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Toddler Constipation -- Help!

Hi there,

Thanks in advance for any personal experience you can share. Our little girl is 1 1/2 years old and has awful constipation. We've been trying to treat it for months, but it's not gotten much better and it's to the point where she always holds her poops and cries, "NOOOOO!, NOOOOO!" when she has to go. It's breaking my heart to see her suffer, I feel so helpless, and I know it is something we have to get under control before potty training time.

Months ago we cut out all rice, bananas, apples, carrots, and potatoes from her diet. She eats very little dairy (except for yogurt) and mostly whole grains, beans, veggies and fruits that are high in fiber. She still breastfeeds about 5 times a day and we offer her water and juice all the time, but she doesn't drink very much.

We've taken her to the pediatrician who put her on something similar to Miralax (we can't get that brand where we live, but I'm told it's the same thing), but she's been on it for months and she is still often constipated.

Recently we've been seeing a different pediatrician who supposedly specializes in constipation. He had us give our daughter enemas for three days in a row to get any lingering stools out and give her colon a chance to shrink if it was stretched out, and then give her a high dose of the Miralax-type medicine. We did this about two weeks ago, and it was absolutely traumatizing for her. After that things went pretty smoothly for a week or so, but now she's constipated again!

I guess I'm wondering what has worked for you if your little one has had a similar problem? It seems like we need to understand the cause of the constipation so we can keep it for reoccurring since the medicine isn't doing the trick, anyone have a clue? I've read that dairy might be the culprit, but both pediatricians seem to think that's not the case. Before we introduced solid foods she did have an allergy to dairy that she was exposed to from my breast milk, but she seemed to have grown out of that. And it had the opposite effect, really runny stools.

Also, she isn't eating very well. Can chronic constipation cause that?

Thanks again for any suggestions!

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Wow, thank you SO much for all of your replies! So many suggestions, thank you. I am trying to get an appointment with a specialist ASAP to get to the bottom of this (hah, no pun intended!).
Not getting enough fluids might be one problem, but what can I do besides offer her liquids constantly? And to reply to some of your questions, we are actually living in Rome, Italy... that's why we can't get Miralax or some of the other products you've suggested. Thanks again!

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Hi again, I wanted to update my report of what happened after going to the specialist. So, he said the problem was in getting the stools out, just at the end of the digestive system. This means that she should NOT eat a lot of bran, etc. that just makes the poop bulkier and harder to get out. If the problem was that it was moving through the system too slowly (that happens in adults, not young children as much), then bran would be helpful. He also said that she could eat pretty much everything (including rice, carrots, potatoes, which we had eliminated from her diet) except for bananas, for the same reason -- those foods might slow down the process up higher, but her problem is in getting the poops out the door.

He prescribed a different kind of medicine, the main active ingredient is "macrogol 4000", whatever that is! And a cream for her little bum hole (to be applied morning and night) that numbs and soothes the area a bit so it won't be so painful for stools to pass.

I hope this isn't too much information! But it has helped so far, so if any other mothers can benefit from this advice, I want to share it! We've had several stools with no pain in the past few days! That is a huge improvement from crying and holding/pushing for an hour or so...

One more thing the specialist said, he looked at her rear end and said it was really red and fissured from pushing/holding stools. I didn't know! I had never looked that closely in someone's pants, and the pediatricians never actually looked or didn't know that what they were seeing was abnormally irritated (which really annoys me). He went so far as to say that after looking at her carefully that she might also have a food allergy. He said to follow his prescribed treatment and we'll see in 2 weeks how things have improved. She had a dairy allergy when she was a baby, so it could be that again, but showing in a different way.

Okay, that is most certainly more information that anyone needs. Hope it is helpful for someone! Thank you again for all of your help and support.

