I am so sorry to hear about your year. My husband has been out of work for 9 months. I was out of work since May, got a job in November, but just heard today that my last day will be Jan. 7th. These are hard times, indeed. I just keep reminding myself that this too shall pass.
I am so happy that you have a new baby to bring you fresh joy. Every time a negative, depressing thought comes to mind, immediately replace it with a positive thought. I know how often the depressing thoughts can come! It is easy to dwell on the negatives, but I am getting better at replacing those negative thoughts.
Also, I read that someone did a survey once of hundreds of men and every single one said that they prefer their wife to some other model or actress because it was the love and respect of their wife that they want the most. I'm sure you married a decent man and he misses being intimate with you. It's not what you look like, but how you treat your husband. Be sure to tell him how much you appreciate him being willing to stay home and take care of things at home. I tell my husband that we are doing okay because he has been a good provider for all these years and that I know he will be hired soon. He needs to know that I love him and respect him even though he isn't bringing in a paycheck. He has had times when he gets depressed but I continue to tell him what I appreciate about him. I love it when he cleans and especially when he makes dinner (I don't enjoy cooking.) When you feel like you are just passing in the night, make sure that the "pass" is an affectionate one. He needs to know that you want to be intimate with him and that you haven't lost your desire because he isn't working. That is probably his biggest fear right now. Men need to know that we are attracted to them.
Don't look in the mirror if you can help it. Just start today eating better. Instead of depriving yourself of something unhealthy, just go ahead and have a little tiny piece. Then you won't be tempted to binge. Go online and look up healthy menus and find some new recipes. Get your endorphins going by taking the kids out for a walk in their stroller. Enjoy our beautiful weather here and see the joy in your kids as they see the world outside. Ask your husband to join you.
You can make things better! You can rekindle the fire between you and your husband. You can start eating better and walking more - ask your husband to help you. If you give him specifics, he will be happy to assist. Work together - that's what marriage is all about. Some day you will look back on these days and feel so victorious that you survived the storm. Your marriage will be so much stronger and you will all be so much happier.
I am excited that you reached out for help and that you have the chance to improve your life. There will be peaks and valleys, but with your family by your side, you will be able to do it. You have so much to live for! God bless you!