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Test for ADD or ADHD?

How do they test children for add or adhd? He is very disruptive and defiant at school and here at home. He is in the 6th grade and may have to repeat this grade again, just because he wont do his work or is put in ISS, which puts him behind in classes. I do not think meds is the answer, what can we do with him if he is add, adhd, without meds?

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I want to thank everyone for thier replys to our ordeal. All the help and advice is wonderful and I will keep in mind of all the advice. I have had him tested by a doctor. But that doctor didn't think Justin was add or adhd. We all have been in counseling, and it went pretty well. But, my son continues to act up and withdraw at times. He refuses to play in any sports or do other extra stuff at school. He is on a IEP plan at school and some of his class work is modified. Half of his 5th grade yr he was sent to Youth and Family Services, he did class work on his level there. He really started acting up there too. He hated it. He said he felt like a freak there. He had to prove he could do his work and behave so he could go back to public school, and he did it. He went back to do the rest of 5th grade, he did get into trouble a few times. Trouble as in refusing to read, write and class work, etc. He would bully and pick fights on the play ground. So he was kept in side in the office during recess. He would walk out of his class room and staff or a teacher would find him hiding or roaming the halls. I had that school calling me everyday. Now it's the middle school calling non stop.

We are very active in our native american heritage. And he refuses to have anything to do with that. He even says he's not native american. He will not take responsiablity in his bad behavior. We resently caught him trying to steal at a local store. We of course made him put back the $10 item; he was grounded before the insident, so we were at a loss on what else to do with him. I wanted to take him back into the store and have him tell a worker that he tried to steal from the store, but my husband asked me not to. I beleive that he has stolen before, because he knew he needed to remove the item from the package to get through the front doors.

I am having a hard time with all of the problems that we face with him. It seems like I have tried everything to get through to him. Doctors, mental health, IEP plans, behavior plans at school. Nothing seems to work.

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I have a son that was diagnosed at 16 with ADHD. Changing diet makes a tremendous difference. Take away sugar in any form. Add more vegetables. Eat lean meats, and berry fruits or green apples. They have less sugar. No caffeine or sodas. Drink plenty of filtered water. Supplement with Artic cod liver oil and whole food vitamins and valerian root.

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The test they use is a whole bunch of questions they ask you the parent and then they decide from that.

Changing their diet helps sometimes. Watch what he eats and how reacts after he has eaten that food. Sometimes certain food will trigger certain types of actions.

S. jane

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P.,
My 10 year old was diagnosed when she was in the 2nd grade. The school requested that I take her to a child phychologist to have her tested. The school refered me to that Doctor.What the teacher wanted to happen was have my child on meds, (the easy fix), but it did not go that way. Yes, my little girl was diagnosed but she was so high functioning and was making A's in school that the Dr said meds were not necessary. The Dr wrote out a "plan" for the school to follow. I was very skeptical about my child having "a plan" and being labeled special needs. But the 504 plan really helped her. Its a legal plan that each teacher has to follow by law to help the student succeed. The school counselor helps write up the plan, then there is a meeting with counselor, teacher, and parent, papers are signed. Now sometimes teachers really dont like the plan. It means that they have to do some things a little different than they are use to....a little extra work. And the parent needs to take on the responsibility of educator also. We as parents have to follow up on this plan. Everyone working together to help the student to help him suceed.
You might also need family counseling to get you out of the rut of negative behavior. Children seek attention even if its negative attention. We get use to the behavior and expect it, therefor reenforcing the problem. It may take awhile to get out of that loop. We all have to change to expect change. Being a boy isnt easy. Being a child is tough. At his age I would think that you would involve him in each step of this planning process so that he feels in control. This is all about him and he needs to feel that he has a say so or he wont go along with it.

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Patty, Nutrition is a huge factor for children with the tendency for ADD or ADHD. This is not something I teach you in a simple email but if you would like to know more, my office has some nutrition classes coming up that are free and open to the public. Call ###-###-#### and ask to talk to Wendy and let her know Dr.White told you to call. She'll make sure that we have a space for you in the class.

