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D., dear,
please honey,
find a greater value in YOURSELF.

Lets take a different view:
if your child was an adult
and she had a man hitting her
and MANIPULATING her in such ways,
how would you council her?

Consider this too:
what you are living
and the way you are doing so (in this drama)
IS teaching your children.

Your husband definitely needs help,
but honey, so do you.
Where is YOUR empowerment?

People who are both lacking in their hearts
are rarely a compatible happy couple.
Two folks who are HAPPY with themselves
are much more likely to have
a wonderful blessed relationship together.

Your children are certainly capable
of deciding the kind of man your husband is
without you being married to him.
Keep any badmouthing to yourself
and let their relationship remain ongoing
(so long as he is in no way abusive to them)
while you MOVE ON.
By moving on I do NOT mean
you go find another man.
I mean you find what you believe is Sacred
within your life and in your own heart.

I've been there, with a series of manipulative men,
(two of them fathered my sweet children).

One must have a sure value of Self.

When you see yourself as Worthy,
then you'll be more available to Fabulous relationships.
When you see yourself as anything less than worthy,
you'll keep drawing relationships which devalue you.

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May you find peace in your heart
and love in your Self.

I'm praying for you D..

S.

What advice would you give to your daughters if they were to tell you what you just told us? Would you tell them to go back to the man who has hurt them over and over again? I'm being serious, study after study has shown that children often repeat the patterns they see modeled by their parents.

Wow, what a horrible situation. I too have heard that hispanic men are, and pardon me for saying "horrible" husbands. I know quite a few women who can vouch for that. One even had her house burnt down by him because she wanted to leave him. I know ya can't stereotype though....Anyway, I think you know what you have to do!!!! Ya just needed to get it out....Kids are resilient, many many kids do not associate w/one parent and that's not to say they won't later down the road...You do however, deserve way better, come on now..I can go on a mile giving you advice on what to do, but bottom line, you'll do what ya want anyway, we all do, but please be careful...Try to work a little logic into the situation..I know it's hard since we tend to act on our hearts rather than logic...Sticking around a bad situation for kids sake is not the "better choice"...Women tend to believe that and I don't know why. You need to get them out now cause they will grow up thinking that unhealthy relationships are normal...You're doing more damage than good...Best of luck to you..

OMG. I truly feel for you and for what you are going through. However, in my opinion, you and your children and what matters the most and if it were me, he would need to get serious help and go through a lot of counseling before I would ever just take him back. He has issues and he is hurting you not only physically but mentally too. And don't be fooled that just because your children love their daddy so much that it is a good decision for you to work it out. You need to put your childrens and your needs first and foremost and he is just no in a healthy place right now if you ask me. Then with the cheating. That is totally unacceptable. It is also typical what he is saying to each of you to keep you on a string. Please don't be a fool. He needs to either get RIGHT or get OUT (of your lives)!! And Sherry is right on target and says it beautifully!!! Take her advice!!! Get your self esteem and self worth back!!!

Learn to love yourself, leave him and keep your kids safe! Get some counselling for yourself. Let God grant you the wisdom & serenity to know you can't change him!
God bless you and Good luck.

He is continually doing the same thing- this isn't change- quit answering the phone, get a divorce, unless you want your life to be about this drama, and really do you want your daughters to think that this is how a man treats a woman, and this is what they should look for in a man--- I hope you say NO NO I don't want this for my daughters-- then you need them to see a situation where they see a man treat you with respect- and it isn't this man. Let him have his problem without you. Unless you like it- even if you don't think even of yourself( and I hope you do) think of you girls- they don't deserve to see that kind of example- make your getaway! best of luck,k