C.R. asks from New Britain, CT on May 16, 2008
Hey everyone. My son just had his tonsils and adenoids out a week ago. He is still crying and screaming in pain when he wakes up and when he eats anything. I was wondering if the pain should be this bad and last this long. My husband thinks he is being overly dramatic and isn't in as much pain as he seems to be. I disagree and think he really is hurting because one minute he'll be ok and then when he eats he just starts to scream and cry and hold his ears. He is on tylenol with codeine but I'm starting to worry about how much of that he takes because it is a narcotic. He also fights me on taking the meds, but I think it just tastes bad. Anyway, has anyone else's kid had pain for this long?
So What Happened?™
Wow. Thank you all so much for responding. What a wonderful group of moms! Well, we are now going on day 9 and so far so good. No meds yet today and he even ate all his breakfast. He says his throat feels better too. Hopefully this is it. Now we wait a month and go through it all again with my 22 month old.
K.C. answers from Boston on May 17, 2008
I'd definitely call the pediatrician and have him looked at, he could have developed or be developing an infection. Sounds like Dad is concerned about responding too quickly to his "drama", or he's more worried than you are and is trying to stuff it.
Either way, I'd be firm with the pediatrician, but hold back on the drama with Dad and baby, just be calm and matter of fact, best way to handle something that looks like is freaking everyone else out.
L.O. answers from Boston on May 17, 2008
My co-worker's son had this about a month ago. Her doctor told her that it will take 10 days to feel better - and not a day sooner. They told her over and over again to prepare for 10 full days of pain - AND they told her days 5 to 7 are the worst. She said it was all true.
A.C. answers from Boston on May 17, 2008
A friend of mine whose 37 had her tonsils out in Jan. she said it felt like she swallowed razor blades and hurt for 3plus weeks. Did the doctor prescribe any thing for pain? Hope your little one feels better soon.
R.C. answers from Boston on May 18, 2008
This is a good time to call the doctor. If your husband is correct, no harm. But if your son is in significant pain and it is ignored, then the healing process may be in trouble. Just organize your observations on paper first, and be sure to give an accurate description of when and how often, so the doctor's office can get the correct picture.
B. answers from Portland on May 17, 2008
My son had his tonsils out this past November when he was just 4. He was in lots of pain for a few weeks. The pain would come and go and some days were better than others. He actually was worse the second week after the surgery. He also held his ears in pain and would have a hard time eating. He would just cry out in pain saying it hurts, it hurts. Good luck. I was a very difficult time for us. It would break my heart to see him like this and the codine did not work as well as I had hoped.
J.R. answers from Boston on May 17, 2008
Not to be dramatic but you are in a very sensitive time right now where, in non-medical terms, the scabs start to come off. This is the time when you have to be really careful because bleeding can occur.
About four weeks ago, my son (5) had his tonsils removed. On day 7 he complained about the pain and we thought he was being overdramatic. We were at the dinner table and he said his throat hurt so we told him to take a sip of some water to make his throat moist. He took the water in his mouth and then pointed to his mouth. He had occassionally been doing this when he didn't want to swallow. We told him to go in our kitchen and spit out the water in the garbage. He walked from our dining room to the kitchen and screamed "There's blood!" We all came rushing around the corner to find him standing in our kitchen with blood pouring out of his mouth. Needless to say, I scooped him up in my arms, grabbed a bowl and some shoes and rushed out to the car where my husband had already put our other son in his car seat. We drove the 1/4 of a mile to our local hospital and he was rushed into the OR. The doctor said he was hemmoraghing on one side and we were fortune to get him there as quick as we did. Needless to say, it was the scariest experience and one of the saddest times outside of someone dying. Of course, my husband and I remained calm through it all and told our son everything was going to be fine and explained the process to him but once he was in surgery we broke down. We had NO IDEA that when they talk about bleeding that it could be like that- we thought it would be just a little blood. Once our son was out of the OR, my husband went back to our house (where we left all of our doors wide open) and said he was surprised by the amount of blood he cleaned up.
So, although my son's experience is not unique and although it is a small percent of children it happens to- be careful because this is the time when this bleeding happens. THe doctor's told us 7-10 days is the critical time when the bleeding happens. And, because of the second OR trip, we had to start the 2 week recovery all over again. Thankfully, our son is back to normal now. Even after the second OR trip, his throat started feeling better around day 10 from the original surgery.
If you have any concerns, I'd see your doctor.
B.S. answers from Boston on May 17, 2008
my son just had that procedure a couple months ago. It was so sad to see him in such pain, but it has made a difference. He was in pain for the entire 10 days. (He didn't like the taste of the meds either.) WHen the perscription ran out, in fact, I had it refilled because there were still moments of pain. I only used it a couple more times and then moved on to motrin and then suddenly he was back to normal.
He had sleep apnea before and always sounded like he had a stuffy nose and was sick a lot. So far all of these things have been much much better.
good luck! go with your gut.
M.B. answers from Boston on May 17, 2008
They say that 10 days of pain or so is normal. I was fortunate enough that my daughter experienced almost no pain after. She had her T&A, as well as tubes ion her ears in the morning and was home eating scrambled eggs that afternon. I recognize this is not normal because I had mine out at 17 and remember being in a lot of pain for 3 or 4 days. Mine also didn't seem as severe as what they tell you to expect.
The best course is to call his Dr if you feel like his pain level is questionable.
M.L. answers from Boston on May 18, 2008
My son had that procedure done last summer and I have to tell you the 6th, 7th, and 8th day after the procedure was the worst for my son. He screamed out of pain when he ate or drank anything. It is very normal because the scabs on the tonsils are really rough and anything touching them makes it painful. Good luck. I feel your pain!
T.F. answers from New London on May 17, 2008
I just had my tonsils and adenoids out 2 years ago and it was the worst experience of my life. I know it is supposed to be worse in adults, but if his pain is half bad as mine was he is probably really hurting. I had to take my pain medicine every 3 1/2 hours for two weeks without skipping, otherwise the pain was unbearable (I have three kids too, I know pain) I had bought stuff to make milkshakes, soup etc. and after the surgery I could only drink water and that was extremely painful, I choked down some pedialyte popsicles about three days later but it was a good two weeks before I was able to handle food and even then it was just really soft rolls (I made the mistake of trying applesauce, ouch!) My doctor said that it is really like having a large burn in your throat (that's why you get the "death breath") I had the best luck when I ate about 30 minutes after taking my pain medicine and only ate extremely bland soft foods (NO MILK!, it felt like fire going down.) The good news is, after about three weeks I was completely healed overnight and back to eating normally, even buffalo sauce. Hang in there, kids heal fast and he will be back to normal before you know it.