Tubes Tied - Dover,DE

Hi R.
I have had my tubes tied for 6 years now and my weight is at a consistant level. I often tell people tie your tubes if you are absolutely positive you and your spouse will not want any more children. You are still young and have only 1 child. I myself have 3 children. If you and your husband are down right positive you do not want any more, than you may want to talk to you doctor for more information and/or other alternatives before getting your tubes tied. I am 29 years olds, with 2 lovly girls and one adorable boy. Also keep in mind that every ones body reacts differently than others after the procedure. For me every thing is still the same. I never had cramps, or headaches, actually I had no symptoms of my period, I keep track by days. I still don't have cramps or other symptoms

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I had my tubes tied three years ago after the birth of my third child at the age of 33. It was definantly the best decision for me. Traditional hormone birh control made me gain weight, and I had terrible migraines with each period. The only side effect has been every 2 or 3 months I get really bad cramps. But unlike everyone else, from reading the other posts, I have actually lost almost 50 lbs, and retain very little water weight when my period comes. I love that I don't have to remember to take a pill or replace a patch. Really your biggest concern is if you really don't want to have more kids, because reversal is expensive and not always successful if you change your mind later on.

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R., Hello. You have gotten a lot of good feedback on this but no one has mentioned getting an IUD, intro uterine device. I had one inserted in January and they can be effective for up to 5 years. I have not had any weight gain and there is a low amount of hormone released so it does not give you headaches like the pill. It does hurt a little to be inserted but once it is in there you completly forget about it. I have, as a result of this, not had my period in over a year and a half. Before the IUD I was pregnant. This normally is only given to women who have had a child. I would look into it. It lasts a lond time, low hormones, no weight gain, and for many no period. Just thougt I would through one more option out there. If you have any further questions about it you can ask me.

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Hi R.,

From my own experience I would definitely tell you NOT to do it. Since I have had mine(7 years ago)every month for 3-7 days it is a nightmare. I get excrutiating pain in my ovaries which spread to the whole abdomen during my mid-cycle time. Pain relievers don't even touch the pain. I now get PMS, which I did not have prior to the operation. My symptoms are very mild compared to some. I did a search and there are many many symptoms that people complain about. Please do some research for yourself before deciding to do it.

Here is one link of other women that are having problems as well: http://www.steadyhealth.com/post_tubal_ligation_syndrome_...
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R.,

I would suggest that you do some serious talking with your husband to see if he wants more kids. If you both agree that you do not want more kids then talk with your doctor. My doctor refered me to an ob/gyn, but then I was also 40 when I had my tubes tied/fried. My tubel was a preminant type done, though there is also the older version of tieing the tubes which can be reversed if you decide to do so. My husband and I decided on having my tubes tied because I can not take any form of birth control due to some side effects I developed from the depo shot. At the time of my surgery our youngest was 12yrs old and our oldest was 17. We did not want to have a "second" family. This decision is a very hard one to make especially at your age. I would highly recommend discussing it at lengths with your husband and make sure that it is something that he also wants.

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Hi R. ~ I thought about it when I was a 21 yo single mom of 2 with a "fiance" who turned out to be worthless. At that point my ob/gyn would not do the surgery because of my age. Boy am I glad I didn't ~ I am now happily married for 6 yrs. My husband and I have had 2 of our own sons and he adopted "our" other 2 sons as well. Without knowing your situation I would suggest you consider some of those things as well and if it's because of weight gain talk to your dr. about other forms of birth. Hope you find this helpful ~ Prayers ~ J.

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I am 30 years old and had my tubes tied last year. I have 4 wonderful kids. This is something you should discuss with your husband. Make sure that he really is okay with it. My boyfriend was all supportive, until after the fact. I have no kids with him and between the two of us there are 6 kids. More than plenty to go around. But after i couldn't have any more he talked about maybe 5,6 years down the rode we could have a kid together. The procedure was easy, I could have gone back to work after a week. I was sore in the belly and vagina for about 2 days. and have a small about 1/2 inch scare right above my belly button, blends right in with my stretch marks. My only issue was my hormones. I had been on some type of birthcontrol for years. My youngest was 9 when i had the proceedure done. My body didn't really regulate itself i guess. I was up down and every where. It was way worst then any postpardon depression i had had. I didn't know if i was going to wake up angry or sad. I went back on the patch and don't have any of those problems. Hope this has helped. Good luck.

