUR FERTILE DAYS. IT ALSO HELPS THAT YOU ARE ALREADY TAKING PRENATAL VITAMINS TO HELP YOUR BODY BUILD UP WHAT IT WILL NEED IN ORDER TO STAY PREGNANT AND FOR A HEATHLY PREGNANCY ALL THE WAY AROUND. IT WOULD ALSO HELP IF YOU GOT AN ORGASM BEFORE HE DOES. SOMEHOW THIS IS SUPPOSED TO HELP. I HOPE THIS HELPS. I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK.

Stop stressing out over wanting a child. Alot of factors can determine how long it is before you can get pregnant. One of the factors is how long you were on birth control. I was on b.c. for about 2 years before i quit. It took about 4 months for the birth control to completely leave my system. Think about it. When you take b.c. it controls your fertilty. when you go off of it, you have to give yor body time to adjust and to take over that function again. Try a new exercise program to make sure you are in the best shape that you can be in to have a child. my Husband and i would like another child, so i am letting nature take its couse for a while and to keep from stressing out on it, i am taking exercising classes. I would try for about a year if i was you, and then maybe try a feritlity drug.

L., you may want to drink something very warm like coffee or hot chocolate before being intimate. You may be pleasantly surprised.