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I recommend reading The Kid-Friendly ADHD and Autism Cookbook. It just might change your life; and his... It is a quick read.

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My 12 yr old was on ADD meds for a while but we researched a took her off. Make sure he gets PLENTY of protein, omega 3, magnesium and zinc. Strictly limit salt, sugar, additives, caffeine and transfats. This should eventually help at least some. We also got lucky enough that her 5th great teacher is a victim of ADD and knows how to deal with her. she does much better with hands on teaching than lectures. And any lesson has to very brief and broken into segments. she can only handle one instruction at a time. Do go ahead and get the evaluation ( it requires a pediatrician and a psycologist or psychiatrist and the school counselor - start there and they will guide you the rest of the way.) but once you have the diagnosis the child will then have an IEP from which the teachers can adjust their teaching strategies.

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I am under the impression that nationally your school is responsible for testing your child for learning problems, it may not be what you suspect. Speak to his teacher and or school guidance counselor about this. If you get nowhere, speak to your pediatrician. Look into why he will not do his work or why he is put in ISS. If you live close to a university, you can seek help there. He may just need some tutoring, has this gone on his entire school career or has it just materialized this year. There is a reason for this....change in family life, change in school, something that has happened you may not be aware of. Good luck, at his age this does need to be addressed now before it goes any further. Good luck to both of you.

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Congratulations on wanting to work with your son instead of medicate a problem away!

Life is so tough for kids, esp. in our hurry-up world. Try some family-style changes first. Whether he's ADD/ADHD or not, he'll benefit.

1. Turn off the TV. Cut out as much of it as you can. Model a learning-focused household by reading, too. Seeing you interested in reading and learning will make it less of an isolating chore for him. Not watching TV, himself, will also help him develop the skill of thinking in a more dedicated, involved way, and on more difficult things (TV is easy - it just washes over you; by comparison, everything else seems harder. This has had a huge impact on people's capacities and probably creates or exacerbates a lot of ADD/ADHD out there - check out Marie Winn's The Plug-in Drug).

2. Get involved in his homework. Maybe he has hit some bumps in the road and is fearing failure. This also shows him that you are not just some slave-driver; you're his ally, and schoolwork is not a punishment, it is an exploration and a way to develop great skills that he will need throughout life.

3. Be positive about it. Make learning its own reward. Let him follow some of his interests, where his schoolwork will allow it, so that he can see the enjoyment of learning. Take some weekend trips to places where he can learn about what he's interested in.

4. Most people could benefit from counseling. Try some family counseling, or counseling for him, to make sure he gets a chance to express and work through any issues he or the family is coming up against. It might be depression (which in boys is usually expressed as anger/defiance).

If he is diagnosed with ADD/ADHD (or depression, or a mood disorder), try neurofeedback. It's a non-invasive way to get the brain to work optimally.

Good luck!
L.

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Andrea,

You are smart to ask for advice about ADD/ADHD. Plese do not believe all of the lies that the media and random internet sources tells us about ADD. (90% of all internet sites that are negative about medication are produced by the Church of Scientology).

Unfortunately I believed all of what people told me without getting the true scientific data. I am ADD/ADHD. Thankfully someone got through to me, I started taking medication and I can't believe the difference. It is truly great to know how "real" people think.

The first thing that you will need to know is that people who don't have ADD can have no clue about how it feels to be ADD/ADDHD. They think that you can just eat better nutritionally, or discipline better, or "snap out of it", or some other home remedy.

What people don't understand and I didn't either, is that ADD is a chemical imbalance at the synaptic level in the brain and it is genetic. It is not caused by any outside sources.

An ADD person's brain cycles dopamine and norepinephrine too fast at the synapse. This causes inattention, distractibility, unexplained out-bursts or impulsivity, which has outcomes, that are below average scholastically (but not always), socially shunned, and generally viewed as having a lower intelligence than their peers. However, the vast majority of ADD people have higher IQ's than their peers. By using proper medicine, they can attain their IQ quotient. Without medicine, they are often viewed as an inconvenience.

