J.A. asks from Flower Mound, TX on November 27, 2008
Twilight Series - Appropriate for 10 1/2 Year Old?
My 10 1/2 year old daughter has expressed an interest in reading the Twilight books and seeing the movie. This would be a great Christmas gift, but I need to know if they're age appropriate for her. She just finished a book (that I read first) that was similar, and contained just very mild romance and I was ok with that, but I don't want to expose her to too much sexual inuendoes.
Has anyone read them? What do you think? What about the movie?
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WOW! Thanks, everyone, for your insightful responses! My daughter is fairly mature for her age, we've already had the "sex talk", and she is aware that there is NOTHING she can't come to me to talk about. I also agree that books are a wonderful, creative escape from reality, while at the same time, teaching our children in a way that we're not able.
I've decided to buy the books and read them myself, one at a time, and give them to her to read if I feel they are appropriate. Obviously, this will not be a Christmas gift this year! But, I can say that you all have made me very anxious to read them myself!!
Thanks again for all of your responses!
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A.B. answers from Dallas on November 28, 2008
Hi J.,
I read the series and I loved it...that being said, I don't think I would let my 10 1/2 year old read it. Very sensual and lots of innuendo. Also, they spend a lot of time sneaking around and hiding their relationship from her father, sneak him in at night to spend the night, that kind of thing. I suggest you read it before you make a decision.
Have a great weekend,
A.
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M.C. answers from Dallas on November 29, 2008
I'll give my opinion that it is not appropriate for younger girls or younger teens. For a full review of specifics, I recommend you read the review of the movie and the book at Plugged In Online website. It details the objectionable content beyond the language/nudity items to also help you look at things such as how the main character defies her parents in her obsession to be with this vampire-boy.
A.H. answers from Dallas on November 29, 2008
J.,
I am a big Twilight fan, but I think the last two books are a little too spicy for a 10 year old. The first two are totally fine, but not the last two. It would be ok for a 15 year old. The movie is totally fine as well, as it is based on the first novel only.
Hope this helps.
A. H.
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A.T. answers from Dallas on November 28, 2008
My girls have all read them at least 30 times. The fourth one is a little risque, but it is after marriage and how can you let them read the first 3 but say no to the 4th?
It's READING people. Be HAPPY that your child WANTS to read in this day and age! Encourage it; find what they like and go with it.
Or, you can make a big deal out of it and make her want to read it even more. The more people overprotect, the more children often see something wrong and want it more. Just my opinion.
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A.B. answers from Dallas on November 28, 2008
J., the book is appropriate for a preteen. The series is amazing. I teach English; it took me 2 days to finish the 600 page follow up to "Twilight", "New Moon". Anyway, this is one of those stories good for "all ages", literally. There is a lot of chemistry between the characters, but it isn't consemated-- nothing more than an occasional kiss-- until book 4. My oldest daughter is 8, and I can't wait until she shows interest in reading a book of this length.
Oh-- you will LOVE it too!!
In response to those who said "no", 11 year olds are having these feelings whether we want them to are not. That is exactly when a confusing rush of changing hormones overwhelms us. Books are a fantastic outlet for those feelings. Also, it is a great teaching tool for parents about relationships and the difference between "real" ones and "fairytale" ones. Yes, Edward does sneak into her window at night (he is a vampire, we must keep in mind), but they never do anything inappropriate when he is there-- which is a great lesson in and of itself. They are satisfied just to be NEAR one another. Remember your preteen/teenage years... WOW! If only I had this book to fall into back then!!
It also, as some said, depends on your kid and how mature she is for her age. I was quite mature at that age; some girls have already hit puberty, but some kids are still "babies" at 11. However, if she's asking to read it, then something in her must be sparking some desire to understand the intensity of relationships. If not now, then soon, tell her.
That being said, I don't think that most books are inappropriate... books should be read. They are our escape-- and if a kid shows interest in a book, no matter what it is, they should be encouraged to read it. Read with them, discuss it... make it a bonding experience! Never deny anyone the power of a great story.
