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Ttc #2 - Pregnancy Symptoms but Not Pregnant?

Has anyone month after month experienced pregnancy symptoms but turned out to not be pregnant? I am 38 and ttc #2 had a miscarriage 5 months ago after trying for 7 months, since then 3 out of the last 5 months I was sure that I was pregnant. My symptoms (nausea, heartburn, sore breasts, exhaustion) started 2 to 3 days after ovulation and went away 1 or 2 days before my period started and negative tests with a very regular cycle. Has anyone had or heard of this happening? Could it be due to hormone issues after miscarriage? Fertilization and not implantation? Dr says wait a few more months before any tests- is she just blowing me off? Is it all in my head...I really want to be pregnant- could I be wanting it so much that I somehow I am causing these symptoms? I would love to hear from others that have experienced something similar. I have seen such great advice given by moms on this site!
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When I was TTC #2 every month I could have sworn I was pregnant.. it took us two years and after such a long time of trying and wanting another baby so bad, every PMS symptom seemed like a possible pregnancy symptom.

Oddly, the one month I had 'given up' and tried so hard not to think about TTC, and was convinced AF was on her way.. I was actually pregnant. I have a adorable 2 month old sleeping on my chest right now :)

I don't know if this helps you but after my second child my PMS symptoms have been sooooo different! I now get cramps, REALLY pissy, and irritable about two weeks before my period. It is so strange to me bc I never had these feelings before. I think hormones change after we have children. I am still trying to get used to my new cycle and my last baby was born in 2006 too! Good luck and I hope you get prego soon!

I'm not saying its not leftover preg. hormones, but I also swore to having preg. symptoms when we were trying to get preg. The one month I felt no symptoms was the month I sensed I wasn't preg. but acctually was. The mind is a powerful thing. I know I created my own symptoms out of sheer brain power in the begining months of trying.

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I go through the same thing before my cycle starts and keep hoping it's not my cycle but it is. Have you tried taking your basal temp. every morning? You can see your cycle and know when to 'try'. It worked for my youngest.

I would think the same thing...plus my sense of smell is increased. I always feel this way 10 days before my period. I would also get really irritable this time. I probably would be taking tests too, if mu fiance didn't have a vasectomy almost a year ago. I am 39, and it has been happening for a few years. I think it is just a hormonal thing with our age. And to top it off the last week or so I am constantly sweating...I'm the personal who would be cold when it is 80 degrees outside. I think the change has started!

Yes you could be wanting to be pregnant so much that it could happen. I tried for my daughter who is now 4 months, for 1 year and every month I had all the symptoms of pregnancy and I was never pregnant. my doctor told me that focusing on wanting to get pregnant can actually hurt your chances of it happening. After exactly 1 year of trying I stopped wanting it and we started talking about adoption. That next month I got pregnant! Just chill out, relax and enjoy your time with your husband and family, it will happen! Good Luck!

Hi K.,
It really could be any of these things, leftover hormones, new PMS symptoms (our bodies change around this age and we have PMS side effects that we didn't have before), and some of it could be wishful thinking (I too want to get pregnant again, I'm 39 and every month, I think I have symptoms). However, my concern for you is that your OBGYN is making you wait to do any testing. At 38, if you've tried for a few months and you've already had at least one miscarriage, I think you should find out whatever you can medically. I would call your OB on Monday and tell them you don't want to wait (remind them you're 38) to start the testing process. If they won't do it, I would go to a different doctor. If you have an HMO, call your insurance and tell them you want to switch doctors due to a medical reason and they will let you switch without waiting. And/or you can request a referral to a specialist (if you're over age 35 you go to a high risk specialist anyway so you can request to talk to them). If all of those don't work, tell your insurance you want a second opinion and they have to let you see another doctor. I just wanted to let you know that if you don't want to wait, you don't have to just because this doctor says to. It will only benefit you to know what's going on (or confirm everything is normal) as early as possible so that if there is a minor problem, you'll know what to do to try to fix the problem. Or if you get confirmation that everything is fine, then maybe you'll relax which will enable your body to relax and do it's thing. Keep us posted and I wish you all the best. K.

If you haven't had your HCG levels checked, insist on it ASAP!!! This happened to me 25 years ago after a miscarriage and thanks to my excellent Dr. who had been familiar with this during his internship, caught something that could have been
VERY serious left untreated. I don't want to scare you but just be wise and informed. The good news, I went on to have 2 beautiful daughters who are now 18 and 22 years old!! If you'd like to get more info, let me know.
Beth F.

I agree that you can MAKE yourself think you are pregnant, and that could be the case. However, you can also have symptoms after a miscarriage. CALL the GYNO! You could have an infection still from the miscarriage. Perhaps it wasn't all discarded or cleaned out. This could make you feel sick and sore also!

