Thinking of a 2Nd child...advise..opinions Needed

I didn't find it difficult at all going from 1 to 2. A little more work but not that much and nothing new. I was much older than you, 34 with my first and 37 with my second child. Now at 41, I am dating someone who wants more kids and I think it would be fine. I think the first is honestly the hardest adjustment. Once you know what you are doing adding more isn't so hard. Now I can only speak to having two. I have no idea if going to 3 or more would get significantly more difficult. But I doubt it, my kids are 4 and 7 now and they are fairly independent, meaning they use the potty/feed them selves, buckle their own car seats, walk well in stores, etc. So now that they are older I would have the time. My daughter was 2 and a half when I had my son. She was old enough that she wasn't a baby anymore. It did cut down on time with her, but in the end she has a brother, and they play together all the time. It was so worth it.

If you both really want a 2nd, then go for it! There will never be the "right" time. My daughter is 6 and I have been wanting a 2nd for a while. Hubby wants one too, but I guess not as badly. He wants all kinds of things done first (like finishing projects around the house we bought this year). But it's not like there will NEVER be something going on that might be better for it to be finished before having a baby.

From everything I have read here on Mamapedia, you won't regret having the baby! It will be worth it, just like the first one :)

Maybe plan your wedding first? {{{{Ducks again}}}

Sorry, Im dizzy.

Pragmatically speaking:

Do you have enough income to increase your household costs? The pregnancy/birth; getting baby on someone's insurance; additional child care costs (?)/staying home with kiddos, additional food when they are older, as well as academics/extras? Are you planning on putting money aside for the kiddos college/continuing ed funds? Will you need to move, modify your house, or get a different car? All very real things to consider...

Do you have the temperament/desire for another child? Kristen W is right in saying two is more than double the work...it is a very big adjustment, because now you have two kids who want to interact with you in two entirely different ways right at the same time. A lot.

Do you have the support you need outside of the house? Something to consider.

Lastly, and always a good thing to think about: how strong is your relationship with your significant other? Consider talking to someone about helping to 'babyproof' your own relationship (couples counselor, maybe). When I was a nanny, families with one child tended to be calmer... usually, the first year after having a second child, both parents seemed a bit shell-shocked because that first year or two, there is no down time without hiring someone. So, keep in mind that the adjustment is profound, but years down the line, it could be a lot of fun, too.

Well...2 is twice the work and twice the cost. Period.
It's also MUCH harder than with 1 (IMO), and you don't get any downtime (like if your son naps right now...).

That said...they entertain each other.
And just like with the first, you fall into a flow and routine.
My two are pretty good with each other, and the little one just idolizes her big brother! (2 and 4)

It's a change, but no more of an adjustment than you made having the first.

As far as time goes, you'll find special time with each child. We take each for special days out, and every day, we have cuddle time with each kiddo by themselves.

I felt the same as you. We did it. It's all so worth it. You can't imagine life w/o the second one! Your heart only grows. It's the most natural thing in the world. It's good for your child to have to share you-it won't harm him. Your son will learn patience, sharing and never have to be alone. And in my experience you still have plenty opportunities for quality time with each when there are two. It's just lovely to have two...
Also, the second is independent more quickly bc they want to do everything the older one does so from about 6 mo on they will already be starting to play together. It will make your heart want to burst when your son does something silly and plays the clown for the baby and the baby laughs hysterically. It's the best.
There is an adjustment as you figure out how to juggle two in everyday life like errands and stuff but after a few months I was fine. A big bonus is if you have parent/in-lawsister/friend support to get a break now and then when the baby is still very little and you are still adjusting.

My boyfriend & I are going to start trying for our 2nd baby next month and the same questions are going through my head too! But I'm 35 and I don't want to wait too much longer and I definitely want my son to have a sibling. So we are jumping in with both feet. I say go for it!