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M.C. answers from Dallas on December 01, 2008
J.,
My personal opinion is that there is nothing wrong with her reading these books. I say that because you do not want to hender her if she is reading books. Personally I would encourage almost any reading, with exception, such as true crime or x rated books. Let her read what interest her, because that is how I started reading when i was younger. I know that had my mother restricted the types of books that I could read, I would NEVER have been that interested in reading. I read all types of books now, since I was givin the opportunity to explore all the different styles when i was younger. I hope this helps to ease your mind. good luck
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A.B. answers from Dallas on November 28, 2008
Hi J.,
I read the series and I loved it...that being said, I don't think I would let my 10 1/2 year old read it. Very sensual and lots of innuendo. Also, they spend a lot of time sneaking around and hiding their relationship from her father, sneak him in at night to spend the night, that kind of thing. I suggest you read it before you make a decision.
Have a great weekend,
A.
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V.S. answers from Dallas on November 28, 2008
No way would I let my young daughter read these books. And I loved them. They are filled with sensual longing and sexual overtones. They make you long for the two to have sex even when they aren't. They are also full of deceiving the poor parent who doesn't know what is going on and is kept in the dark because he couldn't possibly understand. Lots of sneaking the vampire in the bedroom window at night and sleeping intwined in the bed wishing for more then making out. It is an amazingly sensual read. I highly recommend you taking the time to read the books before you let your daughter read them.
VickiS
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J.Y. answers from Tyler on November 28, 2008
No this book is not appropriate for a 10 1/2 year old. I haven't been on for awhile and have just returned. My daughter and I both have read this series and saw the movie. I would not let a 10 1/2 year old read these books. There are too many adult themes going on. The characters in the book are HS age. My advice is take a cue from the characters in the book. Would you let your daughter hang out with HS age crowd? So if you would not do that, then that answers your question right there. Younger kids want to be "in the know" and on top of things and they hear a lot of talk about the series and the movies etc... But we should use caution when letting them participate in things that are too old for them. Children are open to everything and anything and very curiousit is up to us to guide them and these are situations that they should not have to deal with for some years. Do not let your desire to have someone to share with let it cloud your judgement. It is fun to have something in commong with our daughters and children but better for you to come down to their level than to ask them to come up to yours. There is a lot of age appropriate litature out there. Check out Madeline L'Engle series of books which are just as good today as when my daughter was in grade school some years ago.
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A.M. answers from Dallas on November 28, 2008
The Twilight book series is targeted towards young adults. I consider young adult to be with the 11-16 age group.
I read all four parts and saw the movie. There is nothing inappropriate until part 4 once they have graduated high school. The movie is only based on part 1.
The fact that there is a high school girl who falls in love with a vampire is honestly no different than the little mermaid falling in love with the human prince. Twilight is a cute book. Part 4 is the one that depends on the maturity level of your daughter. There is sex involved in part 4, but they were married first and the content is not graphic.
Someone mentioned that you shouldnt let your daughter read or watch something with kids who are older than her...I don't neccessarily agree with that. My cousins are 8 and 9 and watch Saved By The Bell reruns. And what about the ever popular Hannah Montana??? Isnt she in high school? And High School Musical?? The Babysitter club book series? Nancy Drew?? Hilary Duff in Confessions of a Teenage Drama Queen?
Also, reading a book does not mean it will make your daughter act like the characters in the book once she reads it. That is ridiculous. Yes, the main character in Twilight lied to her father, but once he found out, she was in big trouble.
The book is NOT all about a high school girl who lies and sneaks around. And you have to understand the relationship between the father and the daughter. They hadn't seen in each other in years and she was raised by her mother.
There are many positive subjects in the book: family bonds,loyal friendships, good vs evil, abstinence,etc.
Read the books yourself and then decide. It won't take you long.
It's relative to each individual.
Are her friends reading the books?
The movie is rated PG-13 but not because of sexual innuendo. It is b/c the movie is supposed to be a "thriller".
Summit Entertainment is currently making part 2 into the movie.
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B.K. answers from Dallas on November 28, 2008
I have not seen nor read the Twilight series personally but I highly recommend the website Common Sense Media (www.commonsensemedia.org) - they have GREAT, in-depth reviews on all things from tv shows to movies to games - you should definitely check them out!
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