October 10, 2011,
J.B. asks from Katy, TX on October 10, 2011
Vomit... Everywhere but the Toilet!
My wifes 11 yr old often comes back from the weekend at dads having gorged himself on apperently everthing edible in his dads home. And as usual, at some point through the night in our home he barfs EVERYWHERE, the bed, the walls, the floor... the tub..
We hear him get up and muster up the words "mom, i don't feel good" then BLAM... everywhere and the moaning and crying... Her daughter on the other hand, has pulled off the same episode without a peep. We've actually only known she was sick through the night when she told us in the morning, she makes it to the toilet, cleans up and get's right back in bed.
Anyone else have polar opposite children? Or a child that SHOULD know where to throw-up?
So What Happened?™
No prevention helps, he has a bathroom in his bedroom. He will walk through that, down the hall, halfway down the stairs.. just to tell us he is throwing up, lol
J.D. answers from Cincinnati on October 10, 2011
My son has this cry thing he does and then hes got about 20-30 mins before he will actually get sick. For the most part, he does make it to the bathroom but stares straight ahead and misses so I have a mess to clean up at least once everytime he does hit. I screamed at him the last time he was sick because he was going upstairs to the bathroom instead of using the one downstairs which was right around the corner and puked down the steps. Hes doing better since then but cries hysterically because he thinks I am going to scream again.
T.C. answers from Austin on October 10, 2011
My son is in a bunk bed now and I worry what will happen if he gets sick there. So far, we've had him sleep in a different bed if he's feeling sick at all. I will put a bath towel and a bowl in bed with him, an extra trash can beside the bed, and then line the path to the door with an old sheet. I don't think he's ever made it to the toilet, at least the sink is better than the floor. I'd rather go overboard with all the "just in case" things than have to yell at him when he's feeling bad.
Maybe you could find an old bowl with a handle and teach him to carry it with him when he comes to get you. Add glow in the dark paint if he has trouble locating it. And have him practice when he's not feeling sick- you're in bed, you feel sick, you have 20 seconds- what do you do?
L.M. answers from Kansas City on October 10, 2011
what the heck are they eating that makes them so sick? Nip it in the bud before it gets worse.
Ugh that is just nasty. Can you give them tums when they get home from dad? To help with digestion? They also need to learn now where to throw up, and keep a bucket next to their beds.. they are old enough now to understand. If not, make them clean it themselves...
I had to and it was no fun, but boy the next time I was sick I gunned for the toilet.
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J.T. answers from Victoria on October 10, 2011
We had buckets or large bowls growing up that we kept near the bed and held on the way to the bath room. I suggest sleeping in his room that first night back for a month or so. That way when he wakes up and feels sick he can tell someone right away and you can cue him in on what he is suppose to do. The next return home I wouldnt say anything but just show him what to do. Hand him the bowl positioned at his belly to catch emergency sickness then walk him to the bathroom and position him infront of the potty. After its all done tell him thats how you do it. My husband and his family all barf in the trash can and it totally grosses me out. They dont want toliet water to splash them in there face. Which only means I get to carrry out barf trash :( Hope he gets the hang of where to barf. BTW when I was VERY little my dad yelled at me in the middle of the night because i barfed from my room to the bath room leaving a trail for him to clean. Let your son know if he doesnt make it to the pot to stay in one spot ;)
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T.F. answers from Dallas on October 10, 2011
UGH, he is old enough to manage to get to the bathroom or at least know when it is about to come up and run.
This sounds like he is purposely doing this for attention. Any attention is attention, right....
When my daughter was very young and didn't realize what was happening, we had the issues but not since she was a toddler.
I also have a designated "vomit bowl" that is kept at her bedside when she is not feeling well and/or sick. Even though she is close to her bethroom which is a part of her room, I do understand that sometimes accidents can happen.
Everytime like your 11yr old... not accidents in my mind. Maybe start making him clean it up.
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B.C. answers from Norfolk on October 10, 2011
Be sure to talk to him when he's not sick about what he should be doing.
When you don't feel well - head immediately to the bathroom - either tub or toilet is fine.
Stay there till you feel better or have up-chucked everything till there's nothing left (dry heaves).
Clean up bathroom and yourself (brush teeth, shower, change pajamas, etc).
Then come tell us about it or go back to bed.
If this happens every time he comes from his Dad's (and that's just weird - what the heck is he eating over there and how much?), then first night back he must sleep in the bathroom (sleeping bag on the floor or in the tub).
If he's gorging himself, it's kind of a strange binge and purge cycle he's got going and that can be a big problem.
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G.T. answers from Redding on October 10, 2011
Some cant make it to the bathroom due to feeling SO terrible, been there done that. If you know there's a possibility of nausea coming on, provide a barf bowl right by the bed. A small trash can will do the trick. A stitch in time saves 9.
D.H. answers from Louisville on October 10, 2011
If he has to clean it up, bet he'll learn to make it - the daughter does it already!
A.S. answers from Detroit on October 10, 2011
I have EXTREMELY opposite kids.
My daughter [8 yrs old] thrives on chaos.
My son [3yrs old] thrives on organization and schedules.
I can't say anything about the vomitting thing. My son still doesn't know the proper place yet... And he's only gotten sick a handful of times. My daughter usually throws up [the first time] on her bedding, but she's upstairs and the bathroom is on the main floor. However, if she does get sick once, she has the trashcan next to her... And she'll make it in that if need be.
My daughter is my "stomach bug" kid. My son has an iron gut. He's my common cold or sinus infection kid. My daughter didn't have to have ANY antibiotic until she was almost 7, but pukes anytime she has allergies w/sinus drainage and had rotovirus @ only 17/18mos old. My son was on an antibiotic for an infection before his 2nd bday, but only puked twice so far.
They're polor-opposites as far as personality is concerned too. My son wants to do everything himself. My daughter wants everything done for her. He's laid back. She's ADHD. As newborns, my daughter didn't want to sleep... EVER and wanted constant stimulation. He slept great and was more than fine playing on the floor alone with a rattle. As toddlers, she was EASY. If someone told her, "Please don't do that/touch that, you could get hurt." She didn't and never attempted again. Him? OH BOY! It's the, "Let's see if it really does hurt me" challenge. Or, "How far can I really go with this..." She whines about everything. He just yells and gets mad.
We shall see in the next chapter of life. ☺
J.P. answers from Lakeland on October 10, 2011
I think some kids just want/need more attention when they are sick. My daughter never complains and I don't usually know when she is not feeling good, unless she tells me. Now my step daughter (my daughter’s half sister) is a complete drama queen when she is sick. She whines, cries and moans with every little thing.
Have your wife talk to the dad and ask what he is eating. Let him know that his son is getting sick when returning. I would wonder too if he is not getting good attention from his dad.
When I first met my hubby his kids would come for the weekend and he let them eat junk food all the time too. I think he did it from feeling guilty that the marriage didn’t work out. He wanted his kids to think he was a cool dad, he just did it the wrong way.
He no longer does that. I do my best to help him understand what it's like to be a kid from divorced parents, from my own experences.
I also forgot....put a bucket next to his bed. If he misses make him clean it up.