I understand what you are going though. I was a school teacher and spent several years "raising" other peoples children and I thought that I could NEVER do the stay at home thing - because I have always worked at least 2 jobs.
When I had my son, my hubsband was getting out of the Navy and the plan was that he would stay at home with the baby and I would go to work - well, I realized a couple of things. First it wasn't paying me enough to miss that part of my childs life - and second I could make more money in a home business. So now both of us are working together from home. We don't have to miss anything with our 16 month old. He goes to daycare two days a week mostly for him and so he can play. I would love to talk to you more about homebased businesses - even more than just what I do - if you can find the right one for you and your family I know it would be worth it. Give me a call any time. I honetly won't "sell" you on the business I have choosen, but I will share with you the research that I did - to find the right one for me. Call me any time.