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Twins Still Sleep Together

my 15 month old twin girls still sleep in the same crib, we have tried to seperate them and they scream through the night. I am 5 months pregnant and want them in toddler beds when the new baby comes. I was looking for any ideas on how to seperate them and get them in their own beds.

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Why seperate them? One bed is cheaper than two, get a double and let them seperate when they want to. Twins tend to be closer than regular sisters and I shared a bed with my sister till pre-teen years when we switched to twin beds.

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Well if you cant get them seperate in toddler beds maybe try buying a full bed and letting them sleep together there. I dont see anything wrong with them sleeping together as long as them and you are getting a good nights sleep. That way the crib is free for the new baby. My son never took to a toddler bed so at 2 he was in a full bed and it worked wonders. good luck hun

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great suggestions, will keep this in mind for when the time comes for us to move them to a bed

my 7month boy/girl babies sleep in the same crib, we have another one just in case

never had them wake each other up yet, they sleep through each other's cries and coos and even kicks

I hope they want to keep sleeping together, I think it helped them sleep through the night

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Why seperate them? One bed is cheaper than two, get a double and let them seperate when they want to. Twins tend to be closer than regular sisters and I shared a bed with my sister till pre-teen years when we switched to twin beds.

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Well if you cant get them seperate in toddler beds maybe try buying a full bed and letting them sleep together there. I dont see anything wrong with them sleeping together as long as them and you are getting a good nights sleep. That way the crib is free for the new baby. My son never took to a toddler bed so at 2 he was in a full bed and it worked wonders. good luck hun

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I don't have twins but I watch alot of discovery chanel with the twins and I find it very interesting. twins don't like to be apart. they need eachother's closeness. I'd think about maybe putting them in the same toddler bed for now. I know that will work because my kids are 3.5 and 2 and they still fit in a toddler bed together. I don't think that seperating them this early is good for them becuase they have been together from day one and they are too young to understand what's going on.

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Hi C.

I have 3 year old twin boys and they still sleep in the same bed. We took them out of the crib just before they turned a year old. They have been sleeping in a twin sez bed ever since. One sleeps at one end and the other at the other end. We put boards up between the mattress and the bed from to keep them from falling out. you could try something like that. Our put their toddler beds together for a while till they are use to being in their own beds.
Good luck
R., stay at home momma to twins 3 year old boys

Wow, that is great that they sleep well together! Just skip the toddler beds and buy a double bed for them to share!!! Put railings up on both sides to keep them from rolling out and don't worry too much. If they ever want to sleep apart (maybe in a few years) think about buying 2 single twin beds then.

Many babaies and toddlers like the comfort of sleeping next to mom and dad, so I'd guess this is somewhat normal. They were together in the womb and have always been together. It will be hard to separate them, so don't do it if you don't have to!

Hi Chelsie,
I would not worry or try to seperate those twins. They know when they are ready to seperate.
My twin 4yr olds still have sleep overs in each others rooms at least once a week.
Just start thinking about toddler beds, than when they are ready for those, they can seperate themselves as they would have the ability to chose than.
Good luck.

I know what you are going through I separated my twins from birth they had there own cribs and eventually beds we made an extra room in the basement for one of the twins. Not that long ago, but they can't seem to separate so now they sleep in a double bed in one room I get so irritated but they seem to be getting enough sleep. I have tried everything from seperate beds to separate rooms nothing seems to help. From what I have heard and seen twins have a connection that no one understands hopefully mine will grow out of it soon. I wish you the very best. If you find out anything let me know.

great suggestions, will keep this in mind for when the time comes for us to move them to a bed

my 7month boy/girl babies sleep in the same crib, we have another one just in case

never had them wake each other up yet, they sleep through each other's cries and coos and even kicks

I hope they want to keep sleeping together, I think it helped them sleep through the night

Hey C.,

Again, I don't have twins but I don't see the problem in letting them continue to sleep together in a bigger bed. But if you feel more comfortable with them in toddler beds I would suggest putting the two toddler beds right next to eachother so they touch. This way each little girl has her own bed but they are still within reach of eachother.
I would also try and make it more fun for them to switch to a toddler bed, this way they will be more reseptive to it.

Hope that helps.