I have 8 and 1-2 was the hardest in the sense it took some time to find my groove. Once you find your groove it's really not that bad. If it wasn't possible there would be a whole lot of only children out there, just keep that in mind ;)

As for cost....I didn't see a huge difference. sure it was a little more expensive, but not break the bank expensive.

I didn't find it too hard going from 1 to 2, except for my bout of post-partum depression. Other than that, it was "been there done that". My older daughter was 3 when my younger daughter was born. It wasn't hard taking the two of them places. I stayed home for the first year though.

I have 2 kids,less than a year apart. Does it have challenges?! Of course, the younger one has surpassed the older one in certain areas. I have a 4.5 yr old, 3.5 yr old and almost 9 month old. Is it crazy/nuts, hell yes BUT I'm used to chaos. Kids have to learn patience, especially when I'm feeding baby. It's tough but crazy enough to get used too.

Two is more than twice the work of having one. Way more in the first several years at least. I never imagined how much more work a second would be.

However, the second is slightly less cost than the first in the beginning, as long as you can reuse infant stuff and some clothes. (Either hope for the same gender or I hope you didn't buy all gender-specific items.)

Don't have a second child for a companion for your first child. In the end, the first might be just as happy (or happier) as an only. But, if YOU really want a second, then you should dive in.

I just had my 2nd child 6months ago, and I just turned 29 and my husband just turned 36. So your far from old! My son is 6 years old and I think it was perfect for us becuase hes very independent and understood that he wouldn't be center of attention. I did forget about the sleepless nights though! Ouch! We take our kids everywhere with us, and it's not much more work. Money wise the only added expense in our case is diapers/wipes, and of course dr visits. But even thats not a burden on us, just depends on your financials. As for time with your other child my husband and I Each take our son out one sat a month for a special lunch date...just the 2 of us so our son still gets his time. Not to mention like I said we take our kids everywhere. Heck we go to one of the Disney parks at least 1time a month and if we can go that with a 6year old and a 6 month old the store is no issue...

well definatly at least have two... Im pregnant with my first, before I got pregnant I wanted at least 5, but I HATE being pregnant I stay hot and sick ect. all the time, but what if something happens to you and the dad?(hopefully this will not happen) Your kid would need a sibling to help get thru everything, when they go to school there not all alone they entertain each other when they get a little older, and they will have a best friend for life. Im not saying that right now is the best time, only you can know that, but if you feel ready then go for it, and plus it can take a while to get pregnant.

I have two and found the newborn stuff so much easier the second time around. Good luck :)

2 isn't that tough. 3 is when it starts to get harder. Of course, this is all relatively speaking, as even having 1 kid isn't easy compared to none.

Well I found my 2nd to be much easier than my first, as I was not all freaked out over every issue. Yes you have to do the baby stage again but it's kind of fun doing with with your older one and seeing him enjoy his new sibling. I really enjoyed having two. It's was 3 that pushed me over the edge LOL it's annoying to drag 3 everywhere. Then again I am 41 and you are 28 - huge difference in our energy levels I bet :)

You will never have "enough" money, time, patience etc for another kid LOL If you both want another child, and know that you will love that baby and enjoy all the moments between yourselves and your current child with the new baby...of course do it.
I have a teenager, then we have a four year old. When we decided to have our 3rd baby I was TERRIFIED. My son at the time was going through a horrible stage of throwing fits, and being impossible to take out anywhere etc. But very quicky I saw that it was going to be ok. You adapt, you learn new routines and methods to get through each day.
Fast forward almost 2 years and I CANNOT imagine our little guy not being here! Him and his brother absolutely adore each other. I tear up nearly every time I catch them running around laughing together, looking at a book together, playing in the dirt, chasing a toad through the yard...
It's amazing! Yes there were hard times. There always is. But I wouldn't change our decision to have our last one for a billion dollars! It's great for kids to have a companion to grow up with!
I say go for it :)

Do it now. I had only one and finally regret it.