I hope that you decide to have him "tested" for ADD/ADHD. Your pediatrician can give you the forms for you, your spouse, and his teacher to fill out. You will also want to know that not every pediatrician really understands ADD, so not all of them will give you good advice or start your child out on the right medication.

This past fall, my daughter (who has tested with a 'gifted' IQ) went through the testing with Dr. Lillian Israel (great Dr.!). Dr. Israel did the right thing in starting my daughter on Concerta (she had to learn to swallow pills and I can help you with this too :-)).

Concerta is the medication that the Harvard Researchers on ADD always reccommend as the first medicine to try. It is basically time released Ritalin. Ritalin is a drug that has been used since the 1930's so we know that it is safe to use.

The only other drug that has been proven to work on ADD has an amphetamine base, which increases side effects and can be addictive.

We found that Concerta has little to no side effects and is totally non addictive.

For my daughter, we started her on a low dose and then increased it until we found the level that helped her the best. We even learned that her dosages would increase through the first year or 2 as her body adjusts to metabolizing it.

The results have been amazing for my daughter! She is SO proud of herself! She is making 100's on tests! She can spell when she had a hard time before. She now has the patience to sound words out. She isn't a zombie, if anything; she is a better daughter because she doesn't talk incessantly about nothing in particular just to be talking.

I hope this helps,
K. B.

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Hello,
My nephew is adhd. It took a long time for my sister to have him tested. Have you talked with your son's teachers? Alot of times they will see something we as parents don't. The next thing to do is see your child's doctor. The Doctor will have to refer you to the right person to do the testing if they think this is the issue. It is a long process but it would be worth it to find out if this is the problem. There are several support groups on line you might check out. I understand that you would not want to put you child on the meds for adhd/add, some people are able to manage their adhd with diet. I know this is upsetting and hard to deal with but, if it will help your child learn and be succesful in life then it is well worth the process to see what is going on. I hope this helps. Good luck.

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The #1 thing you'll hear all of the time with ADD/ADHD is to never let it become an excuse. I lived with ADD my whole life without getting medicated and really struggled to get B's and C's in most stuff. Not because I wasn't intelligent or not learning anything, I just would only get 1/2 of my work finished or zone during tests and do terrible during tests. My mom just did her best to help me work my hiney off to overcome my problems while my brother sat back, played 24/7, never studied and made straight A's. ADHD kids are a little harder to deal with because they're "noticed" a lot more because of their behavior where us ADD kids would just wonder in our minds and get lost in the crowd. They have more discipline problems. My son's a classic case and gets it straight from his Daddy. If you don't want to medicate (which I don't want to do, either), than life is tough because you have to work VERY hard to break through them, and it's easy to just blame everything on their ADHD and let it be their excuse, which you just CAN'T do if you're not medicating because you HAVE to teach them to deal with life in a civil manner and to "take control" of their disorder. I don't know exactly how that's done or how my mother-in-law did it, but it's possible. I know a lot of great moms doing this, but I'm just now really dealing with it myself. I took my son out of public school and started homeschooling him because I felt that's all I could do with him at this point (He's 2 grade levels above his Kindergarten class...got that from his Daddy too, and it's NOT a very easy combination to deal with) since he was just bouncing off the walls and had become way too destructive. It's actually been helping my son a lot just because I can get back to the basics with discipline and obedience, help him learn in ways that he needs with ADHD and have the extra attention that they crave and need.

As far as school goes, there's not a lot that will/can be done for you with the past. My mother's a 7th grade teacher (I used to work at the school where she taught and have a little history with this) and deals with that all of the time. At the most they'll work with you to decide what will be expected of him, but he'll still have work that will have to be completed just maybe not as much (but it won't help for past assignments and grades). Since they usually require students to do school work in ISS, they probably won't do much about that, either, but I'm not sure...it just really depends on the state, the school system and the individual administrators at the school.

You're school counselor should tell you where and how to get him tested and help you with their policies for everything. You're laws or rules might be better (hopefully not worse) than what we've had around here. I'd definitely talk to the counselors, though, that's what they're there for...exactly.

Good Luck,
K.

SAHM of 4 (6, 5, 3, & 9mths)

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