C.H. asks from Oak Park, IL on April 10, 2009
Transition to "Big Girl" Bed - Oak Park,IL
HI moms. How to transition 18-month-old out of her crib? We are expecting baby #2 in July and would like to avoid purchasing another crib. My daughter does not seem very interested in doing "big girl" things yet -- the attempt at underwear failed miserably. She sleeps beautifully in her crib right now. So, when to transition if baby is due in late July? HOW to transition? Thanks for your experiences
K.K. answers from Chicago on April 11, 2009
I agree on holding off as long as possible. We too bought another crib...you can even look as som of the nicer 2nd hand stores..there is a great one in Wauconda. I had 3 in 3 1/2 years and my 3 yr old is still in a crib..not ready for her to raom
M.C. answers from Chicago on April 11, 2009
Why do you have to take her out of her crib? She does seem a little young and that was the case when I had my kids 16 months apart - I ended buying another inexpensive crib at Walmart until my daughter was ready and showed interest in a big bed - I first bought her the bedding and she started to get excited about that - I'd let her play with it and then she understood it was for her big girl bed. For around 100 buck it might be worth waiting a while and giving the baby an inexpensive crib.
L.O. answers from Chicago on April 11, 2009
You might regret trying to do this at her age. If she isn't ready, your life will be miserable and no one will sleep. The last think you need is that with a new baby. She seems a bit young for these transitions. (I have 4 kids, and potty training was closer to 3, although I do have a friend who was successful with their kids around 2.) Try looking or advertising on Craig's list for a used crib. Good luck.
BTW .... it isn't bad having multiple kids in diapers at the same time.
A.I. answers from Chicago on April 11, 2009
I think if you keep the new baby in a pac'n'play or bassinet for about three months after its born, then transition your daughter to a bed, you'll be fine. That would make your daughter about 2 years old. You'd be amazed how those 6 months will make a difference in your daughter's maturity, especially once your daughter can see and hold the baby.
C.D. answers from Chicago on April 11, 2009
If she's not quite ready to transition out of her crib, maybe you can use a bassinet for the baby for a few months. Try craigslist if you don't have one. Then you can show your big girl that the baby goes in the crib and the big girl goes in the big girl bed.
A.W. answers from Chicago on April 11, 2009
I understand what you mean about wanting to save money and avoid purchasing another crib. My daughter will be 20 months when #2 arrives, so I've been doing some research on this topic. Unfortunately, the experts seem to agree that the arrival of a new sibling doesn't justify moving a baby to a "big bed" if other signs of readiness aren't there. Experts agree that waiting until a child is closer to 3 is best because until then, they don't understand the "invisible boundaries" of a big bed and their sleep (and therefore your sleep!) is often distrupted. I would ask around and see if any friends or family members have another crib you could borrow for a few months. I have come to the conclusion that even if I do have to purchase a second crib, that it will be worth it if it means that both of my babies are safe and happy. You don't want your first to feel as if all of her things that she is used to and give her security and comfort are being taken away to give to her new sibling. Now, if she (between now and July) suddenly seems interested in the big bed, by all means give it a try. Just don't force her if she's not ready. Your daughter's well-being and rest, as well as your own sleep, are well worth the extra $.
Good luck and congratulations!
E.A. answers from Chicago on April 11, 2009
I would find a cheap used crib and not push her early and disrupt her good sleeping. When my twins were born my first was 18months. I found two white cribs for $100 total! My oldest dtr didn't transition till three and my twins are 2 and still in their cribs. My girls have all been good sleepers and i attribute that to consistant sleep routine. (Not necessairy crib vs bed vs co-sleep ect.) We co-sleep as newborns and transition to Amby baby hammocks..then around 9-12months they have transitioned to cribs. They will/have skipped right to twins and double adult beds with no toddler beds. I wouldn't push her if she isn't ready - you'll all get more sleep.
S.E. answers from Chicago on April 11, 2009
Did you have a cradle or bassinet for baby number 1? If not you could consider that for baby 2. That will give you more time for transitioning.
You said you tried the big girl panties already and that did not work. That is not uncommon she is not even 2 years old year. Many children do not potty train til after age 2.
Try taking her to the store where they sell the toddler bed. Let her look at them and see how she feels about getting something new. Let her choose the bed she wants. Another thing to do is, if any of her play buddies have transitioned already have her go see her friends toddler bed, she might want to copy her and move to a toddler bed.
If not, we make our children grow up so fast. If she wants to stay a baby for a while longer, look for a second hand crib at a garage sale or second hand store. your going to have to buy a new mattress any way because the toddler bed use the crib mattress you already have.
Best of Luck,
M.H. answers from Chicago on April 11, 2009
Keep the Baby in her crib. 18 months is way too early. Put the new Baby in a bassinet or portable crib for 6 months or so. Out sons are 23 months apart and we didn't want to buy another crib either so we kept the baby in a portable crib for about 7 months until his brother was ready for the transition. A portable crib can be purchased for about $100 and it folds up really nicely, side rails go up/down. A pack n'play works too, I just hated putting him down and picking him up all the way on the floor when he was up/down to eat int he night. Congratulations and good luck with your babies!
K.K. answers from Chicago on April 11, 2009
I'd wait to move her to the big bed. It's easier on her--and it's easier on you if she can't get out! Either go with the bassinet for a while, then decide if she's ready to move, or buy/borrow a second crib. We found several inexpensive ones on Craigslist and bought one for our second. We didn't move our daughter out of her crib until she climbed out and made it dangerous to leave her in there. Also, it may help with sibling rivalry issues if the baby hasn't taken "her" crib. Good luck!