T.M. asks from Cheyenne, WY on December 08, 2006
Hi I am having problems explaining to my soon to be husband that the epidural is not that bad i have had it once before with my first child and i would like to have it again when i have my next child on monday... well he doesnt want me to because he has lots of friends that have had problems with the epidural... does anyone know how to explain to him that its gonna be ok also he has this big fear that im going to be paralized by this.... does anyone know what the odds of someone getting paralized by this is.... someone please help.
C.N. answers from Omaha on December 08, 2006
I am not exactly sure of the statistics but I just had a baby in June and the risk is so minimal that they hardly mention it anymore. I will pray for you, that he can accept that you NEED it, and for him, to gain the understanding that his friends were in the minority. Good Luck and CONGRATULATIONS!!! What a wonderful Christmas gift.
Here is a different website that shows you a picture and tells you the side effects. It doesn't even mention paralysis. http://www.mjbovo.com/Epidural.htm This site is good too. http://www.healing-arts.org/mehl-madrona/mmepidural.htm Again no mention of it. The most common side effect is a drop in your blood pressure, but the nurses are aware and know what to do.
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E.H. answers from Des Moines on December 09, 2006
M.S. answers from Sioux City on December 09, 2006
Prior to the epidural you have chances to ask the anesthesiologist any questions about it and what risks are involved. This is the perfect chance for your husband to get all the facts. I have had it with all 6 of the babies I delivered. They were all single births, so I had it 6 times. I am still up and walking around.
L.B. answers from Sioux Falls on December 09, 2006
webMD.com is a great web site and also talk with your doctor about it. The main thing, though, to remind him is that there is a risk with everything in life, including getting pregnant in the first place. If we are going to be afraid of everything, then nothing can get done. Right? I had epidurals with 2 of my kids and never had a problem with them. I didnt with my third one only because I hate needles and couldnt do it a third time. If that doesnt help, then grab his bottom lip and pull it over the top of his head. I am told this is a great way of explain how pain childbirth is. LOL
H.J. answers from Pocatello on December 09, 2006
First off...good luck and congratulations!!
I have had two epidurals...two c-sections. I was soooo scared the first time. But it is scary and no one should ever go into something without research. I was lucky enough to know my anastisalogist (family friend) He explained everything and walked me thru it all. I was so thankful to him. Meet your's and have your husband talk to him. Millions of people have this done daily... how many people do you know who have been injured from it? And keep in mind it is easy for people to say don't do it..when they don't have to.
Best wishes- H.
A. answers from Omaha on December 09, 2006
I am a Nurse Anesthetist and place epidurals regularly (Unfortunately I do not do OB due to my schedule). However the risk of paralysis is lower than 0.1% because the placement of the needle is below the level of the spinal cord and the catheter is outside the spinal canal. There are risks of nerve injury, still below 1% that usually resolve within 4-6 months (pregnancy/labor itself can actually have a higher risk of nerve injury due to positioning during long labors). Risks to the baby are minimal at worst because the local anesthesia cannot cross the placenta due to it's molecular size. Narcotics will have some scant cross but the doses used these days are so low that one would not be able to subjectively tell a baby born to a mother with or without an epidural.
You are at risk of getting a headache if during placement, the needle punctures the dura (outer layer of the spinal canal where the spinal fluid bathes the cord) but that risk is less than 5% (and even lower in the hands of a 'seasoned' provider). They are a nuisance to a new mother, but not life threatening and relatively easy to treat.
Recent research has shown that the risk of prolonging labor is false and patients actually have shortened labors when an epidural is placed. Now OB's often don't require women to reach a certain dilitation (usually 4cm historically) before they will allow patients to receive an epidural. Not all epidurals work perfectly, but most work well and patients are grateful for the pain relief. Unfortunately, its the ones that didn't work well that everyone talks about.
I just wanted you to have the facts from a person who actually knows and places epidurals. Ask your husband whether he would be willing to have a tooth pulled without anesthesia. In my book, labor is no different than surgery. We wouldn't think of performing some procedure on someone without trying to make them as comfortable as possible. Natural is fine if that is your wish, but if not the TRUE risks are so low for labor epidurals so why should labor be treated any different?
S.B. answers from Cheyenne on December 09, 2006
I had epidural myself when i had my baby girl, never had any problems nor heard anyone being paralized from it.
A.B. answers from Lincoln on December 11, 2006
I am pretty sure that it is you that is going to give birth and you going throught the pain!! So unless your husband is feeling the pain then there is no reason that he should have a say!!
On the other hand I know that it is scary!! So have the dr come in early in labor so your husband can ask the questions that he needs to ask to feel better.
Good luck and Congrats