M., Have you tried separating and containing him when the fit starts. Try a pack and play in a room apart from everyone else. Explain, if you are going to have a fit, you can do it here. When you are done, we will talk about what you need. If he doesn't have an audience the fit is less likely to continue. I watched a friends child for about a year and we realized the most important thing was to have the consequences the same at both places. They were gracious enough to accept my plan since I was with him more, although we did discuss it. He is old enough to begin to put together cause and effect, ie: if I have a fit, I am separated and do not get what I want!! It may be WWIII for a bit, but he will get it!!