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Trying to Wean 6 Month Old Out of Swaddling/dependency on Blanket

My 6 month old has been swaddled since day 1 but primarily with his arms out. He likes to suck his thumb in the middle of the night. That worked until a few weeks ago when he has been coming out of his swaddle and using the blanket more as a lovie near his face. I tried the swaddle me blankets that velcro but now I realize that he really wants the blanket up near his face and to not really be swadddled. I'm nervous that this is dangerous and I find myself getting up all night to check on him. I tried not swaddling him last night and it didn't go well. He didn't go down for an hour (normally takes 5 minutes or less) until I gave him a little burp cloth to clutch onto. That worked until about 2 am then he was up until 3:30 when sleep deprivation got the better of me and I gave him the blanket - he went back to sleep for a few hours. I guess he has to retrain himself to sleep but not sure how long I can continue not sleeping. I did give him a lovie blanket for a nap the other day because I was awake and could watch him - it seemed to work really well. Again, I'm just nervous that he's going to suffocate himself because I've gone in his room and the blanket is over his face. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Thanks for all of the great advice. I tried giving him a lovey last night and it worked! He slept 10 hours. I hope it's not beginners luck but so far so good. I checked on him a few times and it really wasn't over his face but just by his head. Let's hope this continues - he hasn't slept this well in a few weeks. I appreciate all of the reassurances.

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HI,
When my son was about 6 months old and wanted a lovey I gave him a small hand knit blanket in his crib...it is just made of yarn and has plenty of holes etc so he couldn't suffocate. He loved to put his fingers in it. good luck!

How about getting (or crocheting) him a little baby-sized Afghan (you know, with holes) for his blanket? Doesn't have to be fancy, just whip one up quick with a simple, open-type stitch. Use a large crochet hook, and it will make up very quickly, a couple of evenings sitting in front of the TV. You could use the nice pastel baby yarn. And then if it was over his face, you'd know that he could breathe OK because of the holes. I think I slept with a blanket until I was like 11! I had worn off all the fuzz by then, and it looked more like a sheet. I used to fold it up and sleep with it under my head, on the pillow.

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I've let my daughter sleep with a blanket since she was about 5 months. She is happy with any of her old swaddling blankets. She wads up the blanket and puts it up to her face to snuggle. At 6 months, my opinion is that it's safe to let him have a _lightweight, small_ blanket. Even if it's over his face, he can still breath through it. A small blanket will prevent him getting tangled. And at 6 months, if he did get tangled up (my daughter never has), I am sure he would wake up and let you know!

He will be fine with a lovey. In fact it is proven to be helpful to children who have a blankie or favorite stuffie to sleep with. They sleep better and are more secure children. We also had a swaddler who then turned to taking a blankie. Our pediatrician assured us time and again that once the child can roll over the danger of suffacation is pretty much gone. My son would do the blankie over his face to, I would just take it down and put it next to him. Your boy will be fine with a blankie.

I went through the same thing with my son. After weeks of letting him fall asleep with it, than removing it once he was in a deep sleep, I did give in to the blanket. Only because I invested in a motion monitor. The brand is angelcare. Best investment out of anything I purchased. If 20 seconds go by without a movement or breath the alarm goes off.

Hi J.,

I have two thoughts:
1. changing a baby's habits at that age will always be difficult. I would assume, if you just get rid of the blanket alltogether, he (and you) would have a few tough days, but then he'll get used to it.
2. you need to decide if he can or cannot have the blanket. This back and forth probably confuses him tremendously. How about giving him a small piece? If your child is developping "normally", the risk of suffacating is getting smaller by the day, since he probably is able to move his head and turn over anyway. Check with your pediatrician about that.

Good luck!

H.

Hi J.,
If you don't want to do the battle of removing the blankie altogether I would get a bit of muslin wrap and give him this as it is something you can breath through.. That said though I'd cut it up smaller so there isn't so much he can wrap around his neck. For your peace of mind you can also get a baby monitor (Angelcare) that has a sensor that goes under the baby and will alarm if they stop breathing. Also I can highly recommend a site I've used called sleepsense by Dana Obleman.. she says if you decide to make a change in a baby's sleep behaviour the worst it will take is 7days. As long as you are consistent! Google her to see more of her tips for getting your baby to sleep through the night. I found her a godsend for getting my daughter to go to bed (she fought me every night). Good Luck.

My husband and I were never big on swaddling. We could never get it right and our daughter didn't seem to mind so I can't really give you any advice on how to get your son to fall asleep without being swaddled. I can tell you that our daughter always (except in the summer) had a blanket in her crib and we never worried about her suffocating because we tucked it in pretty well. She has also had a small blankie that she's slept with for quite some time. Again, we never worried about her suffocating. She's never put it in her mouth but she did like to sleep with it over her face while she sucked her thumb. She probably started doing that around 6 months (I'm not positive on that, but I know she's had a blankie for the majority of her life). If you have a concern that the blanket he's using is too big and could wrap around him while he sleeps, then just try to find something smaller. We got a blankie from www.thegigiblanki.com, but I found very similar ones at walmart shortly after that and you can always make your own.
I hope knowing that our daughter had a blankie at the same age helps calm your fears. Try to get some sleep!!

You've gotten some great advice, I just wanted to add something I noticed with my son. He too likes to cover his face with a blanket, msot nights he asks me to cover his face for him before I leave. Knowing this I often peek in, and uncover his face after he falls asleep. He has been fine, I would just keep the blankets lightweight and I'm sure you guys will be ok! Best luck

How about getting (or crocheting) him a little baby-sized Afghan (you know, with holes) for his blanket? Doesn't have to be fancy, just whip one up quick with a simple, open-type stitch. Use a large crochet hook, and it will make up very quickly, a couple of evenings sitting in front of the TV. You could use the nice pastel baby yarn. And then if it was over his face, you'd know that he could breathe OK because of the holes. I think I slept with a blanket until I was like 11! I had worn off all the fuzz by then, and it looked more like a sheet. I used to fold it up and sleep with it under my head, on the pillow.

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