This happened to me while we were trying to conceive #2. They had to document 2 miscarriages before they would take any steps to prevent more. -and I know that I had 2 more that didn't even show up on the tests. Anyhow, they ended up putting me on baby aspirin and we conceived within 2 months and I now have another healthy baby girl! You know your body best, ask you doctor about starting the baby aspirin, it can't hurt. Good luck!

Hi K.,

If you're wanting another opinion, maybe you could look into eastern medicine. My cousin had several miscarriages and then went to a Chinese doctor, who also is an acupuncturist. She was able to get pregnant and stay pregnant. The doctor knew right away that the reason my cousin was miscarrying so many times was because her cycles were too short making her eggs too immature. With my cousin's second son, she was bleeding during the pregnancy thinking she was miscarrying again. The doctor had her come in right away and the bleeding stopped. I think she was 42 and 44 when she had her two sons.

Here's the info:

Dr. Shu Rhong Zhu
Zhu's Acupuncture and Herb Clinic
2001 S Barrington Ave # 212
Los Angeles, CA 90025
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This doctor is the real deal. I also recommend seeing a chiropractor. My chiropractor has had women tell him that they weren't able to get pregnant until he started adjusting their lower back. Perhaps it could help you have a stronger pregnancy as well.

Best wishes to you!
M.

I get all those symptoms every month for a week to 10 days before my period starts. You are probably having PMS symptoms - it does always feel to me like I am pregnant, so I if I am day or two late, I do start getting worried.

K. you are not crazy. I had the very same thing happen to me last month. I know i was pregnant, something was going on. My body was showing all symptoms, i was a week late, all 5 tests i took showed negative and the symptoms didn't stop till after my period was over.
Womens reproductive organs are complicated and complicated stuff happens. Who knows what was going on.
But it all reminds me that i know more than any one. Trust yourself and find teh care you need.
I think i will take the baby asprin advise. Thanks ladies. And thank you K. for bringing it up.
xo

I'm not saying its not leftover preg. hormones, but I also swore to having preg. symptoms when we were trying to get preg. The one month I felt no symptoms was the month I sensed I wasn't preg. but acctually was. The mind is a powerful thing. I know I created my own symptoms out of sheer brain power in the begining months of trying.

Hi K., I don't know if this is your problem, but my period changed drastically after having my son and I get nauseated and extremely tired (and emotionally up and down) before my period every time now. The breast tenderness is there too, but not as much as before I had my son. I am grateful that I don't get the major cramps anymore, but the PMS in other ways is worse. It usually starts about two weeks before my period (so I only get like 1 week of feeling normal a month). The nausea is usually a few days before my period and is pretty mild. HTH!

It could be peri-menopause. Look it up on the 'Women to Women' website.

When I was TTC #2 every month I could have sworn I was pregnant.. it took us two years and after such a long time of trying and wanting another baby so bad, every PMS symptom seemed like a possible pregnancy symptom.

Oddly, the one month I had 'given up' and tried so hard not to think about TTC, and was convinced AF was on her way.. I was actually pregnant. I have a adorable 2 month old sleeping on my chest right now :)

I am so sorry about the lose's of your baby's, what might be happening is you want to be pregnant so bad your actully fooling your own body into believing you are. Each month your hoping you are, I am no expert here ( but the mind can be a very smart cookie ) maybe don't take a preggo test, try to keep your self busy with something else.. There is a saying when your not looking bundles of joys just happen to arrive in the bakers oven. ( oven being your tummy )

When i even thought that i was pregnant i would start to get pregnancy symptoms. everything that happened I would hyper focus on and I was sure that I was pregnant. When i didn't expect a positive test, well lo and behold I was pregnancy
Good Luck Trying

i have the same kind of stuff happening. i am ttc #3 and just had a miscarrage last week. :( i have found that i often feel pregnant, even know i am not. i think for me that i am looking so hard for those early pregnancy symptoms that i really notice pms symptoms and hope so badly that they are pregnancy symptoms, then find out a couple of days later that it was just pms. dont forget that stress can make you ovulate late, which can mess you all up! good luck with #2!

K.,

You're not nuts. I am experiencing the same thing right now. I was sure I was pg. 3 of the last 5 months. heartburn, the need to pee, bloating, breast tenderness, smell and each time I was late and I am normally very regular. I'm going to chart my temp this month and see what happens. I may even see my herbalist. He's helped me with some other issues and could help here. Hang in there and good luck.

M.

