M.K. asks from Westfield, MA on February 24, 2008
Using a Doula at Your Birth
So What Happened?™
Thanks guys! It is awsome hearing from so many. I have been having a great time reading all the responses each day...thank you all!
M.F. answers from Boston on February 26, 2008
I used a doula. I definitely recommend it. As a first time Mom I was really nervous about the whole birth and my doula helped alleviate any fears. We met with her several times prior to the birth of my daughter and she kept in touch after. Good luck!
L.B. answers from Boston on March 01, 2008
Before the birth, my husband was very skeptical about the whole doula thing. He asked me, "don't you want me to support you?" And he really was hurt that I felt I needed more support than him.
After the birth? My husband is the biggest advocate for doulas you've ever met. He was EXHAUSTED from supporting me through my 13 hour labor, and if it hadn't been for the doula to give him a break, I would have had to do all the pushing on my own. The midwives and doctors aren't going to be there the whole time, so it's nice to have someone who is.
We delivered in a hospital, and I would HIGHLY recommend getting a doula. The most important advice I can give you is to interview a bunch of different doulas to see which one you are the most comfortable with - doulas come with all sorts of philosophies and approaches, and you should find someone who you are really comfortable with. And find out what their backup plan is, should they not be able to be there for the birth (due to whatever issues that may come up, or if another client is in labor at the same time)
L.P. answers from Burlington on February 26, 2008
hi - we used a doula for our first birth, 2 1/2 years ago, and are using the same one for our upcoming birth, in a few weeks. it's expensive - ours was $500, but the best $500 we've ever spent! she helped to keep me going the whole time and because of her i had a natural childbirth, and am so thankful for that. it wasn't even a question as to whether or not we'd use her again for our 2nd child. i highly recommend it!
K.V. answers from Boston on February 25, 2008
I have been at 2 births where a doula was present and I would highly recommend one. They are the voice of encouragement and strength during labor and delivery. The doula is free to focus on only you and what you are going through when the midwife is delivering the baby.
No experience here with the post partum part.
N.C. answers from Springfield on February 25, 2008
It looks like you live in the Pioneer Valley also. Michelle Lesperance (sp?) from Warm Welcome Birth Services was with me at the birth of my third child. She works as a midwife and a doula and came along to our homebirth with our primary midwife to help out. She was absolutely lovely and I highly recommend her for both home and hospital deliveries. You can see her business information here on Mamasource at http://www.mamasource.com/business/14300932067242803201. Good luck!
G.M. answers from Boston on February 25, 2008
Absolutely do it! My first was born in hospital with a doula, and despite being induced, I used no pain medications...it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. The doula took away my fear and eased me and my birth team through it.
Second baby was born at home with two midwives, which was even better!
E.K. answers from Bangor on February 28, 2008
YES YES YES
My Doula Experience has been wonderful, and all the Doula's I have met before and since (except one, who never got a client for good reason) were WONDERFUL people who would do nothing but improve your Birth experience.
a person who you talk to over and over again before your birth starts, so that your actual wishes are followed when the time occures. They play sounding board, and Devils advocate, remind and support through out all of this
then provide a Detailed and (in my case) Poetic account of the experience.
I cannot recommend one more
S.C. answers from Boston on February 25, 2008
I strongly recommend a doula. Just 3 months ago I gave birth to my daughter and had a doula. She was absolutely wonderful. I had no pain medication and she deffinitely helped me through the pain and breathing. A doula deffinitely made my experience wonderful!
L.W. answers from Portland on February 26, 2008
We used a doula, and I don't think I would ever deliver again without one. She was amazing, amazing, amazing. It was so helpful to have someone there who had attended so many births - she knew just what to say and do, she understood the medical jargon, she massaged my husband's shoulders to keep him calm. I was never alone, I was constantly massaged and soothed. She was a DJ, a waitress, a friend, a hand to squeeze. She gave my husband a break when he needed one, and I didnt' even notice he was gone for a few minutes, because, again, I was never alone.
Be sure the doula is DONA certified. Ours helped us write our birth plan, too.
Good luck to you!!