Honestly, don't separate them. Find a bed big enough for both of them. They were in utero *together*, and in the crib *together* for quite a long time. It wouldn't be fair or even logical in expecting them to be split and be okay. You may have another baby coming, but they are still babies themselves. IMO, it wouldn't be right to tear them from what they know and are comfortable in.

C.,

Why not put them into a toddler bed together? They obviously find a lot of comfort in sleeping together. If it isn't broken, why fix it? Or you could get a futon or other bed that is low to the ground and transition them into that.

Or, you could just get another crib. I got a beautiful crib off Craig's list for $50 when my new baby came. It was really clean and in beautiful shape but I scrubbed it down with diluted bleach anyway(germ freak LOL) I already had a crib mattress but even if you need to buy one, they aren't that expensive. And when you are done, you can sell the crib again on Craig's list and get your money back. I regularly see cribs advertised for $100 or less. As long as it hasn't been recalled, it is a great way to get one and not spend a fortune.

If you are determined to get them into seperate toddler beds, maybe you could set the beds side by side so they'd still be close to each other?

T.

I don't have twins but my best friend does and she lets them sleep in the same toddler bed (or you can try a twin bed with the safety rails) she wants them to stay as close as they want, and figures when they are ready to be separated they will do it on their own.

This idea will help you save money as well. Get the Vikare junior bed from Ikea (with rail of course). It expands to a twin bed, and is wider than typical toddler beds, so the both of them could sleep in them together. Because of the bond they have and how young they still are, I don't know if it would be a good idea to force it at this point (eventually, they will want their own stuff!)

have you considered a trundle bed? it made seperating my little brothers who couldnt sleep with out each other a little more happy to be out of the crib

I too have twin girls they will be 4 at the end of Jan.

They have seperate beds but they still end up sleeping together.

We used dutch doors (top half gone) we put a slide lock on the out side of the door. The room is completely childproof. I did not have to worry about them running out of the door at night. You can buy a twin or full size mattress and put it on the floor

If your girls want to stay together, you should keep them together.

i have 8 month old twin girls, they dont sleep togther but maybe they just arnt ready yet...

if you are up for it, i'd say get a full/twin bunk bed set. then you could let them share the bottom full bed until they chose to sleep in seperate beds.

I totally agree with the advice to get a big bed for them to share. You are so lucky they have eachother for comfort. Otherwise they may be in your bed at night and you would get no sleep, like me. my 2 boys, 2 and 4 end up in our bed almost every night. I would love it if they would crawl into eachother's beds instead.

When my oldest was 2and a half, my brother gave me a toddler bed for him,he took the crib down and put the bed in my sons room. He HATED IT!! He refused to sleep in it. He was not ready to go to a bed. I couldnt put the crib back together so he just ended up sleeping with me. So before you move them into a toddler bed make sure they are ready. When they are ready put the beds together then slowley start seperating them. Eventually they will be in seperate beds. I also have twin girls who sleep together and this is what I am planning on doing when the time comes. I know of another lady who tied her kids cribs together so the kids could still touch but they were in different beds. Good Luck

A. Mommy of 4

Hi C.,

When my twins were 5 months old I put them in seperate cribs. They were growing so much, I had to get a second crib. My twins like yours are 15 months old, today infact (2/5/07).

Maybe you can get a trundle bed like one of the posters suggested. At least they will be close to each other.

My twins are still in cribs. I am not a big fan of having to put my girls back into a bed at this age. They love walking and would not uderstand it is bedtime yet. I was thinking of getting beds for them when they are 2.5 or 3 years old.

M.

I suggest buying two toddler beds, placing them together (side by side) till they are ready to be apart. maybe move them apart a little at a time.

Wish you luck

C.,
It's perfectly natural for the girls to want to be together. Their ability to comfort each other may even mean a little less work for you. If I were in your shoes I'd buy a twin bed for the girls to share. If the frame is too high then just put the mattress on the floor. Buy two if you can, so that each girl has her own bed. But when it comes time to snuggle up, I'd let them choose where to go. The day will come when they will decide on their own that they're rather sleep alone. But they'll always feel secure with that life long twin bond which grew stronger through co-sleeping. Listen to your kids- they're telling you what they need.
If my idea just doesn't cut it with you maybe you could put the toddler beds right next to each other so that the girls can hold hands while falling asleep.
All the best to you.
L.