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Both my sons had constipation at some point in their first 2 years and my oldest was on something like Miralax and it did nothing for him. I started to feed him (Gerber) prunes. He thought it was better than chocolate! He was one small container a day for weeks to get him regular. If that didn't seem to work, I uped it to two (never more than that, just in case). He must have been on prunes for months (3-6). I would stop every once in a while to see how he was and if he was not regular, back to prunes. At 3.5, he's doing fine now.

You have gotten lots of responses. My thoughts: get a referral to a pediatric GI specialist. The peds GI has a level of knowledge that most peds do not have. The specialist can help with different tests or suggestions. Worked wonders for us.

This is so simple but sometimes we overlook the simple things. Does she drink enough water? Last year I had horrible constipation (and my breast milk dried up). My husband pointed out that I hardly drank any water. I started drinking a lot of water and my constipation went away and my breast milk came back. The doctor had been prescribing stool softeners and fiber etc, but the water was what did the trick. Good luck.

N.

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Both my sons had constipation at some point in their first 2 years and my oldest was on something like Miralax and it did nothing for him. I started to feed him (Gerber) prunes. He thought it was better than chocolate! He was one small container a day for weeks to get him regular. If that didn't seem to work, I uped it to two (never more than that, just in case). He must have been on prunes for months (3-6). I would stop every once in a while to see how he was and if he was not regular, back to prunes. At 3.5, he's doing fine now.

My son experienced the same thing. He was on and off consitpated until about 4 yrs. old when he finally was able to go on his own. It was the worst between 6 months - 2yrs. then the doctors finally started listening to what I was saying.

You will need to change your diet as well. (If you haven't already) b/c you are breastfeeding her. And whatever your eating can make her constipated too. You may want to talk to your doctor about increasing her dosage of Mirilax. When my son was on it the doctor said that if the dosage wasn't working we could up it, but the standard dosage worked for my son.

My son drank nothing but prune juice and lots of water. I would increase her water/juice intake and decrease the amount of milk. 5 times nursing a day is a lot for a 1-1/2 yr. old. There is a certan amount of milk kids should have, but with consitpation I had to limit my son to 3 cups max. 24 oz. a day. I weaned my son at 12 months and then put him on whole milk, which caused even more constipation, so I took him off of cow's milk and put him on soy. Once he was on soy he could drink more milk and was able to go. He was on mirilax as well.

What could be happening now, which happened with my son, was that he was scared to go b/c it hurt so bad in past to go, so he was making himself get constipated by not going when he had to. We had to work with him rub his back and sit with him to get him to go. Once he started having more pleasant experiences with his stool, then he was able to go and not make himself constipated.

He has been off mirilax since 4-1/2 (now 6), but I keep the prescritption up just in case, he is back on cows milk 1% or 2% (no whole milk). I limit his milk intake to 1-2 cups max. I make sure he gets lots of fruits/veggies, he's not a big meat eater anyway, and the good thing that came out of all of this is he loves water. He will prefer to drink water over anything else which is so good b/c most kids now a days are soda driven.

Good Luck, and I hope my experience can help you in anyway.

Flax seeds!

My two girls didn't have problems, but a good friend of theirs did. They tried everything, medications, specialists, etc. It was a problem from day one with this one. They gave up on medications as the side effects were nasty. They went to a local health food store and came home with some sort of ground flax seed. I forget what it was. One bit of that mixed into something daily was the end of the problem.

Dr. Sears has some details on flax oil and other natural remedies for constipation at:

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/8/T081100.asp

Hope things improve!

L.

Hi H.,
My son who will be 6 in a few weeks has been constipated since he was born. We had tried everything the doctor suggested. The only thing that works for him is mineral oil. I would put it in his bottle/cup when he was a baby and when he got older I put it in his breakfast cereal. He was getting it every day and if we missed a day he felt the "pain".
Now we're down to every few days.
I hope this helps because as moms we feel so helpless when our little ones are in pain.

T.