Hi K.,
I had the same symptoms, yet was not pregnant over and over. It became kind of a joke with my husband! The one thing that started taking the guesswork out of it, was charting my temperatures every morning. It sounds like a pain, but you can get a chart on line, then mark your temp every morning. Soon you will be pretty clear what days to expect ovulation. When you ovulate, your temperature rises noticeably, but will drop again. When I was pregnant, the temp did not drop and I knew within a day or so of conceiving. I hope this might help you too.
Best of luck, S.

I had the same thing. I just KNEW I was pregnant, I could feel my body changing almost right away, felt the implantation cramping, etc.). I had had one previous miscarriage, then twice, both times we tried, I felt that I was pregnant, though the home pregnancy tests didn't pick them up.

I went in to my OB (went through two others before I came to him, really important in cases like this to find someone who listens to you and trusts your intuition) and voiced my concerns. He ran some blood tests, and found that I had been pregnant (he found some of the pregnancy hormone in my system that had not been there after my miscarriage), but, for some reason it didn't stick.

In the end, he took my age in consideration (I was 37) and honored my request to test further. He found that I had a clotting disorder. He put me on baby aspirin, and then blood thinners as soon as I knew I was pregnant again. He also put me on progesterone (though we didn't test for it, and it may not have been necessary, but I couldn't handle going through more losses so we did it as a precaution).

Anyway..the next time we tried, I got pregnant, and now I have a little 5 1/2 month old healthy baby girl.

Trust your intuition... you've been pregnant before, you know what it feels like in your body. And, then find someone who listens and helps you work things out.

All the best..

Hello K.. Several years ago I went to the hospital because I had severe bleeding and was scared. The doctor told me I had a chemical pregnancy - my body thought it was pregnant. I had never heard of it and thought it was so weird. I always wondered if he was pulling my chain or not, but never looked into it. He said the bleeding was caused by a miscarriage of sorts, my body was expelling the non-existent baby and after birth. How weird is THAT??? Best of luck to you, and I hope it's nothing serious. I think I have heard of women wanting so bad to be pregnant, that they bring on the symptoms, but I don't know if there is any validity in that.

I am very sorry to hear of your pregnancy loss 5 months ago but I agree with your doctor you need to let your body recover.What you are experiencing is called phantom pregnancy or pseudocysis.While the incidence of true pseudocyesis is extremely rare, the most 'at risk' group of women are those in their late thirties or early forties who desperately want a child and have been trying to conceive for many years. These women will normally be quite stable emotionally but will have a tendency to become very emotional over the whole question of pregnancy.It can also occur in some women who have lost a pregnancy or a baby and, while it is probably an emotional reaction to their trauma, there is also evidence to suggest that a temporary hormonal imbalance may be a contributory factor.K. you need to let go and you will overcome your emotions with the help of your supporting partner and your family network.start taking folic acid 1-2mg 3 months prior to your next'planned pregnancy'.Good luck and hope you feel better soon.

It sounds to me like you're "thinking yourself" pregnant. After I had my tubes tied, I could swear I was pregnant every month, because I was in denial that I'd never be pregnant again. Sometimes if you think hard enough about something, you can make yourself think it's true.
I'm sorry for your loss, and I wish you luck in becoming pregnant again.

I don't know if this helps you but after my second child my PMS symptoms have been sooooo different! I now get cramps, REALLY pissy, and irritable about two weeks before my period. It is so strange to me bc I never had these feelings before. I think hormones change after we have children. I am still trying to get used to my new cycle and my last baby was born in 2006 too! Good luck and I hope you get prego soon!

I agree with the other posters. It would simply be too soon to have pregnancy symptoms. They don't really happen until implantation occurs, and that is usually about a week after ovulation at least.

Valerie: a chemical pregnancy is a real pregnancy, but it's when a miscarriage happens VERY early in the pregnancy (essentially, the pregnancy doesn't take). I think it's called chemical because before home pregnancy tests, you would not know you were pregnant, you would just think you had a late (and maybe heavier) period. Now that we have home pregnancy tests, we generally catch that positive line very early, so we know we're pregnant! It happened to me once. I actually realized that I miscarried because I retested a couple of days after having my positive result and had a negative result. I realized that all my pregnancy symptoms (mainly, non-stop peeing) had gone away earlier in the day. Sure enough, I got my period the next day (I would have thought I was 2 weeks late if I hadn't known better).

you should look up "chemical pregnancy". it seems you might be experiencing this.

Yes. I experienced symptoms and like you said I had the negative tests. The first month I was a 100% sure I was pregnant. My stomach was super bloated too! I even went to the doctor to check out my body, I had a pelvic ultrasound as well as blood work with my regular doctor and nothing was found. After five months, I got pregnant. I am still not sure what was going on. I NEVER had that with the first two. Weird. I feel like it could've been some hormonal issue too. I am 10 weeks right now!

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