Tubal Pregnancy - Wayland,MI

R. ~
I am an OB nurse, so have seen this in our triage quite often. A pregnancy in the tube cannot develope - as it gets larger, it will cause the tube to rupture, and you can then hemorrhage. There's no way to move it, or to prevent it. I'm sure you have already had an ultrasound, otherwise they wouldn't suspect an ectopic. You doctor is not playing God, they wouldn't do that, it's unethical. I work with about 30 different doctors, and none of them would ever do that to a patient. They don't decide for you if your done having kids. I've seen young girls having baby after baby with no jobs, no support, etc., and the doctors treat them just the same as any other patient. You would not be having an abortion - the pregnancy wouldn't have a chance to develope. The methotrexate is usually used in cancer treatment - it affects fast growing cells, which is what a pregancy is at this point. Sometimes when you go in and it's an early pregnancy, they just can't see it yet. So, if they can't see anything inside the uterus and your HCG is elevated, they assume that it could be in the tube. That's why they repeat the HCG - with an ectopic it won't rise as fast as a normally developing fetus. I have seen it happen where the woman comes back, her levels rise normally, and they find out that she wasn't as far pregnant as they thought she was. Wait until you have your lab repeated. There is nothing that you can do to change anything. The methotrexate is a better treatment than surgery - especially if the tube ruptures and it becomes an emergency. You want to be there for your kids. Please don't feel as if you're killing your baby, you're not.
Good Luck~
D.

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Hello R., My heart goes out to you! I'm sorry to hear that your are faced with this situation. If it turns out to be a tubal pregnancy it will rupture your falopian tube and you will hemmerage. It is life threatening! So please take the advice of your doctors. They do know what they are doing and it's good that they are not rushing into the diagnosis. God bless you!! I will be praying for you and your family during this time.

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The only advise I can give you, having gone thru it myself is that this is for the better. Tubal pregnacies never turn out right. Years ago, I had my first baby. After the baby was born I found out I had kidney disease and could not have any more. I was 20. It almost killed me. For years all I thought about was not being able to have another child. About 15 years later, I found out I was preg and could not believe it because my tubes were tied also. Well it was a tubal preg also like yours. It can be life threatening to you and the baby would never have room to develop. Things today with modern medicine I sure are different. But we all have the same feelings in our hearts that will never change. Be thankful for your other children. Take this as a message from God that he is taking this baby back. Good Luck.

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Dear R., Your three children need and deserve a healthy mom. It sounds to me like you are a hard worker and a good role model. Clearly you felt that your family was complete or you wouldn't have had your tubes tied. A fetus can't develop into a baby in the fallopian tube. If you don't stop the process now, it will eventually stop itself. Your suffering won't change that or make it better. My best to you and your family. M.

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Oh R., I'm so sorry you're going through this! First, since you had your tubes tied I'm assuming that you don't want another baby. However, since you are pregnant, would you choose to carry the baby to term if you have that option (a tubal pregnancy wouldn't be possible to carry to term)? If you're not comfortable with terminating the pregnancy, I would ask for an ultrasound first, to see if they can be certain that the baby really is outside of the womb. I know that the decision you have to make will still be a difficult one, but maybe knowing for sure if the baby is viable or not will help you make peace with whatever you decide.

Hugs and prayers

S.

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I would ask to have an ultrasound to confirm if it is a tubal preg.

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hello R.
firat i want to ask you if they were just tied or did you cut and burn ?the reason i ask my friend had her just cut and tied they came untied on there own and grew back in resault end in a health 9 15 baby girl good luck

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R.,

I am so sorry you have to go thru this.If it were me, I would ask my Doctor of an ultrasound before I did anything or made any decision. Just in case. Good Luck,I wish you Peace.

