L. asks from Woodridge, IL on November 08, 2006
Trouble Getting Pregnant 2Nd Time
My baby is 10 months old and we're ready to try and get pregnant again. The problem is that the first few months after I had him my periods were very regular. Then they stopped. I didn't have one for 3 months so my dr. gave me Provera to get my period in September. Well, I am charting my basal body temperature and it appears I am not ovulating. I am trying not to stress about it b/c I know it makes it worse, but has anyone experienced this? My sister has PCOS so I am hoping this is not the case, but I never had this problem in my past! My doctor did some basic blood which was normal and told me to wait 3 more months and come back if I don't get my period during that time.
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Thanks for all the responses and advice. I decided to buy the buy the Taking Charge of Your Fertility Book. Upon reading most of it I have determined I am in Annovulation as I suspected. (For those of you asking I am 29 and did not breastfeed--my milk actually necer came in) I have decided to stop charting, keep up with the every other day sex regimen and just put it out of my mind. Looking back I tried charting with my first baby for a month, never ovulated, stopped charting and was pregnant a few weeks later. Stress obviously affects me a great deal! For now I will take the advice of a few of you and just enjoy staying home with my baby and not worry about the future-for at least a few months:)
N.S. answers from Chicago on November 09, 2006
The book Laura mentioned is an EXCELLENT book. I have a few friends who used that book when they were going through being infertile and they all got pregnant from the methods in the book. You just have to thoroughly read it and follow it. It is phenominal. Also, are you still nursing? Did you nurse? That effects it too. Some of the details of your situation are vague so its hard to know without that info what is causing the delay. Good luck and also pray for a child.
C.B. answers from Chicago on November 08, 2006
I recommend Taking charge of your Fertitly, by Toni Weschler. I also highly recommend the ovusoft.com webisite. There is a lot of great information there. You can download a free trial of the software which tracks all your fertility signs- temp, mucus, cervical position, etc... Ask your dr for a cycle day 21 blood test which is the only way other than an ultrasound to know if you actually ovulated.
A.S. answers from Chicago on November 08, 2006
It is still very early for you to be in hormonal balance to conceive again. Stress, as you know, is working against you, as well. Also, the basal temperature method does not work for me. Check your cervical mucous for signs of fertility or use an ovulation kit. That said, I really do believe that the right child will come to you at the right time. For now, enjoy every moment with your baby.
T.G. answers from Chicago on November 08, 2006
I'm sorry to hear you are having a hard time getting pregnant again. It took me year with my first one so I have wasted no time getting pregnant with two and now three.
What my OB/GYN told me, after I had fertility testing and everything was ok, was to chart my basal body temperature. Which I know you said you, but you would be surprised how many people do it incorrectly and don't put it on the actual chart that the doctor gives them. I have two girl friends who were doing it wrong for months. You must take your temperature at the same time EVERY day, BEFORE you get out of bed. I set an alarm clock for the same time everyday, even Saturday and Sunday, and took my temperature, wrote it down and went back to sleep. You need at least four straight hours of sleep to get an acurate reading. Once I got up, I would mark it on the graph with any other notes, i.e. mucus discharge, sex, cramps or bleeding. After three months I brought it back to my OB and she reviewed it with me and pointed out my cycle. On top of all of that she said if I was truly serious about getting pregnant to have sex every other day until I became pregnant. It only took a month after that and I was pregnant. I know having a 10 month old, you might not want to have sex everyday other day. Trust me I know how you feel, but it is worth it in the end. You didn't mention if you are breastfeeding or not, but I will tell you it doesn't make a difference. My daughter was 9 months old when I got pregnant the second time and I was still breastfeeding, but it did take us three months to get pregnant again. I never had one period before I got pregnant with number two, but I was charting my basal body temp the entire time.
Sorry for the long response. I hope it helps. Good luck getting pregnant!
M.M. answers from Chicago on November 08, 2006
Sorry to hear about your problem. Since your husband is a chiropractor, has he looked at your spine... does it need to get adjusted?!?! I have a pre-teen daughter and tried getting pregnant with my 2nd when she was 4... took several drugs, provera, chlomide, etc. and even went with a fertility doctor, my husband also got tested and nothing seemed to work. Then 6 years later after we had given hope, we got pregnant. We knew all along we wanted to have one more child, but I didn't want to go thru all the chemicals in my body again (not too mention that I usually only get my period once or twice a year). Someone suggested I go to a chiropractor (I know there are several types of chiropractors), I went with one who worked with me for 3 months (adjusting my spine based on the xrays he took)... by 6 weeks of going with him, I got my period and 2 months later I was pregnant (most importantly with no drugs and much faster).
It may be worth a try... especially since you have a chiropractor at home. Good luck!!
M.K. answers from Chicago on November 10, 2006
I am going through the same thing, so I know how you feel. But this didn't happen to me until after baby #3. I was scarid to go to the doctor, I kept telling myself next month it will happen next month. So finally 6 years later I went. Well I have PCOS. You said your sister has it, did you inform your doctor of this? If you feel like your doctor is not moving fast enough, change doctors. I wish you the best of luck.
A.L. answers from Chicago on March 31, 2008
I know you already got your answers, but thought I would chime in. My parents got pregnant immediately with by older brother. I mean, she went off the pill and never got her period- boom, pregnant. So then when he was about 1 they started trying again. Nothing. Went to specialists, tried the treatments available at the time (this is almost 30 years ago) and just stressed out. Well finally, after 5(!) years, they gave up and started looking into adoption. Do you know what happened the moment they stopped caring and stressing out about the whole thing?! Yep, I was conceived on Valentine's Day and a major surprise. Ask my mom today and she'll say it was hell, those 5 years, but she knows that since all their tests came back normal, it was just stress most likely. You son is just a baby himself. Enjoy the time you have with him without worrying about his sibling, or lack of one yet. You got pregnant once and will again.
L. answers from Chicago on November 08, 2006
You don't say how old you are and that may be a factor. It could be a hormone imbalance, which is why your Dr. put you on Provera, to balance the estrogen and progesterone levels. Provera however is a synthetic progestin and is not recognized by the body as progesterone. Natural progesterone, frequently found in cream form, is bioidentical to the progesterone we produce in our body, so our bodies recognize it as progesterone. I would highly recommend the book "What Your Doctor May NOT Tell You About Premenopause" by Dr. John Lee. It has a ton of information about how your body's hormones work and how they need to be in balance. Natural progesterone cream can be used to help stimulate ovulation. It's all in Dr. Lee's book, and very interesting. I am just so tired of the drug companies driving the medical world. Let me know if you have any questions...hope the info is helpful to you.
With regard to charting, I HIGHLY recomend the book "Taking Charge of your Fertility" by Toni Weschler.