Twins ... Same Section /Or Different Section?

Updated on March 15, 2011
Z.R. asks from Beverly Hills, CA
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hi ..I'm 29 from India.

my kids (both boys) are 5 .

I'm not sure if anyone here has twins..
But I need to know do you think Its a good idea or bad...if twins are in the same class?

My one twin .. kind of "blindly" follows the other twin ... but I feel If I change his section he could get more isolated ???
he is the more quiet types ..and more obedient .

the other one is a charmer/naughty .

thanks :)

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So What Happened?

hi .
thanks for such great replies :)
im 60-40 in my heart .
I feel; that its like a "lucky dip"
maybe the quieter one gets self sufficient or maybe he feels even worse ,,,

but yes..its worth a try ... :):)
thanks

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M.G.

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I have twins, but mine are only two. As a teacher, I feel strongly that I will separate my twins in school. I personally feel it will be good for my boys to be away from each other. It will give them a chance to develop on their own without the other one always by his side. But, many moms choose to keep their twins together. If you are starting to feel the one is following the other, split them up. I'll bet instead of becoming more isolated he will make new friends and talk with new kids. And, if it doesn't work out, you can always put them together the next school year.

Good luck!

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M.C.

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I'm a twin. Whenever there was more than one class in a grade, we were seperated. My son's school currently has twins and 2 sets of triplets. They are all in different classes. I think the mom of the triplets sets up special meetings for the back-to-school nights!

Having them in different classes will help them with their independence and become individuals.

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E.M.

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Our school is so small that my twins will be together until they hit 4th grade, only due to the fact that we only have one of each grade level until then. However, the other bigger schools in the district force twins to be in the same kindergarten together, and then after that, it's up to the parents to decide.

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T.P.

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Hi I don't have twins but I have an aunt and a cousin with twin boys. The school let them stay together for kindergarten but separated them from 1st grade on. This separation is so they can become their own person and not follow each other. My Aunts twins are adults now and they have separate careers but they are still very close. The separation will be good for the quiet one. He will not like it at first but will eventually get used to it. Good luck!!

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S.B.

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My husband is a twin. He will always, always tell people not to split the twins up. His mother fought to keep them in the same class in school. His cousin's wife let the school split up her twins.....who went from good students to kids who cant sit still or pay attention in class.

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M.M.

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I have a twin brother, and we grew up always going to the same class. It was wonderful! I was the shy one, and I leaned on my brother for support. He helped me make friends, and we were very close. My mother had to specifically request that we be placed in the same class each year, as they usually separate twins into different classes. I am glad she did.

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L.C.

answers from Washington DC on

I know a mother with twins. She separated them at school. She wanted them to have their own identities. That said, their first year at college, they were roommates because it was cheaper... Now they are Juniors in college and they have different roommates. :-)
If you split them up, you might find that the "follower" becomes a leader...
YMMV
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D.P.

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My best friend decided to seperate her twins in kindergarten - one was the leader, the other the follower. The first week was tough on the follower, but he is now doing great, learning lots, and has lots of friends. The leader also had an adjustment phase - no one to blindly follow her "silliness" - she's also settled down and is doing well.

E.S.

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Most American public schools will separate them anyway, and for the same reason you are thinking of separating them. Having them in different classes will help them develop their own identities and friends. They're twins, so they will still have their little things in common, but twins who have a chance to be apart every day will be able to become their own little people. I am teacher and have seen a lot of this. I am also from a family full of twins (my dad is a twin, I have twin sisters, Dad's twin brother has twins, my mother-in-law is a twin whose twin sister had triplets, and I have several aunts and uncles who are twins).

L.G.

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Most mothers routinely separate their twins in school. It will very likely help the more quiet one find out who he is on his own.

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E.F.

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I have a good friend with twin girls and she has them split up in kindergarten. Everything is going great for them; they are actually finding out who they are as individuals and she feels and sees that they get along better at home now because of the "break" they get from each other in school. Initially, I think it was a little hard for them, but now they love it.

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J.C.

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I just read a book called Parenting School Age Twins and Multiples that had a lot of information on the subject of separating twins in the classroom. I have twins in kindergarten who are in the same class. They are very different, and one is more outgoing socially (and bossy!) but they have never been codependent or had any negative effect on eachother in the classroom. Personally, I think it would be easier for ME to have them in the same class in the future. Same homework, same field trips, same teacher conference, etc. The one good thing I see about separating them would be that they might get along better after they got home from school and have lots of things to talk about. As of now, I plan to see what their teacher thinks would be best after getting to know both of them and watching how they are in class together. I think that will help me make up my mind about next year.

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