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This is so simple but sometimes we overlook the simple things. Does she drink enough water? Last year I had horrible constipation (and my breast milk dried up). My husband pointed out that I hardly drank any water. I started drinking a lot of water and my constipation went away and my breast milk came back. The doctor had been prescribing stool softeners and fiber etc, but the water was what did the trick. Good luck.

N.

Hi H.,

That sounds terribly traumatizing for all of you; my heartfelt sympathies. Is your daughter taking any kind of childrens vitamin supplement? If she is, the iron in the supplement could be the problem.

I regularly fed my kids oatmeal when they were little. Not too much sugar (brown sugar, honey, or maple syrup) and just plain organic rolled oats from the bulk aisle; I cooked them through and served them to my kids before our daily routine cause I've seen what they feed them at school. In your daughter's case leave out the milk or butter, etc and maybe add a bit of bran and some almond or grapeseed oil on top. Not a lot; maybe about a quarter to half a teaspoon to help lube her digestive tract. Oats are an excellent way to cleanse the system and they have a truly magical softening effect on skin and the digestive system. It has to be a regular item on the diet for her, I'm sure, until her system adjusts to the changes she must be experiencing. If the regular rolled oats are not quite the trick, try the steel cut oats; those might work better for her. However they're prepared though, oats will work; just stay away from the processed kind of oatmeal in the packet.

Her problem might also be a reaction to what she may be experiencing on a developmental level involving her mind and emotions. If your work schedule is really busy or there is a lot of activity or emotional tension of some sort it could be affecting her digestive system. Ask yourself if she's learning a lot of new things right now. Even stuff we as adults might take for granted, ie. colors, shapes, new words, etc. could be putting pressure on her mind and emotions.

Another thing, my hobby is astrology. I'm not a licensed astrologer or anything but, at the moment, the sign of Virgo is experiencing Saturn, the planet of boundaries and restrictions in its sign. Saturn also isn't the easiest planet on anyone. I'm not sure if that's necessarily helpful to you but it tells me a lot since your daughter is a September baby. The end of August and most of the month of September is the sign of virgo. I'm not sure if your baby is a virgo but I was married to a Virgo for awhile and he always got stomachaches or digestive problems when he was feeling pressure for whatever reason.

A slowdown in routine is probably needed. Anything where she feels pressured to expand or learn something new should probably be put on hold until after this spring and summer. I would focus on creating and maintaining a healthy balance and tuning into her body cues very carefully for any signs of discomfort or tension, whether it's emotional or mental. If you notice her becoming nervous or tense for whatever reason, slow down and quietly and calmly direct the situation back into a more relaxed feeling.

She could probably benefit very much from a slow, even dull routine with plenty of clear boundary identification. Tell her no, gently and often when she's doing something she shouldn't be doing. Gently tell her what the rules and expectations are; not necessarily with the intention of 100% expectation of her following the rules but more as a therapeutic type of exercise for her mind and emotions. Virgo is a very intellectually oriented type of astrological sign and they have a tendency towards a bit of nervousness about responsibilities and expectations. They usually don't like making mistakes or doing the wrong thing. Even if your daughter is an early Libra she will still have some Virgo influence on her personality.

So good luck. Being constipated is very uncomfortable and your little one has my sympathy. I hope she feels better soon.

Sincerely,
-M

Hi H.! I am so sorry for your struggles. It sounds like it has been 1 step forward and 2 back. My son has had a few problems here and there, but now he takes a liquid supplement, as well as I do, and it keeps things moving just fine.

It sounds like she isn't getting enough fiber or water. If she likes apples, I would certainly get them back in her diet unless she has a specific allergy. Apples are a whole food and have a lot of fiber so that could improve things pretty simply. Stay away from the cheese and cheese its. Actually processed foods in general will back us up. Perhaps when you have her sit down and eat, have her drink some water before she gets started and give her measured amounts so you know she is getting the proper amount. Children are about 75% water and toddlers need between 24 and 36 ounces of water per day. Of course, the juice your giving her counts if it is not too high in sugar.

Good luck.

M. S.

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