I'd also say buy them a double bed!
Or 2 toddler beds you can put next to each other and moe to separate ends of the room little by little

C., I've read that twins are especially attached to each other and that it's important to allow them to sleep together. Doing so enhances their feeling of security. They will sleep in separate beds when they're ready to do so.

If a full bed takes up too much room, I think a twin bed is big enough at this age. M.

Guess I dont need to respond as everyone has already said it.
I feel it woudl actually be wrong to seperate them at this point. why would you even want to?
Twins need each other.
Just get them a twin or full matress and put it down for them.
You will be glad you did

I would try putting there beds together and then slowly moving them farther apart. I would also give them somthing for comfort ( because they are giving up their security blanket-each other) like a stuffed toy or blanket. When I wanted my oldest daughter to stop sleeping in my bed I put her in her bed with her favorit blanket and bear and I slept on the floor till she fell asleep. I started out right next to her bed and slowly moved my bed farther away each night. My twins don't sleep together because one was always rolling on top of the other.

I'm a twin myself and my mom put us in the same crib for the first couple of months. She said we did fine when we did go to our own cribs. Now I'm 7 months pregnant with twins...boy and girl. I have an 18 month old girl and we tried about a month ago to put her in a toddler bed. It was too early....she is walking now and EVERY night for about 2 weeks she was right back downstairs after we'd put her in her toddler bed. She'd sleep with us sometimes. SHe's finally back in her crib. She's a year and a half. I'm keeping her in there til she's good and ready.

We put my oldest into a toddler bed when she was a year old because of a new baby and she did fine with it after about 2 months. She got in and out of it for the first little while we just had to be consistent with it and continually put her back when she got out, and really all it took was patience on my part :). I think they would do fine if you kept them together, as that seems like the real problem here is that they don't want to be seperated. If you feel they won't fit in one toddler bed then if you have the room go to a bigger bed just make sure you have the guards on the bed so they don't roll out.

Do NOT seperate them. Try getting a bigger bed, perhaps a double or queen mattress on the floor instead of two toddler beds. It is OK that they sleep with each other, they NEED each other. At this point, they are helping each other with body temperature, body rhythms, and need to be in close proximity to each other. When their days are full of being "busy", it is soothing for them to be able to reconnect at night.

My recommendations is to read The Baby Book by Dr. Sears, as well as Baby Matters, by Dr. Linda Palmer. Having one child is very different than having twins, and you will find you can probably do things differently with one than you could when you had two at a time to deal with. Keep an open mind and consider the benefits. Perhaps you won't need a crib after all and just let the twins keep it :)

Hi,
I'm a mother of twin girls. My girls had two separate cribs next to each other but would climb over to one crib to be together. They are now 7 years old and still sleep in the same bed. They still sleep always touching, hugging or wrapped around each other in some way. After the crib hopping when they were babies, I had got rid of the cribs and put them in one full size mattress on the floor. They now have a Queen bed they share. They love sleeping next to each other. I might try to venture our in the next couple of years and get two twin beds.

Good Luck & Aloha,
C.

Why don't you just get them a full sized mattress and put it right on the floor and let them still sleep together? Lots of people grow up shareing beds. Both of my parent's did. They will eventualy want their own space, but at 15 months they are still babies and are eachother's security object. It would be like asking them to give up their nighttime dolly or blankie. Just my 2 cents.

After reading all these posts, I do see that twins are a whole different world. Do what comes natural. I'm sure they will be ok no matter what you choose to do. But, maybe they are not ready for a toddler bed as of yet. Usually they aren't ready until around 2 years old or later. If they don't or aren't able to crawl out of their cribs, they should still be in one. It is dangerous to have them have freedom at night when you are asleep at this age. If you do need another crib or toddler bed, Craigslist.com is a great place to find some...if you have a craigslist in your area.

My 2 year old is still not ready for a toddler bed, although we have it setup and are hoping that she will want to sleep in it when it comes time. For now, she is still in her crib.

Good luck! Sorry if this wasn't much help.

I don't have twins, but I watched a lot of Baby Story during my last two pregnancies. I would suggest getting them a double size bed to share instead of two toddler beds. They would be more secure that way... let's face it, they've been together since they were tiny dots. They'll "separate" when they are ready. Congrats on the new baby!

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