A.B. asks from Mount Vernon, MO on January 12, 2007
Thoughts on Hair color...and School...
I have always been "a little different", in a sense that I am not your regular "abercrombie and fitch" type of mom. I have an unusual style. When I was younger, I dyed my hair alot and it has been natural for about 5 years now. I have been wanting to dye it a funky color again. I am just worried about my daughter's school will think bad, or differently of me. I am a good mom, I just like to change things alot. I don't want her getting harrassed. I know how kids can be. But on the other hand, I don't think that it is anyones business, but my own. I wonder what everyones thought were on this and how they would react.
So What Happened?™
I could not believe the responses! It actually gave me the reassurance I was looking for. I just checked it for the first time today, and I had 21 responses. All of them encouraging. I have not done it yet, but I made my list of "things to do" tomorrow and getting my hair done is on it. I did ask my daughter, and she said that she wants it to be blue and purple( my favorite colors.) So we will see how it turns out tomorrow:) Thanks everyone!!!! :o)
E.T. answers from Columbia on January 16, 2007
I'm 25 and have a fve year old too. I usually don't dress like any of the other mom's either. I dye my hair red and have tatoos and piercings. I get some looks from parents, but my daughter's friends seem to think I'm alright. And most importantly my kid loves me just the way i am. SOmetimes she thinks what i do is cool or funny sometimes she doesn't really dig the kind of music I listen to or asks me about my wierd earings, but bottom line is she loves me and it totally doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. ~Liz
T.M. answers from St. Louis on January 16, 2007
I have managed to refrain from dying my hair but just because of my job. I have tattoos though and plan on getting A LOT more. I know a lot of tattooed, pierced, mohawked mommas. Its not about appearance its about being a loving,caring, responsible mommy. Yeah other parents and teachers will look at you differently but do you really care? If they are that closed minded then they arent living life to its fullest. While as you obviously have a creative fun loving side. I bet you have an amazing relationship with your child and in the end isnt that what really matters? And as far as other kids go I bet they will think youre just "so totally cool".
S.H. answers from Tulsa on January 17, 2007
Go for it girl. We're all a different. Your child at this age will probably love it. Now when she's older that's a different story.
M.M. answers from Kansas City on January 15, 2007
Trust me when I say I know exactly how you feel! Beleive it or not my hubby does too! Hee hee :) But to answer your question, if your worried about what the school thinks~do what I do. Go with a burgundy color. You get the purple tones but its not over the top, but still gives you an edgy and funky look.
N.W. answers from Kansas City on January 16, 2007
I'm a 27 year old "Abercrombie and Fitch" type of mom and have always been this way. However, one of the best friends I ever had was just like you - she'd die her hair every color in the rainbow (using Kool-Aid) but she was a wonderful person. You may get some stares or some snide comments from a couple mothers but I think that teaching your daughter that she should never care what others think is a wonderful lesson and one for which she will be forever grateful.
As a side note, do you have any tattoos? This is something I've struggled with for years - I can't seem to take that leap!
M.H. answers from Tulsa on January 15, 2007
Unfotunately people do make an opinion on peoples apperance. However, it's your decision...your daughters only five. It will much more likely effect her in her pre-teen/teen years.
I think as long as it isn't something trashy looking, it's no big deal. I think when we do have kids we do have to consider the effects on them and keep it classy. There are tons of different ways to change your hair and appearance that doesn't say "I'm a weird-O"!!!
J.E. answers from Kansas City on January 16, 2007
Be who you are! If you like funky hair, go for it! When she is older she will understand and appreciate individuality. It also encourages her to be who she really is also. We were not put on this earth to follow a "abercrombie & fitch" model.
D.H. answers from Kansas City on January 17, 2007
I totally agree with the kind of person you may be and would say the same for myself... I dyed my hair every color of the rainbow and kept it all short and spikey for years... for the last five years though I have been letting it grow naturaly. I sometimes have the urge to go dye it a deep mahogany cherry color... or pitch black! Or cut it all off again and wear it in a pixie style... I dont though... simply because I remember how long it took to get my hair the way it is now... long, beautiful and natural. I also think of it this way... one day - when I start going grey... I will probably start dyeing it again to cover the grey... and dyeing ruins your hair -so I might as well wait until I really have to start dyeing my hair before I go and mess up what took so long to obtain. ~But thats just my opinion... I think if you want to do something different just do it! Maybe you can find a really cool color that is still somewhat "conservative" - just a little spunky! Good luck!
B.S. answers from Topeka on January 15, 2007
I am the same way as you are, my hair has been natural for about 3-4 years but I am getting tired of it. In this situation who cares what other people think. As long as you are a good parent, your kids are taken care of no one has any business to say anything. People are always going to judge other people, but if you are yourself and you are truly happy with yourself who cares what anyone else thinks. As far as your daughter goes just sit her down and ask her if it will embarass her or make her feel weird in any way, if she says it won't then do it, if she says yes it will then I would hold off for a little while or maybe just do a little part that you can't really see so she can adjust to it a little at a time.