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Hi R.,

Like you I have always had problems with birth control, the weight gain, constantly feeling sick, I talked to my ob about the symptoms and we have found something that works for me with not side effects. There are other options aside from having your tubes tied, because there is always the possibility of wanting more and to not have that option could be devastating. Good luck with the search.

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R., I would definitely talk to your doctor about this. If you are absolutely sure you do not want any more children, tying your tubes is a wonderful option. I had it done and it was a quick recovery and no more worries about birth control.

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I had mine done 11 yrs ago. I never had cramps, heavy periods or anything until I had my tubes tied. I have had very bad mood swings, couldn't control etc. I finally had had enough and went to my dr to get something done. I had to have the lining of my uterus scraped and burned. I was told I wouldn't have a period anymore...I still have one, but its very light and no cramps. Not trying to scare you out of it, but giving you my experience, and that of a few friends I know of too, who have had the same problems.

R.,
I have a lot of friends and family members who had this done and they go through a host of side effects from it. Horrible PMS, horrible cramping, mood swings, MAJOR weight gain, bloating, you name it. Do the research for sure. My 2 sons were both conceived on B.C. WE opted to use fertility tests as B.C. after my last son was born. I tried Depo after my last son and gained over 50 lbs and bleed for 1 year straight. So, after using fertility test for 3 years and ovulating the same time each month, the month we did no use the test, I ovulated 1 week early and along came my princess. DONE DONE DONE having kids! As well as my husband. We did the research, and I talked to family and friends. We visited with the Dr. who told us it was much less invasive and no side effects for my husband to have a vasectomy. After all, it was a in and out procedure and he would recover with a bag of frozen peas after 3 days. For your tubes to be tied, it is a surgery. You are on bed rest for 6 weeks and then you still can not so the normal house work, and up and down stairs and things. So.. we had the discussion, and while he went through the "man" thing. He decided it best to have the procedure done. My daughter was born in January and he had it done in Feb. Took 10 minutes and 2 days of laying on the couch with frozen peas and corn and then he was pretty much back to normal the 3rd day. A bit of pain in that area, but nothing too hard for him to handle.
HTH
Jenn
Mama to Bryce~9 Austin~6 Taylor~19 mnths
Step Mama to Nich~15 Christian~14

Hi, R. i personally don't know much about birth control because i never took any. But that was a choice that i made. Everything is not for everybody. But i can tell you about your tubes being tied. After finding myself pregnant at the age of 21 and giving birth about 7 weeks before my 22nd birthday and having a long labor with my daughter i started thinking about getting it done. But of course my mom and my boyfriend at the time which is my husband now wasn't having it. But then finding myself 5mos later pregnant with my second child i was serious. You see i was one that didn't want to have to go on the system (welfare-etc..) because i was just laying around having babies. And knew at the time that i could not take care of those babies. So i talked to my mom and my boyfriend at the time and made the decision to do so. It's a choice that you and only you can make for yourself. I know that i made the right decision. My son will be 17 on Aug. 10th.. I hope this has helped you. All my blessing to you and your family S. C.

I would talk with your husband weighing the pros and cons and pray consistently!!! I would not just have this conversation once and then get the procedure done the next month. I will even go on to say perhaps you should wait at least one year. Observe/interview larger families in the park, newborns, children of friends and family members, etc. Perhaps speak with a counselor of some sort, pastor, therapist, etc. with the both of you so that someone can mediate and everyone can express how they really feel about not having any more children. Neither of you should just be going along with the idea for the other person's sake. Of course marriage causes for compromise but every side and feeling should be deeply considered from each party on this sensitive matter.

If you both decide that you truly do not wish to have any more children, consider a vasectomy. It has been researched and studied to be less risky than a woman having her tubes tied and virtually no side effects. After all the pain us mothers go through, couldn't the man for once go through a little? ;P

Should you decide to have your tubes tied or your husband has a vasectomy and you find that later on you wish you hadn't, all is not lost--consider adoption!

HTH, have a blessed day!

talk to your husband first to see if you both want any more children. i had one tube burned and the other taken out due to scarring and i wish it didn't happen because i want another baby so bad. talk about it first before you make any decisions.