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I can't say I have been through exactly what you have but when I was pregnant with my first child I was told there was a really high risk he had Downs Syndrome and my Doctor strongly advised me to have more invasive testing done. I was so scared and not thinking straight. Fortunately my Dad pointed out to me that the tests were of more risk to the baby than the actual risk level He had Downs Syndrome. He was born without Downs Syndrome or any other defects and I thank my Dad often for helping me look at the situation logically.
If the idea of inducing a miscarraige is causing you this much pain maybe you should ask if there is any other way of finding out for sure, like maybe an ultrasound to see where the baby is positioned. I'm sure that would make your decision easier. If you know for sure that this is a tubal pregnancy it might make the decision easier for you. On the other hand you may find out, with more tests, this is not a tubal pregnancy and have a happy ending to the pregnancy.
Whatever you decide to do you have give yourself a break, you may be in a lose/lose situation and cannot blame yourself at all for the decision you may have to make. Remember that a tubal pregnancy can be very dangerous and you do already have three children that need you there for them. You may not have a choice on what to do, so don't blame yourself.
I wish you all the best at this very difficult time, and I'll be praying for you.

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I would have them do an ultra-sound if they haven't already. That way you can know for sure where the baby implanted. If you do honestly have a tubal pregnancy, the baby will not survive anyway. I hope that is not the case. I will say a prayer for you!

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R.~ I have found a wonderful support site called http://www.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com/ it is not just for people who have been misdiagnosed but for anyone suffering a miscarriage. I had a tubal pregnancy in March and currently told I will miscarry again. I am almost 12 weeks and they have never seem a baby in an ultra sound. Good luck to you.

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I just lost my 3rd child to a Late miscarriage & I read the book Empty Arms by Pam Vredevelt, it has a chapter on tubal pregnancy. I would suggest that book highly! I will pray for you!
God Bless,
M. O.

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R. I had a tubal preg. five years ago. It went undetected for thirteen weeks. When the preg. erupted, i ended up haveing to have emegenicy surgury and having a tube removed. Very painfull. If you are preg. in the tube, I recommend doing what the doctor recommands. After my surgery I was down six weeks. Also I had my tudes tied. I am a mother of two.

I wish you the best of luck.

A tubal pregnacy should be determined by ultra sound, not just Hcg count. If it is a tubal, there is no way you can carry to term. Getting the shot is not killing your baby...it could not survive anyway.

A repeat on what others have said - first, if your doctor doesn't automatically request it, insist on an ultrasound to be certain. You don't want to second guess anything....

Next, if it is a tubal pregnancy, realize that you can't carry the baby to term and trying to do so could risk your life. If it comes to this, don't think of it as killing your baby...the baby CANNOT survive.

Bottom line is, emotions aside (for a moment), you can't risk your life especially considering the baby will not make it - you have three kids at home that need you.

Read this link for more information on ectopic (tubal) pregnancy:
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/000895.htm

I'm so sorry that you're going through this and do hope you aren't faced with a tubal pregnancy. My cousin's wife has experienced that before, as well. Wishing you all the best, and strength to deal with whatever may come...

Its totally normal to feel this way, it is an abortion. However if indeed it is a tubal pregnancy, there is zero chance for the baby to grow to term, and one runs the risk of dying from bleeding to death if nothing is done to terminate the pregnancy. So your choices are unfortunately made for you.

This is a difficult position to be in, and you will need to grieve the loss of this baby. I can't imagine how hard this must be on you, but don't let people tell you to just move on, its something to deal with. It might help to find a grief counselor that you can talk to. Make use of all your support resources (friends, family, church members...) as much as possible. See if you can get a girlfriend to go along with you to your next dr. appointment.

I'll be praying for you!

I mean this to be kind...really...
But have you considered that with your having three children and being single that your Dr. might be playing god? It happens that women get their tubes tied and then become pregnant and carry to term. Please make sure you get a second opinion. Shoot~ go to a pregnancy resource center where they are all about saving the lives of babies and not terminating them. Like the one woman on here stated~ Dr's can be wrong! She ended up with a healthy baby who could have been an abortion!
My thoughts are with you.