K.R. asks from Lansing, MI on December 10, 2006
Tween Daughter & Make-up
Hi All!
Our "tween" daughter has recently started experimenting with make-up. We don't let her wear makeup to school, but we will let her wear it if we go out as a family.
For Thanksgiving she did her hair and put make up on. She did huge round circles of blush on her cheeks and really dark lipstick. I tried to tone down her blush and lipstick, but she commented that she can't see it. I tried to explain that natural colors look good, and she is a beautiful girl and if she wants to wear makeup she sould accent certain areas instead of caking it on. Everyway I tried to show her the correct way she would argue with me and tell me I was wrong. My mother-in-law actually said on Thanksgiving that she looked like a clown and was upset that we let her out of the house like that. I tried to explain to her that Rachel has just started experimenting and she will eventually find the right look for her. I was her age once too and I thought my mom had no idea what she was talking about. So my hubby and I decided we would buy her some makeup more her shades and not so over-powering for Christmas. I was also looking for a makeup application type book for girls her age (tweens or teens) and I can't seem to find anything like that.
Do any of you have any suggestions or know of any books like this?
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S.G. answers from Detroit on December 12, 2006
Like some other people said, I would take her to the mall to a makeup counter and let them do a free makeover. Maybe she will listen to a make-up artist because she knows they are "experts." Good luck! :)
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C.W. answers from Saginaw on December 27, 2006
I did the same thing except I was much younger! I think every girl goes through it! Eventually she'll learn to aplly ir right! As for now let her be! And I'm sure a friend that knows more about applying makeup will help her out! My friend did or else I'd never of known how to apply it! Also I found a lady whoe sells mary kay and I had a MAry KAy party and she showed us how to apply make up very well! The right way! Then She also picked me to be a makeup modle at one of her meetings and that was a great experience!
J.F. answers from Grand Rapids on December 11, 2006
I took my daughter to a department store for a make over! It worked out great, I didn't spend big money on all the department store make-up, but I did buy her a couple of things. The make over was free and she got some great tips! Finally I don't go anywhere with a clown. Good Luck! Also you may try the American Girl collection for books.
V.M. answers from Kalamazoo on December 12, 2006
well i remember them days when i started wearing makeup when its new u think its cool that people see you can so they want to show it cause it makes them feel more grown up i think i wouldnt make 2 big of a deal maybe when u have time just ask her if you could show her some pointers an do it for her
J.K. answers from Detroit on December 14, 2006
I think no matter what anyone says. she looks at herself different than anyone. To you she may look like a clown but to her she thinks it;s pretty. What about her friends having a get togrther with the parents and a mary-kay party. for them but all parents be there.that may be your best bet, it's free and if you or other parents agree to buy the right choices. It could be a fun evening with the girls... lots of luck. I never wore make-up until i went to one in my 30's. i could never pick out the right stuff
V.K. answers from Saginaw on December 11, 2006
Many of the make up counters in the stores offer free applications and tips. Take her on a mom & daughter outing to the mall or department store and both of you can have your make up done for free. They will either instruct you on what they are doing or they will, for example, do one eye and have her do the other. Then maybe buy her a couple of the products they recommend like a shadow and a blush to get her started. This way it's a professional telling her how she should wear it and not mom "nagging." And I mean that politely :) Best of luck with your daughter and your efforts for another little one!
D.K. answers from Lansing on December 10, 2006
what about getting her into a salon or something like that, that would give her professional tips on the correct way to apply makeup? maybe that could be a christmas gift for her. I would do a search on the internet, correct way to apply makeup, then if book names came up, call around to the local book stores. Good luck
S.G. answers from Lansing on December 11, 2006
Hi My 10 year old also wants to wear make-up sometimes, with at not-at-school policy, unfortunately this was encouraged by my mother who started buying her play make-up and then real make-up.
Well this past summer she participated in a summer program that required the kids to wear 'stage make-up' - I don't wear make-up myself and figured she would not listen to my less-is-more suggestions. So as a solution, I took her to Kohls (by Meridian Mall) to have a free 'make-over'. The girl working there was awesome, much younger than me and could explain about how make-up should be applied, what tones/colors to wear etc.
We both walked out happy and I have not had to deal with clown cheeks and 'bleeding lips' since then.
Don't know about a book sugestion though - The American Girls series actually has some good books, one called Me and My Body, that may include make-up tips.
Good Luck
S.P. answers from Detroit on January 25, 2007
Ho K.,
I remember truning 12/13 and getting into my moms makeup, what I would suggest since she's at that age where mom isn't "right" take her to a makeup counter at a department store, tell the makeup artist (not in front of your daughter) that you want her to have the natural look, and let the makeup girl put "natural" makeup on her. That way you ar egetting what you want, but it's said through a professional who knows makeup... if you don't want to buy the makeup, all counters wil ldo this if you just buy 1 product. I love the mac counter, but any of them will do it for her, make a "mom and me" day out it, let her even pick the makeup counter! Bets of luck!!
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